We were lucky to catch up with Amalía Astin recently and have shared our conversation below.

Amalía, thanks for taking the time to share your stories with us today We’d love to hear the backstory behind a risk you’ve taken – whether big or small, walk us through what it was like and how it ultimately turned out.

During the height of Covid I used to wake up at 6am and walk this long loop in the mountains behind my childhood home. It was me, my mom and a small group of women in the neighborhood. As the youngest member of this morning cohort I took these hikes as an opportunity to receive mentorship from these women. One in particular, Cecilie, has known me forever and always gives the kindest yet truest advice. She knew how much I longed for a partner and explained that one of the biggest risks anyone will ever take in life is falling in love. Thus, to show the universe you are willing to take this leap it is important to take general risks in your life. This hit for me— I was single at the time and tired of hearing I need to “focus on myself” or in contrast “put myself out there more.” Both options felt exhausted but this, “taking risk to show your willingness to take the biggest risk of all… love” this was new.

Within the following weeks I began making a list of “risks” I had taken; within that period I experienced romantic rejection, my first broken bone, and a handful of other “failures.” Each one however felt like confirmation that I was brave, that I was trying, and that I was willing to try again! With the world still majorly shut down at this time, I was craving a bigger risk. I am a Greek citizen so my mom suggested I get myself to Greece and live there for a few months. Normally the idea of disrupting routine or going solo would not be ideal but I was on a mission to take risks and this felt like a solid one. My subsequent trip to Greece where I spent the following 5 months changed my life in ways I had not even dreamt of— I made lifelong friendships, continued to develop my practice as a healer and meet who I describe as my Greek God Mother, a woman I now consider family. All these the result of a risk, a risk that above all else gave me the confidence in myself to take more! Currently I am living in Austin Texas— I town I moved to last January on a hope, a prayer, an instinct and the number of one family friend. A town where 9 months later I can’t go anywhere without running into someone I know and love.

Amalía, before we move on to more of these sorts of questions, can you take some time to bring our readers up to speed on you and what you do?

In my work as a healing practitioner and oracle reader I imagine a world where relationships have less pressure, more importance, Divine presence and a higher purpose. As a Theta Healing Practitioner and Tarot
reader, I use the space of sessions to help clients lovingly identify and heal the things that stand in the way of their authentic self.

Instead of seeing love as the destination, we use this hunger for healthy relationships as the motivator for deeper connection with self and the Divine. In relationships we are most triggered and confronted by our own insecurities and fears. These experiences of love and loss have been the toughest and most rewarding teachers in my lifetime and yet where my greatest longings still lie.

Through ThetaHealing, I work with clients to identify the blockages and barriers they carry as we work together to de-clutter the old hurt, past trauma, and self sabotage still present. As clients become more and more free from these protective yet harmful patterns we can resource with the good stuff: be in self love, higher standards, deeper trust or greater self knowledge. I also work with people to identify where trauma is stored in the body and use parts work to heal younger versions of oneself.

With no cure-all for love, no spell or seminar to make someone want us, we must go within to shift our own capacity to give and receive this desired love. Thus, all matters of the heart must begin inside. I’m here to assist that journey. At this time I am also in the process of completing a MA in Clinical Psychology to deepen my abilities to help others (and myself).

We often hear about learning lessons – but just as important is unlearning lessons. Have you ever had to unlearn a lesson?

For a long time I thought it was my responsibility to heal others – a duty and sacrifice that I felt paramount to fulfill. A friend would complain of a headache and I would immediately start giving them Reiki in an almost panic state of servitude. I had no trust in others to withstand the discomfort of their own growth and I would continually try to carry the burden for them. Years of doing this taught me how harmful and irresponsible it is to heal others without their explicit request and willingness. Not only was in detrimental to my own health but I arrogantly thought, without me no one I loved could make it through their pain. What I have come to learn personally and professionally is that “you can’t work harder than your client” and you also have to lovingly allow others to face the consequences of their actions. This does not mean we abandon one another in a time of need. If you have a headache now and ask for a hand I am happy to assist knowing you’ve got this and I can simply be a part of, not the cause of, your healing.

If you could go back in time, do you think you would have chosen a different profession or specialty?

I feel like this healing and intuitive field chose me and with that I had little choice in the matter. If I were to go back in time I would keep doing what I am doing but allow myself more grace in the process knowing my best is plenty good enough.

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Photo of flowers on table by Leah Bury <3