We caught up with the brilliant and insightful Teal Elisbeth a few weeks ago and have shared our conversation below.

Alright, Teal thanks for taking the time to share your stories and insights with us today. Can you tell us about a time where you or your team really helped a customer get an amazing result?

Yes, absolutely. This goes back to one of my very first paid clients as I was just beginning my business. I’m happy to share her story because she’s enthusiastically shared her video testimonial on my website, and it is such a beautiful thing to witness.

As a love and relationship coach, it is my mission and purpose to help women fall in love with themselves, build up their self confidence / esteem, and learn healthy relationship fundamentals to be able to attract and maintain a long lasting fulfilling relationship with their desired parter.

The biggest reason women usually are interested in hiring me is to help them “get the guy” but what I always find ends up happening is that it becomes so much more of an inward journey than it is an outward journey.

One woman came to me, very high up in her career as a real estate agent in Chicago, USA. She could check “all the boxes” on her life except a fulfilling relationship. Career, house, dog, great friends etc.

As we began to work together she shared that she’d never been able to keep a man long enough to fall in love and progress in her life – and she was getting worried because she was getting older and wanted to have children. She said men seemed intimidated of her and her success – and she didn’t know how to get them to stick around and see past the high achieving identity she held onto.

She also battled a very intense chronic disease which created a lot of troubles accepting and loving her body, and struggled with intense anxiety and depression because of it.

As we peeled back the layers in our work together, she started to uncover the deeper truth to why she was never able to get men to stick around. It all came down to a deeply held belief that “she was broken, and no man would ever want her.”

She had been subconsciously holding on to this belief for her entire life – and even though she tried to do everything to “act fun and flirty” or “cool and put together” on the outside, inside she deeply believed that no man would want her because of her condition- and this creeped into every relationship she’d been in, until working with me.

She over compensated for this by trying to achieve #allthegoals and build a life she was proud of, and she did. But it still felt empty – and it was making her feel like she was dying inside.

After going on what I call my “Soul Rebirthing” 1:1 work with me, she completely was able to shift these deep feelings of low self worth & esteem.

She stepped into a place of empowerment and acceptance of her situation, and not only begin to love herself again, but also began to take back her passion and joy for living.

She ended up fostering 2 girls and becoming the mother she’d always wanted to be -regardless of the man, and a few years later ended up meeting her dream man too, and they’ve been beautifully happy ever since.

Upon reflecting on the inner journey we went on together she said the biggest thing that I had helped her with was to realize that “she wasn’t broken” – and that her inner challenges and diseases that she had to deal with on a daily basis had no effect on the man that was there to love her. That mental shift led to a complete 180 in how she saw herself, her life, and eventually her partner.

This to me is one of so so many beautiful transformations that I take women through. Giving them back the empowerment, joy and peace in their hearts so that they can step into becoming that best version of themselves. And from that place, the relationship and dream partner naturally can bloom & fall into place.

As always, we appreciate you sharing your insights and we’ve got a few more questions for you, but before we get to all of that can you take a minute to introduce yourself and give our readers some of your back background and context?

They always say, “your mess is your message”… and for me for a long time I struggled with relationships. I fell into a pattern of what I now call “The Hook and Fizzle”.

I would “hook” men in with the allure of being independent, sassy and fun – but a few weeks or months into dating me, they would fizzle away just as I was starting to fall for them. It would leave me feeling so disheartened, questioning myself and deeply in pain from heartbreak. I would then pick myself back up and get back out there, only to have that happen over and over again.

After being in this cycle for over 8 years, I realized something had to shift. I sought out a relationship coach and began a deep inner journey of self discovery and healing, which even included going backpacking to south east asia to do a 5 day silent meditation retreat with Buddhist monks.

After healing a lot of my own inner challenges (which I had no idea were even there until I began to be more introspective) I attracted in the love of my life, and now husband- and loved the work so much that I decided to become a relationship coach myself.

