We were lucky to catch up with Shanel Ramsarran recently and have shared our conversation below.

Shanel, thanks for joining us, excited to have you contributing your stories and insights. How did you come up with the idea for your business?

Experience and time helped prepare me for the Idea God gave me. I believe there was a purpose for our lives from the moment we were conceived. I have a purpose to help others and endured specific trials and tribulations to understand my calling. These trials would consist of a lot of pain. I would be devalued, abandoned, stripped, and Judged, and I would be broken down only to be built up by God now carrying this knowledge and understanding needed to succeed in walking in God’s purpose for my life.

When the Idea was downloaded to me, I had already been through my worst fear, and through the most unbearable, excruciating pain, and I was very much still dealing with it, plus added loss, problems, and situations. I felt very lost, but at the same time, I always had this sense that there is a purpose, and now I understand I was hearing God’s voice.

Preparation was the key here because I could only help others if prepared. This pain had a purpose.
When I was only a few months old, I lost my father to gun violence, and this was also an impacting part of my journey. Not having a father led me into a cycle of looking for love in men, and in my search, this placed me into the cycle of Narcissistic abuse and also revealed my abandonment issues.

My mother was a musician and always on the road, which left me and my siblings in the care of my grandmother, who eventually passed from cancer in 2010. After this, everything seemed downhill for me. I say seemingly because, again, my pain had a purpose. I spent the next few years just hurt, confused and in relationships that God didn’t send, and negative cycles just kept repeating.

I had two experiences with NPD abuse, but In my second experience with Narcissistic Abuse, I was delivering food; I was so stressed, confused, broken, and hurt but was focusing on making money for my son and me when all of a sudden I had a vision of all that God has in store for me and how he wanted me to help others. I was like, wait, what? I had to stop my car. I said, “What was that!?” and remembered feeling emotional, Confused, scared, and excited. There were so many emotions, but it was a download from God, and I had never had anything like that happen. I then decided and planned to bring the vision of my business, “Me’back,” to reality.

When God gives you a vision for a business, there is always a positive purpose. The purpose of my business is to help spread awareness, help other abuse victims get themselves back, and encourage self-care and love while building a relationship with Jesus. As far as solving a problem that no one else is solving, I understand that there are so many people who are in the kingdom business of helping Victims and survivors of Narcissistic abuse. I wouldn’t have known about Narcissistic abuse if there weren’t people coming forward to tell their stories. I can name a few people whose videos have helped me on my journey. Their knowledge blew my mind and helped me understand what I was dealing with and that I wasn’t alone because I felt like I was going crazy.

My approach is not only to educate but to create peaceful smell-good environments with my candles, get your body in shape with my workout routine and wear, get back healthy after NPD abuse with my healthy eating book that I am working on, prayer, etc. Candles cannot take your pain away, only God can do that. My candles are created to spread awareness; there is no power in candles but who doesn’t love a really great scented candle? What excites me the most is being able to connect with and help others on the journey of healing. I’m excited about all the testimonies and how close people got to God.

My approach is helping victims get closer to God, and getting healthy physically, and mentally. I know how hard it is. I detail my whole story in my book ” On the Way Home,” That will be released before the end of 2024.

Shanel, before we move on to more of these sorts of questions, can you take some time to bring our readers up to speed on you and what you do?

God first gave me a vision for candle-making for victims of Narcissistic abuse. I believe God told me that my business would be known for peace, empathy, love, forgiveness, and healing from the inside out.

My business is called ” Me’back,” and it’s all in the name. It’s my purpose to help you find yourself again and be all that God intended you to be, to encourage and motivate you, and to help you understand just how strong you are. Me’back is all about healing and thriving, not just surviving but really living in God’s purpose for your life, and his purpose is for you to be happy.

I create essential oil candles. They  give off a very soothing, peaceful aroma, which is nice to have in your no-contact journey. It is extremely hard for victims of NPD abuse to make the no-contact decision.
I also sell workout wear and also working on a healthy eating book, which I am excited about.

One thing that makes me proud is listening to God and having the courage to speak up and walk in his purpose for my life. I was never like that, and being the only one in my family who speaks about God. the odds were against me. There are always so many obstacles thrown at me to stop me; even though I may come out with bruises, bandages, and Scars, I still persevere. What sets me apart is that my entire business is dedicated to victims and survivors of Narcissistic abuse. My candles, Workout wear, My healthy eating book, My personal book “ On the way home” are all dedicated, and so much more to come. I am not only helping victims spiritually, physically, and mentally, but they are also helping me because my journey continues. I must say I don’t see businesses only dedicated to victims and survivors of NPD abuse, and candle-making specifically for victims of NPD abuse, which is an excellent idea for the healing stage because candles are so soothing!

We’d love to hear a story of resilience from your journey.

Not only have I been through one Narcissistic abusive relationship, but I’ve experienced two. The second one was so abusive, and the gaslighting was so severe that I could have completely forgotten about the first experience. The gaslighting from Narcissistic abuse can literally give you brain damage, victims start to forget things, and NPD abuse can make you sick. I was ill a lot, and the gaslighting began to affect me. I would start to notice that my previous experience was fading in the background. I would quickly forget certain things, and I would pray to God not to let me forget because I knew I might need that knowledge someday to help others. I believe staying in prayer helped save my mind because NPD abuse can make you lose it.

Through all of the abuse, physical, emotional, verbal, spiritual, and psychological, I could have laid down and let the abusers win by keeping my mouth shut and not becoming the woman God intends me to be; I could have believed the lies when I was told ” You are trash” You are nothing ” You are a bum” you are worthless” You are stupid” You will never be successful “You cant help others” Still, I did the complete opposite, and I believe that’s what makes me resilient.

Can you open up about how you funded your business?

We now know that God downloaded my business idea, and we know that I was driving delivery, but I was struggling so much financially, and my son was a toddler; I had no support. I lost family and friends after and while dealing with NPD abuse and again broke financially, so I remember asking God, “How am I going to fund my business?” I prayed and heard God tell me to look on the Facebook marketplace. I looked, and a woman closed her business and had hundreds of candle jars, essential oils, natural wax to make hundreds of candles, a candle-making pot, and tools. There was everything I needed to start my business. I messaged her, and she gave me everything for $100. I saved hundreds of dollars that I didn’t have. I remember crying and thanking her and God. God is so funny because the woman who sold me the candles had my family’s maiden name. I remember calling my mother and telling her what God did for me. God then made a way for me to come up with the money to pay for my LLC and a team to take care of my legal paperwork. I was so happy and full and thankful to God and the woman he used to bless me.

Contact Info:

• Website: meback.bigcartel.com
• Instagram: @MEBACK.LLC