When my daughter, Zara, was four she started having insecurities about her Afro-coily hair texture. She wanted her hair to look like her friends who had straight hair. It was an innocent toddler ask, as her friends that had straight hair wanted her coily hair. Kids always want what they don’t have! But as she was approaching kindergarten, there was a shift in her self-esteem and she started using words like “ugly” in reference to her cultural hairstyles. She started to withdraw and become unmotivated in school. Zara’s struggle felt familiar. I too had an incident when I was in kindergarten that caused me to also become insecure about my aesthetic. I soon learned that many Black people of all ages with curly, coily, Afro-coily hair have life experienced that cause them to have feelings of lack, self-hate, sadness and exclusion. When C.R.O.W.N. (Creating a Respectful and Open World for Natural Hair) research validated our experiences and legislation around hair discrimination became a global conversation in 2019, I became even more motivated to share our story and activate a movement to celebrate “hairitage.”

It was time to change the narrative for my daughte, heal my inner child, and acknowledge the inner child of so many. So during our hair wash days, I started to take more time to soothe Zara during the shampoo and conditioning process. As a hairstylist, I was able to educate her on the science behind textured hair and how to care for and style it. As a history enthusiast, I started researching the history behind our curly, coily, Afro-coily hair and together we celebrated how our hair connects to a bigger story-our ancestry.

I noticed an almost immediate change in Zara. She started to feel confident and express pride in the braided, twisted, and beaded styles I created each week. I realized that I could help other families to have more meaningful conversations around “hairitage”- the hair customs, traditions, practices and beliefs that are passed down from an ancestor or predecessor. I wrote a children’s book titled “Zara’s Wash Day”- a semi-autobiographical story that celebrates hairstyles of the African Diaspora. After self-publishing in 2021, the book went on to win the 2021 Writer’s Digest Self-Published Grand Prize and the door opened to visit school districts and libraries to talk about the lessons of the book. I soon began consulting with schools and beauty companies about culturally responsive content.  By 2023, I signed a two-book deal with Running Press Kids. “Zara’s Wash Day” re-releases June 4, 2024 and “Zion’s Crown,” the second book in the Know Your Hairitage series (featuring a boy main character) debuts September 10, 2024.

What is most exciting about building the Know Your Hairitage brand is that I felt so helpless in 2020, struggling to find my place in the social justice movement. Writing “Zara’s Wash Day” during that challenging time was my way of creating a celebratory message that our children needed at that time…and still do. It is a love letter to the children who suffered in isolation and a healing for generations of people who longed for a books with characters that look like them. Helping children to cultivate a lifelong love of reading by publishing inclusive stories and supporting schools in building diverse classroom libraries is something I am truly proud of. Sharing this journey with my daughter is priceless.