I find that what sets my work a part from other coaches out there is that I play a beautiful balance between the spiritual and the tangible.

I bring in a wide variety of practices including deep subconscious reprogramming, NLP, meditation to heal trauma, hypnosis, and energetic release therapy, while also equipping my clients with the practical tools of emotional regulation, navigating conflict, releasing fear and learning how to communicate in healthy ways.

Through all of this, I support ambitious women and women with chronic anxiety to learn how to “Relax into Love” both with. themselves, and with their desired partner (and with all people in their life really).

It is my mission to help heal the hearts of this world and bring more love to the planet.

Women will come to me saying “the light within them has died”… and through our work together they reconnect back to themselves, their passion, their feminine energy and their divinity –

and from that place, they are able to become the best versions of themselves to naturally attract and maintain healthy relationships with a partner & everyone in their lives.

What I’m most proud of is just how transformative this work is every single time I welcome in a new client to work with me.
The process is the same, but the outcome and the journey of getting to that place is different for each woman – and I always love getting to witness that unfolding and unveiling.

I feel honored to be able to hold that space for women to feel safe to drop deep into their hearts (sometimes for the first time in their life) and just feel held and seen.

I love getting to be a role model for women of the type of life (and love) that is possible – As I truly believe it’s necessary to walk your talk and lead from the front in anything you teach – and I can honestly say I live an out of the box life that is full of magic and richness.

I have traveled the world with the love of my life, gotten married and now had a baby – all while navigating the challenges of difficult family stresses, pandemics, and a recession. I want to continue to be an inspiration and a guiding light for those who are lost and needing that loving presence.

I would love for you to book time with me to connect if any of this resonates <3

Can you share a story from your journey that illustrates your resilience?

Ohhh yes… Haha I’ve got a really good one. So for 4 out of 5 of the years I’ve been running my business, I was a nomadic entrepreneur with my now husband… Together we quit our corporate jobs and decided to travel the world indefinitely – building our businesses as we ate and drank our way through over 35 countries… it was truly a life changing experience.

However life on the road is not always as magical as it sounds.

I remember I was just getting started in the first few months as a new entrepreneur, and I had created the opportunity to host a free live webinar to a huge audience of potential warm clients, and I was so excited to step into the spotlight and debut myself as a love and relationship coach.

As the day got closer, we had been making our way through out Italy – and I started to get really nervous because I was trying to figure out where I was going to host this live webinar, since the wifi connection in Italy can be really unreliable.

We were on the Amalfi coast, staying in a cute little homestay with a farmer and I had everything set and ready to go. I kick off the live webinar and have over 40 women calling in from all over the world to listen in. They’re all engaging and commenting as I’m presenting and it’s all going fabulously… and then – the internet cuts off.

My entire nervous system flares up with stress as I try to get everything back online – but it’s not working… I’m thinking I’ve lost them and my entire shot at building up my reputation and converting them to clients has completely failed.

But I refused to let this take me down. Quickly thinking on my feet, I run to the host and ask him if there are any big fancy hotels in town that I could go to. He tells me of one and my husband and I grab my computer and get into a cab rushing to this hotel.

When we arrive, I ask them if I can use their internet (since I figured large fancy hotels would make sure they have more reliable internet for their high paying guests, compared with my sweet humble farmer host homestay).

They tell me that their wifi is only for paying guests and apologize for the inconvenience.

But I still can’t bare to think of just leaving all these women hanging – when they were having such a great experience, and I was feeling so passionate about delivering this to it’s fullest.

So I decide to just “stroll through the property” and end up running into a maid who tells me there’s a conference room no one ever uses that I could sneak into and use the internet for an hour and they wouldn’t say anything. They give me the code and I am SO excited and relieved. I will be able to make this work afterall!

But no sooner do I get everything set up, and email everyone that I’m able to regain connection so they can rejoin the webinar…. my computer dies – and I realize I left my charger with my husband who had gone out of the building.

