We’re excited to introduce you to the always interesting and insightful ShaeisLove . We hope you’ll enjoy our conversation with ShaeisLove below.

Hi ShaeisLove , thanks for joining us today. We’d love to hear the backstory behind a risk you’ve taken – whether big or small, walk us through what it was like and how it ultimately turned out.

Taking a risk for me was the day I decided to no longer live in fear of being a Sex Educator publicly. I can recount the hundreds of conversations I’ve had over the last decade and a half with my peers, both men and women from across the sexual spectrum. Those conversations were so powerful and impactful, because I was able to learn about the nuances of people, relationships, sexuality, and the way society and our upbringing shapes our belief system.

The reason why being a sex educator was risky for me, was because I knew hearing the word sex for most people solicits a certain response especially coming from a woman of color. However, for myself, it is the beginning of a conversation that reveals who a person is at their core.

I took the risk because I knew that my heart was in it, and that I had a passion for people, talking to them, understanding them, and then sharing the things that I have learned with other people so they can know that they’re not alone. This could be someone who’s healing from sexual trauma. This could be someone who is deciding to abstain from sex and needs a support system in a world that will tell them somethings wrong with them, and for the people who are just questioning what it’s like to safely explore their sexuality. I knew that I had a particular set of skills as a communicator and someone who had the passion to make people feel like they were heard and understood.

As of now I can confidently say that the work has been an experience, I have been able to help women feel more confident and comfortable in their sexuality and participating in an act that we share with our counterparts, and also know that it’s OK for us to be present in these moments. I’ve also been able to give a perspective on healthy communication between men and women via many of my online discussions.

What I enjoy most about my work is being the example of healthy communication where men can know what it looks like, when a woman feels safe, and for women how she’s able to communicate in a way that is clearly understood that could translate from not only inside the bedroom, but outside of the bedroom as well .

Communication, love, and intimacy, our vital key parts, and our romantic relationships between men and women but somehow we lack the focus to cultivate those spaces because we are often times operating out of what we can receive instead of an experience that we could share with someone. So in my work, I emphasize creating those spaces for your self, for friends, loved ones, and for your overall well-being and environment. Once you master your mind, you can cultivate say spaces that you can share with the people around you and that is the mission of my work.

As always, we appreciate you sharing your insights and we’ve got a few more questions for you, but before we get to all of that can you take a minute to introduce yourself and give our readers some of your back background and context?

Hi, my name is Shae. I am a Sex Educator health and wellness coach. I’ll provide coaching services to people who are experiencing a blockage in their sex life. My areas of expertise are healing, survivors of sexual trauma, and providing long term couples with activities and tools to prioritize their love, life, intimacy, and love, making for a better bedroom experience.

What sets me apart from my peers is my background is in communications. I use a very particular set of skills that allows me to understand different communication styles to help a variation of clients. Often times people struggle to hear one another but with me as a third-party mediator, I am able to listen to what my clients need, and to help them create the outcome that they desire.

My ultimate goal with my clients are for them to have the tools and know how to use them. Everyone needs a different set or variation of tools, but my job is to make sure I’m not a crutch, but a resource for self reflection, support, and education that they can then use and apply. Growth is the ultimate goal that I have for my clients.

One of the things that I’ve done for people who are interested in my work, but you may not feel that you are in a place to take it vantage of the intimacy part of what I do, I encourage them to create those spaces for themselves, because that’s how you become a safe space for yourself that you can then share with others. I am a firm believer in home is where the heart is and you are the heart of your home so it starts with taking care of yourself and then it reflects in the environment around you, so I have a line of products that help to create an remind you that your space is a safe space for love, intimacy and growth .

Training and knowledge matter of course, but beyond that what do you think matters most in terms of succeeding in your field?

I think the most helpful thing for succeeding in my field is drowning out the noise. This field can be very challenging because it’s the thing that everyone does, but nobody wants to talk about.

Many people in the field are automatically judged even with formal education as a backing. We often times have unwanted expectations placed on us well, some people want us to be as formal as possible, others feel entitled to our dirtiest secrets and it can all be very overwhelming at times.

I’ve learned to find my balance in accepting my journey fully knowing that I will learn many things along the way but most importantly the things I learn will be the catalyst that helps hundreds and thousands of people have a healthier, happier love life.

If you could go back, would you choose the same profession, specialty, etc.?

If I had to go back; I would absolutely choose Sex Education again. It’s our start, each of our beginning. It’s so misunderstood and used as a weapon and I want nothing more than to encourage people to take joy and pleasure in the gift that brought us all together and the gift that we can all truly enjoy.

Contact Info:

• Website: www.shaedaily.com
• Instagram: @shaeislove
• Facebook: Shae Daily
• Twitter: @shaeyoneigh
• Youtube: ShaeDaily

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