We caught up with the brilliant and insightful Rob Malloy a few weeks ago and have shared our conversation below.

Rob, thanks for joining us, excited to have you contributing your stories and insights. What were some of the most unexpected problems you’ve faced in your career and how did you resolve those issues?

I wouldn’t characterize this as a problem, but more as a challenge that once addressed would allow me to make a greater impact on my family and my community. I am a father of 4 amazing children, a United States Airforce Veteran, an Adaptive Athletics Coach, a Certified Dating Coach, a Social Media Influencer, an Actor, and a Radio Personality. My dedication to my children even now that they all are adults is my first priority, but I have other areas that I want to make an impact on.

I am in a new space these days. These days I only invest my time in areas where I feel that both complement my purpose and allow me to make a positive impact. Time is a non-renewable resource. It is finite. No matter what we do we can not get more time in a day. What we must do is learn how to make our time more impactful.

The first thing that I had to identify is what I wanted MY life, later in my 40s to look like. Now that my children are grown, my personal goals for growth, development, and achievement are a bit different. My primary goal was to help raise children that would be positive contributors to society. Goal accomplished!

Now my purpose is more focused on my community and living a life of purpose – on purpose. I had to take some time to really analyze what my purpose is and how to best make an impact using my gifts and talents. Once I identified what I wanted my life to look like, I had to then sit down with myself and create bite-size goals that once completed had me closer to my long-term goals. This included taking a realistic look at my schedule demands. This is where the challenge comes in.

We all have 168 hours per week, but the demands on my 168 hours per week look a lot different than many people. I could do what others do, but my purpose has a different requirement. Everyone’s purpose has a different time requirement. While we all have the same 168 hours per week, what we are required to do in those 168 hours will differ based on our purpose and the impact that we would like to make.

For example, as a Social Media Influencer, it means I actually get paid to be on social media. Social Media posting and interaction and content creation are all requirements of one revenue stream for me. Social Media is not something that you can work on like a traditional 9 to 5. I must allocate at least 30 hours per week to be devoted to Social Media activities. Including going live on various platforms. Next, I have to factor in time for acting. When I am booked for an acting role, I have 12-hour filming days. Generally, We film 2 to 3 days in a row. However, that doesn’t mean that I don’t have to handle my Social Media responsibilities. Especially, when I am contracted to do commercials or to be a product ambassador.

When you look at that and add the 56 hours of sleep that we should get per week, that has me at 122 hours of the 168 hours we all have per week.

While it may seem impossible, I manage all of my business requirements, family life, and dating life.

Part of managing my time is understanding that I can only afford to date women that are complimentary to my life and I am complimentary to their lives. Remember part of my purpose is to make a positive impact in all my actions.

This means I have to take my time getting to know someone before moving to the next stage of the dating process. I don’t knock anyone’s process! Like with purpose – the process may look different based on the individual, the key is to have a process. I practice what I preach to my clients. I believe that you should get to know someone in all seasons before moving to the next step in the dating process.

I teach my clients that there are several steps to dating.
Step 1 – Identify what YOU want for YOUR life
Step 2 – Identify what type of person compliments Step 1
Step 3 – Determine how much time you can afford for dating based on what you want for your professional and family life

As you see the 1st three steps have nothing to do with another person. I share this with my clients because it was something that I learned through my own personal journey of Dating After Divorce. And learning how to balance my time during this journey was certainly filled with learned lessons.

Step 4 – Meeting New People
Step 5 – Vetting (not everyone you meet is supposed to be a romantic involvement
Step 6 – Dating Casually
Step 7 – Dating Exclusively
Step 8 – Committed Relationship
Step 9 – Engagement
Step 10 – Marriage/Life partnership

This was a huge challenge for me because we all have been programmed that we should know if we want to be with someone within a few months. I have found that when you are living a life of purpose, on purpose it may time much longer than a few months to even get through the vetting phase. Let alone to the Committed Relationship Phase. Taking your time doesn’t mean wasting time, it does mean that you are intentional with your time.

Through this journey, I have found that anyone that is creating the life of their dreams must understand that it will require a different balance of time. Understanding that balance is required in all areas of life is something that I understood in theory – but now I understand it in practical application.

I share with all of my clients the mistakes that I made while figuring out how to balance my time so that I am creating the life of my dreams in my purpose and on purpose.

Awesome – so before we get into the rest of our questions, can you briefly introduce yourself to our readers.

As I said earlier, I am Rob Malloy. I am a father of 4 amazing children, a United States Airforce Veteran, a Certified Dating Coach, an Adaptive Athletics Coach, a Social Media Influencer, an Actor, and a Radio Personality. At this stage of my life, I only devote my time to areas where I can make a positive impact!

As a Certified Dating Coach, my specialty is Dating After Divorce. I have been married and divorced twice. I speak from my personal experiences, successes, and lessons learned. My mission is to help others to learn how to Date after Divorce without rushing into something, just for the sake of having someone.

I think what sets me apart from most is that I am transparent about my relationship and marriage and even my dating mistakes. No one is perfect. We all have learned some valuable lessons based on mistakes.

I believe in love and I love to see people loving authentically. This is why I coach those that are Dating After Divorce. Through my own growth and development, I have learned that the best way to ensure your relationship is healthy is for you to know what type of relationship is compatible with the lifestyle that you want to live long-term.

We often hear about learning lessons – but just as important is unlearning lessons. Have you ever had to unlearn a lesson?

One thing I had to unlearn is that money makes the world go around. In truth relationships – be it familial, romantic, business partnerships, or friendships – all are relationships that make impacts on our lives. Resources are usually available to those that know about the resources – through relationships with someone else.

We’d love to hear the story of how you built up your social media audience?

My social media presence came from being authentic. Honestly, I haven’t been on social media long. Once I became transparent while still keeping some things private – my social media family gravitated to me. People on social media respect when someone is being authentic and not trying to be like anyone else. Living in my purpose, interacting in my purpose, and being intentional about my interactions actually helped me to identify my tribe so to speak.

Contact Info:

• Website: www.robmalloy.com
• Instagram: iamrobmalloy
• Other: IAMROBMALLOY on all social media platforms