Again – determined that I was NOT going to ruin this amazing professional chance to speak and connect with these women, I eagerly call my husband and beg him to “nonchalantly” make his way over to the conference room, pretending he was staying at the hotel, and bring it to me.

At this point, hours had elapsed and I was so stressed. I felt like a failure and so unprofessional, and I was so worried I had lost all these warm potential prospects who were so eager to work with me.

But I refused to let this get me down. I knew in my heart that I was determined to finish strong – even if nothing came through from this webinar to help me with my business. My husband brings me the charger, I finish the webinar (with way less attendees, but some still showed up again) and drove home exhausted.

Although I didn’t end up converting any clients from that fiasco, it was such a great learning lesson for me – and showed me the level of tenacity and grit that I had to make this business a success.

Five years later, it’s still going strong – and I am so damn proud of all the blood sweat and tears that came through this moment and many more that has allowed me to get to where I am today.

How about pivoting – can you share the story of a time you’ve had to pivot?

Yes definitely. This happened just last year actually, when I found out that I was pregnant.

Up until then, I had been pushing HARD to grow and scale my company. I was working 10 -12 hour days most days to keep all the parts of my business running… ads, web design, marketing, sales, coaching, retention, finances. I have been a one woman show for all of it, and it took everything I had to keep things running and moving forward.

But when I found out I was pregnant, and moving into the first trimester, I realized I just couldn’t keep up at the same pace I was used to. Everything in my body and soul was shifting from growing my external world, to growing my internal world.

I had a really rough first trimester pregnancy and it forced me to pull back and look at how I had been operating – and question the way I had been doing things. It also made me extremely nautious and I just physically didn’t have the energy to continue on.

I started to wonder how I was going to continue – and the deep fear of scarcity and lack started rearing it’s nasty head. It filled my mind with horrible thoughts of “you’re going to run out of money and end up on the streets with your new baby”… and “you’re never going to be able to get this business to support you for the long term”… filling me with anxiety and dread.

There were days when I wanted to shut down everything and just give up.

I tried sending out resumes to look for other jobs, but no one was hiring. I was beginning to feel desperate and unsure of how I was going to make things work. My husband was in school – and not bringing in much money to support us so it was truly my income that we were living off of.

I knew I couldn’t keep being an inspiring life coach if I wasn’t feeling 100% my best, and I didn’t want to bring that energy into my company – so I knew something needed to shift.

So, I took a massive pivot, and walked into a local breakfast cafe, handed them my resume and they hired me on the spot.

For the next 5 months until I had my baby, I worked part time as a waitress, while still allowing myself to work on the business as I felt inspired and able to – and honestly it was the best decision I could have made.

It took off the financial pressure and deep stress of how we were going to support ourselves – and brought back the FUN to my business again.

What I realized in hindsight was that the way I had been operating my business up until then was unsustainable and completely draining me. Since then, I have now adopted new strategies and delegation so that I can continue to work part time in the business now having my baby, and still keep things running smoothly and growing beautifully – without needing to kill myself with long hours in the process.

Although my ego had to take a big hit to let go of the over working and “go be a waitress”… it has been the most important pivot and adjustment that my business has gone through and I’m so grateful that I followed through on this.

I now feel I’m able to be fully present as a momma, while making big impact to the clients I support, AND have the space to play with new ideas for future businesses and hobbies. I realize now that I needed to take a step OUT of the business to see the bigger picture and make the necessary adjustments to scale sustainably.

My new mantra for life – everything must be “sustainable, not drainable”.

Contact Info:

• Website: https://www.tealelisabeth.com/
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• Other: Sign up for a free meditation to rebuild self love and self worth so you can “Relax into Love” here: https://www.tealelisabeth.com/meditations Get your Love Life Accelerator Roadmap & Guidebook here: https://www.tealelisabeth.com/accelerator Book time to connect with Teal personally for a free 30 minute love breakthrough session here: https://calendly.com/tealeriege/freecall