We were lucky to catch up with Nikki, creator of Coached By Nikki Dyer recently and have shared our conversation below.

Nikki, thanks for joining us, excited to have you contributing your stories and insights. If you had a defining moment that you feel really changed the trajectory of your career, we’d love to hear the story and details.

The idea behind writing guided meditations came to me in a book of all places. It was during a dark time in my life where I was really struggling with personal and relationship issues within my small world. Early days of motherhood had left me with isolated feelings and fears that everyone else enjoyed being a mom while I was drowning in misery.

My first meditation I wrote was a form of a letter to myself. I wrote down everything I was feeling in that moment, leaving nothing too ugly or unfiltered left in my mind and I let it all pour out of me in what I now recognize as a therapeutic release of emotions. I wrote of how overwhelmed I felt. How I felt as if I were drowning and no one was noticing. How I wasn’t sure I liked being a mother and how I hated just how far down on the list my own personal needs were placed. And worse, how no one seemed to care.

After I was finished, I took a deep breath in, and I then wrote every word that I needed to hear someone say in response to what I had wrote. How I was a great mother even though I didn’t always like it, and that I didn’t have to like every part of motherhood to be considered a great parent. How I was deserving and worthy of my needs and the time I craved to just be alone. How I could be more if I wanted to be more. It was okay if it wasn’t enough for me. I pulled myself back up through the use of words and sound and when I was finished…I immediately drove myself to Best Buy, bought a microphone, googled how to use it, and recorded my very first meditation.

I listened to my own words of security and comfort over and over until I had them memorized. And then, by complete happenstance, I shared the recording with someone who confided in me and it was that person who told me this message was too impactful to not share it with the world.

In many ways, the rest is history, as they say. Yet each week as I sit at my desk in quiet to write my meditation, it is the same two questions I find myself asking. “What am I struggling with?” and “What do I need to hear?”

I have been told many times from countless hearts all around the world that my meditations are different. Whatever it is I am doing, is unique and that the way I can touch someone’s heart in 5 minutes is a gift, and they are right. I can see now with a clear mind and heart that each experience I go through and am transparent about helps to heal someone else’s heart and make them feel just a little less alone.

I wake up each and every day and thank the universe that this is my life! I begin each day by reading the kindness, most heartfelt comments from complete strangers on how impactful I am in their life and how much comfort they find in my weekly meditations. Writing guided meditations has become one of my greatest joys in my life, and it has shown me that some of our brightest lights come from our darkest of days.

As always, we appreciate you sharing your insights and we’ve got a few more questions for you, but before we get to all of that can you take a minute to introduce yourself and give our readers some of your back background and context?

I am a spiritual writer and creator offering guided meditations, hypnotherapy sessions, and private coaching. Every meditation is designed to touch your heart and soothe your soul while leaving you with a new perspective on a specific topic. These inspiring messages help you see some of life’s greatest challenges in a new light as I lead you through the process of learning to change what you don’t love and accepting how to love what you can’t change.

Observing your thoughts and emotions rather than trying to make them go away gives you a better headspace for loving yourself and your life – maybe for the first time ever. It’s a practice worth exploring for the modern-day, busy woman searching for a better way to deal with everyday problems.

How would it feel to be focused on living your life instead of your to-do lists?

Some of the ways I help people improve their lives are by:

– Creating more balance in relationships and learning to ask for help

– Falling back in love with the person that you married

– Healing anger or resentment towards a partner or parent

– Making confident decisions so you can stop overthinking and over-researching

– Learning how to notice and control your feelings without trying to change them

– Becoming a more patient and present parent

– Prioritizing your health in a way that you want to model for your family

– Leaning into the season of life that you’re in

– Finally, stop feeling “busy” all of the time

When you feel like something has to change, that change always has to start with you!

We often hear about learning lessons – but just as important is unlearning lessons. Have you ever had to unlearn a lesson?

One of my greatest lessons I’ve unlearned in my life is the belief that you have to be “ready” or have any sort of plan in order to begin. I don’t think some people want you to know this but…NO ONE has it figured out! We all have a sense of imposter syndrome, especially when it comes to starting something new and unfamiliar.

When I first began creating meditations, I had no idea what I was doing. I didn’t even know how to plug the microphone into my computer. Each and every day, something new comes up that I’m unfamiliar with, and I’ve proven to myself time and time again that just because I don’t know something doesn’t mean I can’t figure it out!

One of my favorite pieces of advice I love to give to my coaching clients and listeners, is that you don’t need to know HOW to do something, you just need to know WHY it matters to you and why you want to do it. If you know the why, the how will always be revealed when the time is right.

Can you share a story from your journey that illustrates your resilience?

One of the biggest misconceptions in deciding to go for your big, scary dream is that the people around you who know and love you will be your biggest supporters. Anyone who is successful will tell you, the people who are closest to you will so often be the ones who make you completely question yourself and flood you with every type of self doubt available.

Your biggest cheerleaders will come from unexpected places and people. From complete strangers who happened to find you online, or from someone you otherwise would have never met. Until you are successful. Then the original fear-smearers suddenly change direction into supporters who always knew you could do it.

My reason in sharing this is simple. Just because your mom, or your sister or your aunt Susan thinks it’s a terrible idea DOES NOT MAKE IT A TERRIBLE IDEA! Do it anyway. To it in spite of them, or better yet, do it just for you! Have the audacity to say out loud what it is you want and really go for it, regardless of what anyone else may think. When you keep yourself from sharing your gifts, you’re taking something from the world and the people who need it. So be brave. Do it for you, and do it for all of the people waiting to find you!

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