We recently connected with Nicole Jeffries and have shared our conversation below.

Nicole, thanks for taking the time to share your stories with us today. What did your parents do right and how has that impacted you in your life and career?

My parents grew up in some pretty bad circumstances. When my mom was growing up. she had to move  around so often that she was never able to make friends, or to have any kind of school experience that she may actually enjoy. Because they moved so often,  she was ALWAYS the new kid.

Beside the fact that both of my parents grew up very poor, they also grew up in households with terrible abuses.

Fast forward years later after the two were married, and I was born, thankfully I grew up in a very stable, and loving home with strong roots. I was encouraged to go after any and every opportunity I was interested in; to try out new things often. Although we didn’t have tons of money, my parents made sure I was able to find ways to spread my wings and fly where ever my heart took me. I grew up feeling so loved and supported, and was able to have experiences that many people couldn’t even have dreamed of because of the support and encouragement I was given. I am incredibly grateful for all of that.

Most importantly, abuse in my home was not even a consideration, I was taught respect and compassion through my parents’ actions and love toward other people and toward myself, and I honored that in them. Keep in mind that at the time, spanking and belts were a common form of punishment for most, but not something I had to worry about. Was I a perfect kid? Nope. But I was encouraged, and I was loved, and I was taught to treat people respectfully through their actions of respect toward others, and that is what I have learned in how I treat people.

Having found out about the abuses they endured as kids, and having been taught over and over again from many sources that abuse is often repeated, I asked my mother once how she became such an amazing mom, and why she never took to any level of violence with me? This is what she told me, “Many of the decisions I made as a parent, I would ask myself, what my parents would do… and whatever answer I came up with… I did the opposite of that.”

In that moment, I realized that people CAN change their story. They can change and have control over their own fate, and I was incredibly eye-opening.

Knowing this was my first introduction to behavior, and how people can be driven by certain actions to either change their story, or to continue a cycle. She chose to change her story and break that cycle with me, and I have raised my children in the same manner. I imagine if they choose to have families of their own, they will choose this as well, and a new cycle of love continues on…

We all have stories that make us who we are, and are not able to control every circumstance, but you can take control over yourself, and when you choose love, it grows and creates even greater roots that can affect generations to come, and heal generations that came before as well in the things that you heal in you.

As always, we appreciate you sharing your insights and we’ve got a few more questions for you, but before we get to all of that can you take a minute to introduce yourself and give our readers some of your background and context?

Ever since I was young, people seemed to feel very comfortable coming to me with their own problems and concerns they were having. In fact, I had considered going to work as a psychologist while I was younger, but chose family first, and it wasn’t until after a very dramatic and traumatic shift I had in my life that I actually took the steps to start that pathway.

As a single mom, I went on to college to pursue a career in psychology. However, it was on that pathway where I also was taking personal steps toward my own healing and reflection, where I found hypnosis.

Years ago, my parents had gone to a hypnotist to stop smoking, and it always stuck in my head as something mystical and fascinating, but what stuck in there most of all was how much it worked for my parents who were very heavy smokers at the time toward stopping the habit all together.

On my own path to self-discovery I tried all sorts of traditional methods, and none of those methods worked very well for me, Then after one of my courses mentioned hypnosis, I remembered how it had helped my parents, and imagined what it could do to help me as well. Once I started to learn more about it, and apply it to my self work, I was a super fan! FINALLY i had something that really worked, and it worked so well for me that I wanted to know what I could do to help others as well. I wanted to know more, and I began learning more and more and after getting my degree, I opened up my own practice.

For those who don’t know what hypnosis is: It’s a way to use that mind/body connection by creating an inner experience that takes the form of a hyper learning experience. You have a chance to program or reprogram your mind when you are in the subconscious state. Hypnosis gives you a way to tap in to the subconscious mind and create greater positive changes while allowing your conscious mind (that hyper analytical part of you) to step to the side and just go into a state of allowing. The process itself is very comfortable, it’s safe, it’s natural, and above all it’s very healing.

People come to me for help with all sorts of problems they are having that they’re ready to let go of. I have people who are ready to stop smoking, those who are ready to lose weight, or make healthier changes in their lives over all.

I have worked with those who are also looking for help in (not only changing behaviors), but also in helping them with things like emotional release, releasing fears and phobias, and help with spiritual healing as well.

The wonderful thing about hypnosis is that you can achieve anything you set out to achieve in that state, and working with a hypnotist directly allows you the ability to step aside and allow a very experienced guide to help guide you through your own process, especially since people aren’t ready sure what to do or how to go about it by themselves, and a hypnotist can help with all of that to work with you toward the goals that you have. It’s safe, highly effective and has been scientifically proven to create changes within the centers of the brain.

A questions I get asked often about sessions :

Who is in control?

One thing may people don’t realize is that the person who has all of the control is the person in the session.

Think of if this way… If your body is the car, and the mind is the driver, YOU as the car and the driver, I (as the hypnotist) am a navigational system. Basically you give me some information about where you want to go, what your preferences are. and I make sure you get there, that you enjoy the journey, and not only that…. as a hypnotist, I know the and speak the language of the mind as well. If at anytime you feel like you need to pump on the brake, or we end up needing to go a different direction, then we simply redirect.

Hypnosis is not a magic button, but it can feel very magical. It is a process that safely navigates you into the changes and the mindset that you are seeking.

If you could go back, would you choose the same profession, specialty, etc.?

When I was younger, I had the privilege of being able to go to a performing arts school. and I wanted so badly to be a dancer or a singer when I grew up. I loved all things creative, and got opportunities to do and create lots of different things while I was there. As I had mentioned, however, as I got older, I shifted into the idea of becoming a therapist, and helping people in that way.

Being a hypnotherapist allows me the opportunity to tap into and utilize both of those worlds, and I can’t imagine doing anything else. I get the ability to help people to help themselves and using hypnosis requires a very active imagination and also a bit of a performance type of energy as well.

I will say, however, if you had told me years ago that I would a professional hypnotist for a living, I would not have believed you, but the adult me is super thrilled that I get to do this type of work.

I work with amazing people who do amazing things, and I get to be a part of all of that; that’s the best part :).

Learning and unlearning are both critical parts of growth – can you share a story of a time when you had to unlearn a lesson?

A great lesson I had to unlearn was one where I felt that in order to help people, I needed to take it on myself, and started out taking full responsibility for my clients’ journeys. As a natural empath, I would take on a person’s energy as my own, and that began creating many problems for myself on an emotional as well as a physical level.

Somewhere along the way I heard someone mention that taking a problem from someone doesn’t help them but only robs them of an opportunity to help themselves. I learned that if you cut a butterfly out of its cocoon, that it will die, but it must find its way out on it’s own so that it can be strong for its own survival, and that really spoke to me.

What I had to learn was to protect my own energy, and to understand and that I could be empathetic to someone’s situation, and guide them through, but it was their journey, and not mine. I had to learn the line of being a guide and teacher, and that their experience what something personal to them, and a lesson that they had to learn on their own.

Having learned this, gave me a chance to set boundaries, and to learn to trust more in the process… THEIR process and whatever that is for them. Now I get to see people make incredible transformations that are even greater, and they take those lessons into their own lives and create even more wonderful changes and experiences with what they’ve learned about themselves..

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