Alright – so today we’ve got the honor of introducing you to Jamee Andelin. We think you’ll enjoy our conversation, we’ve shared it below.

Jamee, thanks for joining us, excited to have you contributing your stories and insights. Let’s start with the story of your mission. What should we know?

My mission is to help as many couples as possible delight in the wonderment that is each other. I want all women to understand their bodies, their own sexuality and what true intimacy is so they can be at peace in their sex lives. As more and more women are at peace with who they are, they come to understand and love the sexual part of themselves & they will experience a magnificent intimate life which will literally make every other part of their lives more delightful.

After being married for 10 years and having 4 children, I found myself really struggling in my sexual relationship with my husband.

My sexual desire was very low. Oftentimes, nonexistent. This caused some frustration and confusion between my husband I and my low desire was ultimately impacting our relationship and family in a negative way.

I used to make myself have sex with my husband in the hopes that this would keep our relationship good but this obligation sex was making me feel guilty and my husband felt unloved. He didn’t want me to have obligation sex to keep him happy because it wasn’t really sex that he wanted. Even though sex wasn’t really what he was ultimately asking for from me, we would still engage in the “we should be having more sex” talk/argument every few months because we were both confused about what the root cause of low sexual desire and a struggling sex life was.

The giant misunderstandings we had around a good/healthy married sex life were causing real struggles and disconnect and often times heartache in each of us personally and has a couple.

Over the years, it became very clear to me that I desired to learned how to increase my sexual desire and how to make my sex life a nonissue in my marriage. So I went to work on overcoming my sex struggles.

Now we have been married for over 20 years and our sex and intimate life is better than ever and always improving.

I overcame my sex struggles and now I help other women and couples do the same.

Awesome – so before we get into the rest of our questions, can you briefly introduce yourself to our readers.

I own a service business where I help women overcome their sex and intimacy struggles.

The motivation behind the services that I offer in my business are coming from the fact that I experienced the pain and heartache that sex issues caused me and my husband and I don’t want other women and couples to experience that pain for themselves.

I have learned for myself that suffering in my sex and intimate life was unnecessary. Sex is meant to be part of the delights of life and if I was suffering in that area of my life then I was living with some giant misunderstandings around sex, my body, intimacy & pleasure. Overcoming these giant misunderstandings, not only changed my personal life for the better, but improved my marriage more than I could have dreamed of.

I have a free podcast called Your Turned on Desire where I talk about the lessons I learned when I decided to stop avoiding sex and look forward to and enjoy sex instead. In each episode I then share how I use the same lessons to help other women do the same.

I have a couple of other free offers including a free course for men called Sexual Success for Husbands. In this course I teach men how to be successful in their marriages with their woman. A good sex life in marriage is so much more than physical, so it’s important that men understand how emotional intimacy and their relationship behaviors play into their sex lives and contribute to their sex lives being good or not. Men typically like to fix things and take action so when their sex lives are struggling, I have found that when they know what to focus on to improve their sex lives they are much more patient and understanding in the process of improving things. I believe we are always working, but if the results we are getting from the work we are doing are less than satisfying than all we need to do is change our behaviors and we will get new results. The husbands course isn’t a magic pill that husbands can enroll in and expect automatic changes. They have to be willing to take the right actions in order to experience a magnificent sex life.

I also sell a few courses specifically to women to teach them about their sexual desire and how to create an environment in their lives where sexual desire can increase. In these courses I teach them about their bodies and how their behaviors and lifestyle choices are impacting their sex lives. A good or bad sexual relationship is the fruit of our behaviors. Anyone who wants a good sex life can have one. Just like anything in life, if we want to be good at something, we just have to be willing to put in the right work.

I also offer a private coaching service for women. I have private calls with them every week and we focus on overcoming their personal struggles. This is a high end service that is personalized for each woman

What I am MOST proud of that I have created is my online program for women. My online program currently has over 90 lessons teaching women how to heal their sex lives and learn how to enjoy sex and everything in between. In the program curriculum, I help women understand why they are struggling and then I teach them how to put an end to their challenges. I also offer two live calls a week, for the women enrolled in my program, where all the women in the program gather together and I teach them lessons and we navigate through their challenges together.

