We recently connected with Constance Moseley and have shared our conversation below.

Constance , thanks for joining us, excited to have you contributing your stories and insights. Often the greatest growth and the biggest wins come right after a defeat. Other times the failure serves as a lesson that’s helpful later in your journey. We’d appreciate if you could open up about a time you’ve failed

Hi my name is Constance aka Connie. This is my story of a time I failed.

Life has presented me with much adversity starting with being sexually abused at 7, raped at 12, and becoming a teen mom by 15. Back then I thought the hardest part would be telling my parents I was pregnant, boy was I wrong. .I was a 9th grader trying to figure out how to be a mom when I wasn’t even a women yet.

School became so overwhelming and I dropped out, A few years later I was pregnant again and engaged. By 22 I had 2 more children and was getting divorced. Yeah I know, the odds were heavily stacked against me. I was an uneducated, impoverished, single mom of 4..

Later I went to trade school and received my G.E.D., started working full time and doing hair as a side hustle. Hair was something I’ was passionate about. .At this point in my life, I felt like I failed myself and my children., What would our future be and how in the world would I raise 4 children alone.

But I kept going forward.

After many years of struggle and hardship, My life began to change for the good. I was introduced to the love of God which in turn gave me hope. Hope for a better future.

After 9 long single years lol, I met my husband. We’ve been together for 16 yrs and married for 14. He encouraged me to pursue a career in the hair industry. I listened and started my first Salon Divine Nature Boutique with over 25 years of self taught experience.

After our children were older,and experiencing some financial hardships, we eventually decided to close the salon to become Truckers. Then I transitioned into the Team Trucking industry. Our Trucking Business is called Constant Carriers Corp. It’s named after me.

Shortly after that we created a YouTube channel dedicated to sharing our journey with others called Married Too The Miles. We wanted people to know that your miles are your journey and you have to married to them., Committed to go through your own process. That you can overcome anything life throws at you. That with God, perseverance, resilience, dedication and hard work you can rise above any circumstance.

My motto is that whatever was meant to break you, God can use to make you, rise above it. In this life you will fail but you are not a failure.

Constance , love having you share your insights with us. Before we ask you more questions, maybe you can take a moment to introduce yourself to our readers who might have missed our earlier conversations?

My name is Constance and I got into the Team Trucking industry after having financial hardships about 7 years ago. My husband and I started to share our journey of how we became Truckers to encourage others. During that process we created a YouTube channel Married too the miles to share our life’s journey. .

In the process I began to go deeper and share my personal story of being sexually abused as a child and becoming a teen Mom at 15. I talk about my past struggles being a single mom and what I went through to encourage women like me to never give up. Although I’m married now I was once a single struggling mom of 4 small children.

I had to make ways out of no ways and lean wholeheartedly on God. There were times when I didn’t know how we were gonna make it. . I share my story on my IG platforms called Rise Above It and my personal IG The Real Connie.

I have a struggled with knowing exactly what to do in my life, my family structure was extremely dysfunctional. I didn’t know how to be a mom and raise my children. My lack of education and trauma became a huge barrier but God sent help. I’ve had amazing women come along to encourage me, my church family, my husband, mentors and friends has guided me along the way.

So I want others to know that no matter what walk of life you come from, or what you’ve been through you can still be successful in life. I am an example of that.

Learning and unlearning are both critical parts of growth – can you share a story of a time when you had to unlearn a lesson?

One of the lessons I had to unlearn is being uncomfortable doesn’t mean your in the wrong lane.

So when I started my Hair Salon it was amazing. I enjoyed styling clients hair and teaching and grooming new upcoming stylist. It was like a dream come true. It came easy and I was comfortable with it.
Then when I closed my salon and became a trucker, this was extremely uncomfortable for me. So I initially thought Trucking wasn’t for me and that I made a mistake. It wasn’t till after becoming a Trucker that notices my issues with uncomfortable moments, I was being challenged to grow. To learn something new and overcome the fears of that.

I didn’t realize how long I stayed in stagnant places because as long as it was easy, and didn’t challenge me I thought I was good. Nope.

Often it’s in the most challenging uncomfortable times when we learn ourselves, our weaknesses, our character and the areas we need to work on. That doesn’t always feel good, it’s uncomfortable.

So I had to learn how to embrace uncomfortable spaces, task, conversations, challenges because if I didn’t I wouldn’t grow.

Trucking has helped me learn behaviors that don’t benefit me and now I embrace change and it all started by being uncomfortable. So I had to unlearn that being comfortable is not it.

We’d love to hear a story of resilience from your journey.

When I was 22, I was a mom of 4, and divorcing my husband. He was battled drug addiction and didn’t work. I was still trying to figure life out, raise my children and grow as a women. I was uneducated, no money, no direction, and life was lifting.

Although I was a mom, I still was 22. There were times when I worked 2 full time jobs and both checks were gone before I go them. Between daycare, food, rent, bills, gas, car notes, we’ll you get, I was broke. I worked all day, did hair on my days off which weren’t many, and then it was Mommy duty.

Many times I wanted to give up, but my children deserved my press. They needed me and I needed them. Many times I went without eating and days with no sleep to make sure they had all they needed. Looking back I don’t know how I did it and I know that was God.

I also know that this was the time
In my life when I truly gained an understanding of resilience. How to push and move forward with the weight of the world on your back. I get teary eyed just thinking about. Many times my I cried myself to sleep just to get through the night.

If you are in a situation that seems unbearable hang in there, and keep moving forward, everyday will get you closer to your better and one day you won’t be in survival mode, you’ll be in thriving mode.

Contact Info:

• Website: www.marriedtoothemiles.com
• Instagram: https://instagram.com/the_real_connie_
• Facebook: Constance Moseley
• Youtube: @marriedtoothemiles
• Other: IG: Rise Above It IG: Married too the miles

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