We caught up with the brilliant and insightful Terri Britt a few weeks ago and have shared our conversation below.

Alright, Terri thanks for taking the time to share your stories and insights with us today. We’d love to hear about a project that you’ve worked on that’s meant a lot to you.

Breaking the generational cycle of emotional chaos and inner lack so that my family and I could thrive has been the most meaningful project in my life.

I’m a wife, mom and nana. Family is the most important thing to me. But as a young mom, I really struggled. I bought into the old family paradigm that says, “Love means you must deny yourself. And it’s my job to be good and make others happy.”

This belief drove me to put myself on the backburner and perform for my family’s love. But the more I performed trying to prove my worth to them so they’d love me in return, the angrier I got.

I began to realize that my self-denial was not only causing me emotional chaos, but was also causing my family to suffer. I knew I was handing my pain to them and creating a legacy of lack. So, I stepped away from the old family paradigm and focused on loving and nurturing myself.

My whole world opened up! I found myself on a spiritual journey, learned about meditation and energetic healing, and then made it my mission to clean out the hidden beliefs that caused my emotional chaos.

My family became my teachers. Whenever I reacted to them, instead of sitting in anger and blame, I gave thanks. I knew they were amazing spirits simply playing their parts.

I let my feelings and reactions be my guides to my subconscious mind to discover the false beliefs that drove me to perform. Over time, I discovered that these hidden beliefs told me that I was unworthy of being loved simply for being me.

I had no idea that my subconscious mind believed I was unworthy of being loved, nurtured and supported! In my conscious mind I told myself that I deserved abundance, but my subconscious mind had another story. Thankfully, the more I released those hidden beliefs, the happier and more peaceful I became.

I discovered a deep connection within and to God, and realized that as I loved myself and listened to the guidance of my heart, life got easier. I began to trust that I was enough and opened up to RECEIVE more love and abundance than I had ever imagined…simply for being me.

My whole family shifted because I loved myself. No longer was I reacting and pushing my lack onto them. Instead, our home grew into more peace, balance, acceptance, forgiveness and love.

That’s when I knew that the old family paradigm of self-denial creates lack, pain and suffering. It gives us a sense of unworthiness and drives us to perform and compete in every area of our lives, not just in our homes. It teaches us that it isn’t okay to receive.

It’s very exciting now to see my kids and grandbaby thriving. My kids have wonderful, loving relationships and are very empowered. My hubby is, too. He is following his passions and dreams because I encouraged him to love himself. Our relationship is passionate and intimate because we are committed to loving ourselves unconditionally.

By healing my emotional chaos and owning my worth, I created a new thriving family paradigm and gave my family a legacy of abundance and love. THIS is my greatest project and my greatest act of service.

Great, appreciate you sharing that with us. Before we ask you to share more of your insights, can you take a moment to introduce yourself and how you got to where you are today to our readers

I am the founder of Women Leaders of Love, and I’m an intuitive spiritual coach, energetic healer, speaker, and a former television host, as well as Miss USA 1982.

I am the author of “The Enlightened Mom: A Mother’s Guide for Bringing Peace, Love & Light to Your Family’s Life,” which won Best Spiritual Book of the Year at both New York and San Francisco Book Festivals. I am also the author of “Message Sent: Retrieving the Gift of Love,” which was my journal to finding the love within, as well as my e-books, “Women Leaders of Love: How to End the #1 Massive Mistake Women Make & Unleash Your Greatest Act of Service” and “Spice It UP with Your Spouse: 5 Simple Steps for Creating Lasting, Passionate & Intimate Love…In Spite of Having Kids Around!”

I am also the co-owner with my hubby Charlie of JumpinGoat Coffee Roasters in Helen, Georgia, as well as JumpinGoat Coffee Roasters & Tasting Room in Cleveland, Georgia.

For years, I lived my life on a hamster wheel of stress and struggle. My goal was to always be the best believing that this would make me feel happy, loved and fulfilled. I didn’t realize it back then, but I truly believed that I had to prove my worth to receive love and life’s rewards. But no matter how hard I worked and no matter how many accolades I was given, nothing filled me up. I never felt enough. And I never felt loved. In other words, even though I looked like I had an amazing life, I lived in Poverty Consciousness. And, as a result, my relationships, work, money and health suffered.

Even winning Miss USA 1982 didn’t fill me up. In fact, in the moment of winning, I felt empty. And then I felt guilty. I had a boyfriend back then and believed that if I received the crown, he would suffer. There was that old rule again that said I had to deny myself to be loving. It wreaked havoc on my life.

It wasn’t until I became a wife and mom that I realized how I not only drove myself because of inner lack, but also drove my kids. I knew something had to shift.

I’m so glad I committed to loving myself! Because, when I did, not only did my family heal, but I found my gifts. I discovered that I had a great ability to see people’s blocks and help them release them. Woohoo! This led to a passion I never knew I had until I started loving myself.