I am so proud that I created this program because I wish I had something like this when I was struggling. Gathering with other women in similar situations makes each women know that they aren’t alone and they aren’t broken. And listening to the other women overcome their struggles gives us all confidence to change our own intimate lives for the better. In the program we are essentially watching each other overcome our struggles and then we encourage and celebrate each other as we make progress. It’s so wonderful to see what other women are experiencing on the other side of their struggles so that we can have an example or a vision of what we are working towards.

The way we treat each other in the program is very patient and compassionate which gives us so much hope and actually creates better results than when we feel isolated and exhausted. On our last call we had, the women said that our live calls feel like hugs to them and this warmed my heart so much.

I haven’t heard of anything like this for women who are struggling with low desire. I think what I have created is unique and offers a safe place for women to navigate their sexuality and become their own sexual authorities in their lives. Most of these women have never had the opportunity (until now) to actually deal with their sexuality and decide who they want to be as a sexual person. Most of the women in my program start out with a lot of anxieties around sex and their bodies and didn’t have a safe place where they could share their experiences and overcome struggles. So having this safe place for women to explore themselves and understand themselves brings me so much joy. Being at peace with yourself and the one you choose to go to bed with every night is the best feeling in the world and I feel honored to provide services that help women experience this peace every day.

How did you build your audience on social media?

Building an audience on social media is something I really resisted. I mean, going online to talk about my sex life felt so open and vulnerable at times and I wasn’t sure how this would be received. But I knew that if I wanted to change peoples lives, I needed to be able to reach as many people as possible and the best way to do this in the world we live in is through social media.

I have tried several different tactics for building an audience but the best way has been to talk about my own personal experience and lessons. Instead of saying: “Here is what you can do to stop sex struggles in your marriage.” I say: “Here is what I did to stop the sex struggles in my marriage.” This shift in the way I speak has essentially made me bulletproof to trolls and people wanting to argue. If I tell them what they should do, they argue with me. If I share what I did or currently do and these are my results from my ways of thinking and being, they can’t argue with that.

And I simply share what is going on in my life. I am an example of what’s possible. The way I think about social media is that it is not my job to make people ready for better sex, but to just show them possibilities.

I’m creating a vision for them of what they can look forward to or what is possible for them if they practice what I teach. To watch my stories on Instagram should feel inspiring to whoever is watching them.

I also think about social media as a way to build a good relationship with someone and a community with others. I use social media to send people to my free podcast or my other free offers. I don’t sell a lot of things on social media. Sending them to a really good free offer is called a lead magnet. And from the free offer, or lead magnet, I sell an offer that costs money.

As I keep social media social by connecting, communicating and giving, this has built a trusting relationship with real humans all over the world and then they feel comfortable to buy from me if they choose.

If I could give some advice to someone who is just starting to build their social presence on social media, I would share with them what I have learned from my own experience. I have learned that it’s hard to sell something that I don’t have evidence of in my own life. I couldn’t sell a great sex life to people if I didn’t have one myself. Having evidence of what I was selling is what gave me confidence to market my business and build a social presence.

I have also learned to be patient. Success does take time and it’s more important to build a brand that people trust than to make a sell. Just trying to get a client or sell a product doesn’t build good camaraderie with another person. And doesn’t help a business in the long term. As I have been patient and real about myself online, I have realized how easy it is to keep up and that this authenticity is what makes my business something that can be sustained in the long run.

Where do you think you get most of your clients from?

My best source of new clients for me has been my podcast. I have found that people who are willing to invest their time are also people who are willing to invest money and work/energy.

The work I do with women is not easy at all. That has made getting clients straight from social media not the best place to get clients. Most people scrolling on social media are buying from a place of wanting to be entertained and wanting a quick fix.

Anyone who is scrolling is in that mindset. That is why I have bought the weirdest creams or products when scrolling on social media!

But those who are scrolling on social media and then are led to a free download and then a free podcast and then take 20-40 minutes out of their day to listen to a podcast episode are also more likely to try out some of the skills I teach. As they start trying out the new skills, they start to notice new results and then they want to know more!

Contact Info:

• Website: Coachingwithjamee@gmail.com
• Instagram: @jameeandelin
• Podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jamee-andelin

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