We caught up with the brilliant and insightful Ruby Le a few weeks ago and have shared our conversation below.

Hi Ruby , thanks for joining us today. Can you share a customer success story with us?

The most rewarding feeling in my line of work is being able to see my clients re-gain hope, confidence in themselves, recognition they deserve and can get the love , and then…finding that love they thought was once impossible. I’ve had a 40 year old who has never been on a date, never been kissed, 5’5′, a minority, and bald. He’s had years with very few dates (those dates leading to rejection) and online dating constantly beating him down. He came to me because he knew it was impossible for him to find love, but he wanted to give it one last shot by doing something he’s never done — hiring a dating coach. We did our program together and when he left my program, there wasn’t high traction of dates by that time. However…he left happy. There was this newfound confidence and hope in him. He may not have met someone during our time, but he felt strong and excited to continue to use the strategies I taught him. One year later….he emails me to tell me he’s engaged and thanks me for all I’ve taught him. He proceeds to send me a picture of their wedding day after. To know I’ve helped at all in the gift of love is incredibly rewarding and powerful.

Great, appreciate you sharing that with us. Before we ask you to share more of your insights, can you take a moment to introduce yourself and how you got to where you are today to our readers

I’m an Asian female “hitch” aka dating coach for the good guys at www.goodgentleman.com . In this difficult modern day World of dating, I help the good-intentioned gentleman, the guys who are unseen, build confidence, feel hopeful, and get on a date through a customized strategy that doesn’t require them to change who they are.

I was intrigued by relationships in high school, & while working in the field I grew up around kind hearted brothers who weren’t returned that kindness, and wanted to be the game changer to change the conversation on “nice guys finishing last” by building up their strengths, and getting the love they deserved. Despite my Asian parents’ disapproval throughout my years, I followed my passion anyway.

In this path, I earned my Masters in Marriage/Family therapy, am a Tedx Speaker, and previous eHarmony lead. I worked in mental health with couples, decided to make it a goal to help singles find the right person for them. After working for eHarmony, I wanted to help those I felt passionate about helping. With my positive energy, honest approach, hope, and passion, I value guiding my clients on the journey to find lasting love & happiness.

Even being thousands in school debt, taking care of my family, and being a one-woman show, I continue b/c I believe in creating more love in the World, the right kind of love, which creates more happiness. And I want the opportunity and support to help more singles. To do more.

My story: https://youtu.be/ARVnO2LbJlQ

My Links:

— My TedxTalk : https://youtu.be/4PGoy-spWiA
— Tiny Empires episode (learn more about my background, how I got here, my family values, and see how I work with an actual client): https://youtu.be/ARVnO2LbJlQ
— My youtube channel: https://youtube.com/rubyloveadvice

How about pivoting – can you share the story of a time you’ve had to pivot?

My whole journey is about pivoting. I’d like to think I knew myself and knew exactly what I wanted to do, but that’s not the case. I knew since I was in high school that I wanted to work with relationships, I was always fascinated by dating & relationship dynamics. I earned my Masters in Marriage/Family therapy, thinking being a couples therapist was my destiny. Then, after working as a couples therapist, I realized I wasn’t making that much of a difference…..first, I realized I fit more of a coaching personality than a therapist (I’m more about action and results). Secondly, I realized…the couples i saw, they shouldn’t have been together in the first place. So, that’s when I thought to myself “what if I helped singles…find the right person for them? Id’ be adding more happiness and love into the World this way”

So, I decided to work with singles and first worked for a matchmaking firm, thinking if I could match the right people with each other, it’d solve so many problems. Then, another problem…..I noticed I could put someone perfect in front of another, but if one person isn’t’ confident in themselves, knows how to flirt, or knows how to communicate….we’re back to a dead end.

And that is where another pivot happened, I decided I wanted to coach clients. Building them up will get them more ready to date. I then found a job at eHarmony that allowed me to wear all these different hats. My last pivot was deciding to do this on my own because I wanted to go by my own rules and help the clients i felt passionate about. And now, i am finally where i am meant to be :) Every pivot taught me the necessary skills to be where I am today so I am grateful.

Any stories or insights that might help us understand how you’ve built such a strong reputation?

I showed up as authentically as possible, without being afraid to vocalize how hard I’ve worked for this passion. I don’t get myself dolled up for a video or read from a script. I wanted to give guidance from my core and truest self, even if that means slipping up on my words at times and messing up. My audience saw me as real, unapologetic Ruby. Which then in returns, builds trust because they know I’m not trying to swindle them…I’m living my passion to help add more love to the Word, into their lives. I also never proclaim to be the best or to be an expert, I recognized I’m always learning too. And I stay true to what I can offer and how I can help. By being true to myself, it encourages them to do the same.

Contact Info:

• Website: https://goodgentleman.com/
• Instagram: @rubyloveadvice
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/GoodGentlemanAdvice/
• Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ruby-l-00877b94/
• Youtube: https://youtube.com/rubyloveadvice