We caught up with the brilliant and insightful Naomi Slater a few weeks ago and have shared our conversation below.

Naomi, looking forward to hearing all of your stories today. If you had a defining moment that you feel really changed the trajectory of your career, we’d love to hear the story and details.

My defining moment was actually before I even started my business as a full-time intimacy and relationship coach. It was my own personal life, struggles and triumphs that led me to start my own business.

Although my relationship with my husband started out very passionate, after our second child, I had lost my libido and was struggling with chronic candida and fatigue. My partner was feeling rejected and we were fighting about everything. We began a journey of sexual healing, with ourselves and with each other that led to the discovery of another way of relating and making love. We both began to deal with our own blocked emotions and seeing the ways in which we weren’t being authentic. This journey of working with our emotions and sexual energy created much more presence in our lives and in the bedroom.

Our relationship blossomed into one of mutual respect, understanding, authenticity and passion. This process opened us up to the higher energetics of lovemaking and helped us step more fully into our pleasure.

Our personal process was the catalyst for me starting my business. It is my passion and life purpose to help other women and couples reclaim their passion, pleasure and power.

Naomi, before we move on to more of these sorts of questions, can you take some time to bring our readers up to speed on you and what you do?

I started out as a yoga teacher almost two decades ago. I spent months in ashrams in India studying with some very special masters and was exposed to Tantra, yoga, meditation and how to move energy in the body. Later on in life I studied an esoteric form of bio-energy healing that treats addiction, anxiety and depression. I also have a B.A. in Psychology and an M.A. in Conflict Management and Resolution, all of which contribute to my unique style of facilitating and coaching.

I stand out in my field as an “ordinary” householder, married with three children, that teaches esoteric Tantric and Tao practices combined with modern psychoanalytic tools to help women and couples discover and awaken their sexuality. Many practitioners in my field are often single, polyamorous and/or without children. My unique life experience and personal journey of healing within a committed relationship with kids is part of what makes me stand out in my field.

I am the creator and facilitator of a 3-month online course for women, “Awaken Your Desire”, that has helped hundreds of women awaken their sexuality through yoni egg practices, emotional work and other embodiment practices that combine ancient Tantric and Tao practices with deep emotional work and modern somatic sexuality tools. This course is a deep-dive that I facilitate with women live.

I have also developed an online course for couples, “Divine Couples”, that provides an introduction to the practices and tools that helped my partner and I heal our relationship. The course explores new communication tools, lovemaking practices and new ways to touch, relate and create more presence in the relationship and in bed.

I coach couples and women privately online in order to help them navigate and improve issues such as differences in sex drive, low libido, communication issues, lack of lovemaking skills, premature ejaculation, emotional blockages, trauma and more.

I offer free consultation calls for those that are interested in working with me – these can be scheduled on my website.

We often hear about learning lessons – but just as important is unlearning lessons. Have you ever had to unlearn a lesson?

A lesson I had to unlearn was that it was my partner’s responsibility for turning me on in bed. Once I began to develop a self-love practice and started to learn to move my own energy I realized that I had been giving my power away.

So many women and men feel shame and guilt in expressing their sexuality and therefore don’t know how to fully activate this part of themselves. Working with this energy will bring up emotions, limiting beliefs and blockages so that we can move through them and tap more fully into our pleasure and passion.

This was perhaps the most significant understanding in the process of awakening my energy. We are each responsible for awakening our own energy. We are each responsible for our own emotions and how we navigate and communicate them. We so often blame our partners for our predicament, but if we begin to work on ourselves, we realize that so much of our work is internal.

Putting training and knowledge aside, what else do you think really matters in terms of succeeding in your field?

Aside from the knowledge and training that I have received in my field, I believe that personal experience is key to being a good coach. I don’t teach anything that I haven’t experienced myself. My courses and coaching methods are the direct result of my own personal healing process. My method is my own, and is a compilation of the teaching I have received with my own direct experience on how to activate energy in the body and work through blockages that are preventing us from leading our best lives.

Contact Info:

• Website: www.naomislater.com
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tantraintimacycoaching/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/naomi.slater.37

Image Credits
Einav Nissim Haramati (for most images) Mimi Fuenzalida (for image of me sitting in a chair with black dress)