We recently connected with Laine Allen and have shared our conversation below.

Laine, thanks for joining us, excited to have you contributing your stories and insights. We’d love to hear the backstory behind a risk you’ve taken – whether big or small, walk us through what it was like and how it ultimately turned out.

I took a big risk & left my career in a very secure government run not-for-profit because I had evolved so much in my values that working there no longer aligned to who I was. Which sounds banana bonkers considering how many people stay at jobs they don’t love for the security, for the status, or for the money.

But a huge part of me knew that if I didn’t leave, I would not stay true to the person I had worked so hard to become. It was the line in the sand moment for me. Do I want to keep working this stressful corporate gig, keep saying ‘yes man’ to the things I don’t morally agree with? Have loads of money but never get to see if I can really do what I want in this world? Or do I want to have sovereignty, more time freedom that’s going to allow me to do whatever the heck I want, whenever I feel like it, but not be as financially secure?

So I chose the second option. I left with almost no job to go to (a risk within itself!) But to me the actual act of risk comes down to the mere process of trying. I was going to try something I had never done before because I knew what the outcome would be if I didn’t try. I wouldn’t change, or improve, or grow, or evolve. And how can we move forward as a species, a community, or as an individual if we do not try? If we do not take risks?

Awesome – so before we get into the rest of our questions, can you briefly introduce yourself to our readers.

I am here to live a life that allows me to learn to love myself wholly and in my fullest expression. I know it for a fact. And it is my hope that by doing so with all my stumbles & triumphs along my merry way that I can find a community of women to do the same.

Right now, women are holding on to things from th past, anxieties of the future, physical pain, emotional traumas, societal expectations, gender pay gaps, martyrdom, the list is endless. And instead of looking inward we are externalising everything, clutching on to the next best thing or an influencers words spewing their ‘Ten Hot Tips for Living Your #bestlife’. And once we’ve got our hot tips we still wonder why we feel guilt, and shame, and depressed, and anxious, and overwhelmed, and frustrated, and angry. And we feel these feelings for weeks, months & sometimes years until we no longer want to, or no longer can. We might snap at our partners or children, or our bodies can no longer carry us, physically unable to go on, or the people we love just don’t want to be around us anymore.

I want to help women become more accepting. Accepting of their circumstance, their emotions, their bodies. Now, my version of ‘accepting’ is not to be used as an excuse to stay stagnant, no, no! It is to embrace, surrender & move forward with the powerful tool known as EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) with a focus on balancing the Primo Vascular System.
My personal experience & experience working with clients is that when you shift the emotional components, balancing the Primo Vascular System, the entire physical body can shift. This is the power & the gentleness that EFT can extend to help you release the need for external crutches, embrace the power of being your own guide & put you in the trajectory you wish your life to go.

I am so proud of the women who are willing to do this work because it can be challenging & extremely lonely to break free from generational patterns, societal expectations, judgements of others. But I can assure you, the reward on the other side is bigger & better than you could even imagine!

Other than training/knowledge, what do you think is most helpful for succeeding in your field?

Community, community, community. Community are the people who are going to support you on the days you feel like nothing is worth it. Your community is going to answer your 100-question survey because they believe in your vision. Your community is going to tell you what’s important to them. Someone in your community is going to know someone, who knows someone who can do that thing for you. Your community is going to show up for you in ways you didn’t think existed. Nurturing your community, getting to know them, allowing them to know you is one of the most beautiful things about being a one-woman-show. One of the amazing mentors in my life, Coco Dee says ‘Community is your currency’ & it’s something to live by.

We often hear about learning lessons – but just as important is unlearning lessons. Have you ever had to unlearn a lesson?

In late April 2023 I was at the Mind Heart Connect 3-day event in Melbourne, Australia. Dr. Kim D’eramo was calling people up onto the stage all day, doing very exhausting quantum work. It was 5 minutes before the lunch break & Dr. D’eramo asked the crowd ‘How willing are you to willingly live in the unknown?’ Everyone who was willing raised their hand. Then Dr. D’eramo asked ‘Who isn’t willing to live in the unknown?’ & my hand slowly made its way up. Maybe it was because I was in one of the front rows, but I felt like I was the only human in that room with my arm raised. I could feel the eyes on me, I was heating up like a roast chook in the oven on Christmas day. All I could think was ‘Surely I’m right with having some control, that’s the responsible thing to do, how can I seriously be the only person with my hand up right now?’ I was snapped out of my inner monologue when Dr. D’eramo called me to come up on stage. The. Last. Place. I wanted to be, especially so close to lunch. The lesson I learned from being up on that stage in front of hundreds of others for what felt like an eternity (and by eternity it was probably less than 10 minutes), have changed my life. I learned to surrender to the power of the Universe and in-turn myself in that moment. I felt my whole body pull from wanting to have control in the moment, to pushing the boundary of just simply letting go. And so, I screamed at the top of my lungs, in a Melbourne auditorium, in front of all these women who I had never met. And in that moment, I learned what it truly looked and felt like to surrender & be seen.   

Contact Info:

• Website: www.eftlaine.com
• Instagram: @eft.laine
• Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/eftlaine/
• Other: Clapper: Laine Allen

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Stepha Doyle