We’re excited to introduce you to the always interesting and insightful Robert Moore III. We hope you’ll enjoy our conversation with Robert below.
Robert, thanks for joining us, excited to have you contributing your stories and insights. Was there a moment in your career that meaningfully altered your trajectory? If so, we’d love to hear the backstory.
A defining moment in my professional career was when I reached the point in my career, as an IT Infrastructure Manager, where I had the financial security and all the things that this world showcased to be the pinnacle of happiness and fulfillment, yet I felt empty inside. The hurt that I could not put into words was still there and affecting how I showed up for myself and my family while in a career where my main focus was providing excellent customer service to a Fortune 500 company. All the while, not realizing I was falling apart due to the character(s) I was playing in life. I was abandoning my true self in hopes of getting my insecurities of feeling seen, validated, and lack of self-worth met. I fell apart and wanted to give up on life after making decisions that left me hating who I had become and what I had been doing to the people who loved me. In this darkness, I experienced God’s love for me, even when I didn’t love myself. It was in this darkness that I gave my life to Him and He walked alongside me as I started a healing journey to improve my mental health.
Great, appreciate you sharing that with us. Before we ask you to share more of your insights, can you take a moment to introduce yourself and how you got to where you are today to our readers
I am a passionate mental health advocate who personally understands the importance of men seeking freedom to be who God created them to be by returning home to their authentic selves by investing in their mental health. I started a podcast being led by God to see how men needed to witness other men showcasing their vulnerability in an organic conversation that centers on their story, their past, and current life struggles that we have all faced. Still, due to shame and guilt, it is hard for men to talk about it or face their feelings because we are taught that real men don’t cry, so toughen up. Today’s men are missing outlets where they can feel safe to share their battles without feeling like a failure or wimp. This podcast gives men who may be far from God a chance to see they are not alone and hear how they can overcome their fears and seek healing through the gift of real stories shared by vulnerable and transparent men. All the while, God gets the glory in our story of how He saw us through these seasons that tried to push us to give up. This podcast started with my own story of how God used a people pleaser who felt unworthy of love who had been carrying my hurt for years created patterns of infidelity, lying, and manipulation and transformed me after reaching what I thought was the end of my life with a plan to leave this earth. Still, God had a better plan for my life, and I made an “All in” commitment to Him to use me however He saw fit. I use this platform to share His love by meeting people where they are, explaining God can use them just as they are, but He has no intentions of leaving them that way.
Learning and unlearning are both critical parts of growth – can you share a story of a time when you had to unlearn a lesson?
I had to unlearn that I had to perform and please everyone to feel worthy of appreciation and love. I had to unlearn that being vulnerable was a sign of weakness as a man. I had to unlearn that my self-worth was tied to my success and what I had obtained. Finally, I had to unlearn that what happened to me was not to hurt me but what happened for me so I could find gratitude in it while I shined a light into this space where others are stuck in their own dark places needing help out.
All of these things held me captive to hurtful patterns of self-sabotage that gave me what I thought was happiness but simply momentary moments that faded away fast and left me unfulfilled with life when everyone else seemed to want my life. No amount of cars, money, or women could bring me Joy until I experienced the one person I ran from all my life, and He loved me in a way that I have never felt before after allowing me to see what it would look like to be the real authentic me, and that was Jesus.
We’d love to hear a story of resilience from your journey.
When I started this journey of healing from trauma and past wounds, it was incredibly lonely and emotional. It felt very isolating to sit with myself and the shame, guilt, and hurt I had experienced that I then turned around and projected onto others I came in contact with that wanted to love me or were tied to me for their own survival. The thought of giving up seemed alot easier then facing myself. I went to therapy weekly until I became my own therapist due to all the heavy lifting I did in between sessions by facing my fear and going below the surface to sit with my inner child and the things he had experienced growing up that played into the stories I told myself about me that made me abandon him because he was too weak to make it in this tough world. I still work through past trauma when triggered by keeping my therapist around to assist with things when I cant put the words together to explain the pain as I understand how important it is to express your emotions in a healthy way before they become what control you in actions that hurt you and others around you.
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