We recently connected with Rose Viggiano and have shared our conversation below.

Rose, thanks for joining us, excited to have you contributing your stories and insights. If you had a defining moment that you feel really changed the trajectory of your career, we’d love to hear the story and details.

It’s funny about defining moments. We usually don’t know they are happening. But when we look back, we see it so clearly. Reminding myself of that gives me hope for shifts I’d still like to see in myself and the world. Hope that there are defining moments happening right now, I just don’t know it. That said, in 2013 I was in a really dark place. I had moved from Manhattan to a small town in Northern California trying to save my then relationship. We had a 2 month old. 1 year later my worst nightmare happened. He moved away, had little contact with us, and I was a full-time single mom. I realized in that moment I unconsciously had recreated my own fatherless childhood for my daughter. How was I going to raise this child by myself? How could I afford to live after leaving my rent-stabilized NYC apartment? Would anyone ever love me again? At that moment I realized something that changed my life. I was not my mother. Even though I found myself in a similar position, I had 11 years of recovery. I had worked through so many things in myself already. I had a good job, was talented, hard working, and willing to go to any lengths for health and healing. In that moment I knew I was going to survive, raise this child, and find love again. But first I needed to figure out how and why I kept choosing men who couldn’t commit. Why did I pick the ones I had to convince to love me the way I needed and wanted? And why when I found a trustworthy and loving man did he feel boring? That question started me on a journey that changed my life and saved my life. I went head first into the world of attachment theory, first as a client and then as a practitioner. I worked towards multiple levels of certifications. I changed my whole career. After 2 years of planning, I left the Entertainment business at the hight of my career, as a 6 figure development executive. I took a huge risk. 8 years later I have a thriving business, have helped thousands of people, do what I love, and make way more than I did in TV. I’m engaged to a wonderful man, with a confident lovable daughter who is thriving. I have done all the hard work to get here, and will keep doing it. And I get to look back at that time and know my darkest moment lead me to all the beauty I have now.

Rose, before we move on to more of these sorts of questions, can you take some time to bring our readers up to speed on you and what you do?

Of course. Who I am today really changed since the defining moment I spoke about a moment ago. As a master level relationship coach, attachment specialist and somatic practitioner, I offer my clients what it took me decades of training and life experience to learn. I work with singles and couples who want to build secure, connected, trustworthy relationships with their current partner, or their next one. My work is a ‘top-down” and “bottom-up” process. Top-down means working on your attachment behaviors like communication, boundaries and relationship skills. Bottom-up means healing the old wounds stored in your body that stand in the way of you actually using the tools. Learning the nuts and bolts of HOW to create secure functioning relationships, and the somatic practices that HEAL the attachment system all come together to help you thrive in all areas of your life, especially in your relationships.

What sets me apart is that my work isn’t just about my certifications and years working with singles and couples. It stems from healing my own attachment wounds and going from a life of unsuccessful, troublesome relationships to ones that are safe, connected and securely attached. I’m not a practitioner who has been happily married for 30 years and will teach you how to do what I did. I’m a practitioner who has been to the gates of hell and can show you how I got back and how you can too. And the amazing relationships that exist on the other side of that work.

One super exciting thing about my business is that I now offer a community space called The Awakening Relationships Community (ARC). The ARC is for people to help heal their attachment system, alongside a supportive community, so they can build connected and safe relationships, either with their current partner, or a future one. Inside, I offer a full toolbox of skills that help you step more fully into your own secure attachment. The ARC is a place to share relationship challenges without shame, while seeing yourself reflected in each other’s experiences. We have monthly trainings, a unique set of videos, tools and worksheets, and multiple coaching calls a month where I work directly with the members. It’s honestly a dream come true.

I am also so grateful to provide free content on my IG page and will soon be doing longer form videos on YouTube. I love that these spaces give me the opportunity to work with many more people than just my private practice. And at a price point available to all.

Learning and unlearning are both critical parts of growth – can you share a story of a time when you had to unlearn a lesson?

Just one? Haha. Well, I think the most important one to unlearn is – a partner is supposed to be your best friend, twin flame, love at first sight, soul mate where the relationship will “just be easy”. Oy. As far as I can tell, relationships are not easy. Deep, connected relationships take work. And you have to meet the scariest parts of yourself, and your partner, and that can be really hard and scary. Also, depending on how we grew up with caregivers, we will be attracted to people who aren’t actually that good for us. So often that chemistry, instant attraction, is actually that the person is resonating with our past pain…we just don’t know it. All that had to go. I had to learn to look for the essence of who a partner really was and not expect fireworks and talking until 3AM right off the bat. And while I am engaged to one of my best friends, he hasn’t taken the place of my other best friends, who I still connect with daily and see often. And the work we do to stay awake in our relationship is far from easy. It’s a ‘feet to the fire’ kind of connection where we are both learning and growing constantly.

We’d love to hear a story of resilience from your journey.

Oh boy, yes. In June 2020, I got a call from a company I was heavily invested in. The owner had passed away suddenly and they brought in an outside accounting service to review the books. Initially I was told my investments were frozen but not at risk. Shortly after that call it was revealed that the company was in fact defrauding its investors. After much investigation, it was revealed as a Ponzi scheme and over 500 investors lost over 500 million dollars, including me. My world crashed. I was living off these investments, while training and working part time for another relationship coaching company.

At that moment, everything changed. The nest egg it took decades to build was gone. I knew the money didn’t define me as a person, but was in tremendous fear about supporting me and my daughter. And forget about saving for her college or my retirement. I was the sole financial support, living in one of the most expensive places in the country. What was I going to do?

I sprung into action. I had to! I stopped working for that company, and went into business for myself. I threw up a website and started an Instagram account. I had 100 followers but started posting everyday. I began giving away everything I knew. I tried to be of service. I knew this was an opportunity to practice faith and trust in the Universe. I prayed a lot. Every time my thoughts went to the future, I got back to today and said..what’s the next action I can take?

4 years later I’m making 4 times what I was at that company, I’ve worked with thousands of clients privately and through my workshops and community. I have 60,000 followers on social media and have made amazing friendships. I have a thriving business and have replaced in 4 years much of what I lost in that investment. And most important, I trust even more in the Spirit of the Universe than ever before. I was powerless over that fraud and losing that money. But I wasn’t powerless over my reaction to it. That experience built my confidence, and gave me more lessons to share with my clients.

Contact Info:

• Website: https://www.roseviggiano.com
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/awakeningrelationships/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AwakeningRelationships
• Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/roseviggiano/
• Twitter: Not on twitter
• Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@AwakeningRelationships