For over 20 years, I’ve been coaching women to own their worth by stopping the performance and loving themselves. That’s why I felt guided to create Women Leaders of Love. It’s a global community to support women. I truly believe we women have a wonderful ability to help our world shift into more peace, love and balance as we commit to loving ourselves and break the cycle of lack. We ARE the pioneers of change for our families, communities and the world.

I love what I do! I love seeing women thrive, knowing that together we are helping our world thrive. To support them, my favorite program that I’ve created is my 6-part digital series: “The Worthiness Quotient: Claim Your Crown…Lead a Life You Love!

Your Worthiness Quotient is how open you are to receiving love, nurturing and support, simply for who you were created to be. That means no performing or trying to “get it right.” And it’s based in the vibration you emit.

Science now tells us that we are all energy and that our thoughts and feelings emit a vibration. And, because energy attracts like energy, whatever vibration you send out is what you’ll get in return.

If you continually perform trying to win love and approval, you’re actually sending out a vibration that says, “I am not enough.” That’s when your outer world often feels like punishment because it mirrors your vibration.

This is why it’s so important to clean up the hidden beliefs in your subconscious mind which runs about 95% of your life. These beliefs keep you at a LOW Worthiness Quotient which drives you to work that much harder.

But when we commit to loving ourselves unconditionally and allow our outer world and our reactions to it to take us within to release those false beliefs, we raise our WQ and attract the things we want. And because we are loving ourselves, we feel worthy and open up to receive them.

I’m so excited about this Worthiness Quotient program. It goes really deep and has 18 guided meditations to help you release the hidden beliefs that shut you down to receiving your deepest desires, whether with money, relationships, your career or your health. It is filled with all the tools and wisdom I’ve gleaned over the last 30 years. It is a step-by-step guide to help you claim your crown and shift every area of your life to abundance. You can check it out at www.terribritt.com/worthy.

If you’re wondering if you have a high or low WQ, I also created a very eye-opening quiz to help you get clear about the different areas of your life and if you’ve owned your worth in each of them. You’ll receive a report with the breakdown and some steps to help you begin to raise your worthiness. You can take The Worthiness Quotient Quiz at www.terribritt.com/quiz.

I also have created a free masterclass called, “The Worthiness Quotient,” to help people understand why we don’t receive the love, nurturing and support we desire, and how to shift it. You can check it out at www.terribritt.com/webinar.

We all want a kinder, gentler way of living. We do that when we raise our Worthiness Quotients!

I also do private coaching and energetic healing sessions, as well as have several programs to help people lead lives they love.

One of my favorite programs is a FREE weekly healing session I give called Own Your Worth Wednesdays. It’s in our private Women Leaders of Love Facebook Community. Women come from all over to ask their questions and receive coaching and healing from me. To join us, go to www.facebook.com/groups/WomenLeadersofLove.

You can check out all of my books, programs and private sessions at www.terribritt.com/store.

We often hear about learning lessons – but just as important is unlearning lessons. Have you ever had to unlearn a lesson?

I had to unlearn what putting God first meant.

I was raised that putting God first is putting yourself last. That meant shutting down my voice, suppressing my light, and living in the shadows. But this self-denial is what made me angry, sad, resentful and often feeling hopeless. It made me feel disconnected and alone, and made others God of my life. It’s what drove me to perform and was purely based in ego.

It was when I committed to loving myself unconditionally by honoring and loving the way I was created that I began to feel a deeper connection to God. That’s because I finally felt worthy of God’s love. I began to receive more love, nurturing, support and guidance than I would have ever imagined which, in turn, helped me love and accept others more. The more love I received from God and the Universe, the more I wanted to serve and be a messenger of love for others.

What do you think is the goal or mission that drives your creative journey?

My mission is to help women own their worth and love themselves so they shift into Prosperity Consciousness and become thriving examples for their families.

There is so much suffering on our planet. Everyone is living in survival mode (a.k.a. Poverty Consciousness) because we’ve been taught that love means you must deny yourself. This translates to “It’s not okay to receive.” But we have to receive to be able to give more. There has to be a balance.

Over the last several years, we have witnessed a great divide. This is purely a mirror to our mindset.

When we feel loved and nurtured from the inside out, we become whole and heal the divide within each of us. We trust that we are enough and open up to receive. Competition slips away and our hearts open up to others. We find peace, love and joy within, not needing the world to fill us up. We become messengers of compassion, forgiveness, acceptance and love.

As we women love ourselves, we set the tone for more peace and love in our families, communities and the world.

Contact Info:

• Website: www.terribritt.com
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/terri_britt/
• Facebook: https://facebook.com/womenleadersoflove
• Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/terribritt/
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/terrileabritt
• Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/user/terriamosbritt
• Other: https://facebook.com/groups/womenleadersoflove FREE Worthiness Quotient Breakthrough Bundle: https://terribritt.com/leaders The Worthiness Quotient Quiz: https://terribritt.com/quiz The Worthiness Quotient FREE Masterclass: https://terribritt.com/webinar The Worthiness Quotient Digital Program: https://terribritt.com/worthy