Alright – so today we’ve got the honor of introducing you to Sigalit Heby. We think you’ll enjoy our conversation, we’ve shared it below.
Sigalit, looking forward to hearing all of your stories today. It’s always helpful to hear about times when someone’s had to take a risk – how did they think through the decision, why did they take the risk, and what ended up happening. We’d love to hear about a risk you’ve taken.
My life story begins when I was four and a half years old, on the day my father, God blessed is memory , he was killed on his way to the army. He was only twenty-four years old and had just begun his officers’ course. At the time.
I didn’t truly understand what just happened … I simply grew up in a reality where every year I found myself visiting the cemetery washing his headstone with water looking at it and don’t understand what I’m doing there…
My dear mother was left alone with three small children: myself at 4.5, my brother at a year and a half, and my sister, who was only eight months old.
She had no idea what she will do next…
Nearly six years would pass before I decided to leave home at the age of ten to move to a kibbutz in the Northern Negev, despite my mother’s wishes. Following my time at the kibbutz, which was far from easy, I went on to serve in the military in the Signal Corps of the 162nd Division.
Years went by… and then, a chance encounter in Israel with a childhood friend who was visiting his family changed everything…
He invited me to a visit in florida where he lives,
Within two months, I decided to leave Israel with 2 suitcases & $2000 for the United States Florida thinking This was the new beginning of my life,
during that time i found myself proposing to my partner due to social pressure to have children.
Fast forward…. a year after we got married in Israel and right after we got back to Florida to start our new life….
Life as life brought ups and downs…
We brought four children into the world: two boys and twin girls… and After 18 years of marriage, we decided to “gently” get divorce. It goes without saying that the divorce was very difficult for me and my children; we found ourselves starting over from scratch, with no help of friends and family that was very far a way.
During the next ten years, between 2015 and 2025, I went through a very difficult decade. However, it was during this time that I began to love myself and learn my true value of my self in this world.
During these ten years, my two sons came to me and shared that they had decided to transition and be as women.
It’s hard for me to say, but it was really Took me by surprised, and shocked to know that my two son become to be trans, I was not prepare for it, I felt like somebody hit me so hard in my stomach that I could barely breathe, I couldn’t stop crying I didn’t understand why it happened and why it’s happened to me. In this point, I ask my boys when it’s all star trying to understand what happened. Did I did something wrong? Does it have something to do with me?
you need to understand …. I’m old-school woman that’s coming from the days when we got Tv black and white we play outside I couldn’t understand them… or what made them do it …After long nights of crying i understand just what happened & I realize this not my journey this is their journey this is their life I cannot change it they chose it
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From where I’m coming from as a orthodox Jewish woman it was very hard to explain to my Rabbai what’s going and why my two boys chose that way.
After long nights I decide to love and except them for who they are, and hoping that they choose me to be part of their journey no matter what life brings on them.
From this moment on I’ve become to be part of the journey in a good way on top of what it was like hard on me I choose to put all my opinion aside and try to make there life easier which means going shopping with them for a new clothes listen to there problems….. and just be there for them…
After all this are my children and I love them no matter what the decided to be ♥️
To Real Estate , It came after a long journey of being in the fashion industry over 30 years, loving every moment of dressing up customers, and make them feel good about themselve, and give them a lot of self-confident….
When corona came it left no choice to people to shop online and that industry of fashion boutique become to be less and less, and is that moment after few years of struggling ….. I decided that it’s time to go to different directions….
My big risk came at the age of 52 years old with bills to pay and 4 children that trying to figure out what to do next and and with no money on the side, I quit my job in a fashion boutique and pursuing a new journey in real estate. I found myself in real estate thinking that is soon as I finish my course and complete it, I will be ready for real estate challenge. What a big surprise was for me to learning a new language … it was extremely hard of me because I need to translate it from English to Hebrew from Hebrew to English and then again from English to English …. Thinking it’s gonna be so easy for me to find a houses to sell and make lots of money…. reality check came very quickly… immediately I realize that’s it’s far from being easy .
I actually need to open a new business with absolutely no clue how to start what to do where to go and who to ask.
In that moment I understand that i have to find a job. I have to bring income. Otherwise, I can’t pay my bills. In this point, I’m finding a job in one of the biggest temple in Fort Lauderdale as a project manager .
As time go by … I see there is opening for CIPS course I decided to go and take it on top of the high cost for this course … not understand what I’m doing.
In this course I get to meet many interesting people…. and between them my teacher Neal that was amazing teacher to all of us.
If to be honest I do not know why I choose taking this course why do I need to know more about global real estate … but here im talking to you and hopeing somehow to help many women or man in my place.
On a beautiful note, I’m not regretting anything I did , I love my children the way the are…. we have open relationship that I thought we will ever have… I have a wonderful partner, which is truly trying the best to give me all the support he can to us.
maybe my story is sound like hard and difficult but there is so many good and positive point … this parts of me talking to you now and telling my story I’m hoping that if there is One person that I can help I feel complete it will make me very happy 🙏”
We’d love to hear a story of resilience from your journey.
One of the stories that illustrate my resilience through my life was the moment that I realized that I lost my father to the Army in that moment I try to make place in the world no matter what and in my heart and in my soul I feel like I need to fight everything and everyone that come towards me and have a thought to decide for me what to do how to do and when to do.
At the age of 10 years old I decide to leave home no matter what my mom think about it and start my own Journey and that’s where everything began….
We often hear about learning lessons – but just as important is unlearning lessons. Have you ever had to unlearn a lesson?
The lesson that I had to unlearn …
that you never ever can buy happiness …
Years will pass by before I will understand that in order for you to be complete,to be happy you have to put yourself first, you have to love yourself and accept yourself for who you are less judgment .. and more love ❤️
Contact Info:
- Website: https://sigalithebyhomes.com
- Instagram: sigalithrealtor
Image Credits
All the pictures are mine.
Thank you so much ♥️