Alright – so today we’ve got the honor of introducing you to Malie Bharath . We think you’ll enjoy our conversation, we’ve shared it below.
Alright, Malie thanks for taking the time to share your stories and insights with us today. Was there a defining moment in your professional career? A moment that changed the trajectory of your career?
In 2016 I said to myself “Self! You like working out, you could use some extra money, why not become a personal trainer!?!” And just like that a star was born!
If that were truly my story, life would be so much easier, but that couldn’t be further from the truth.
While I did become a personal trainer, I ironically was struggling to lose weight I gained from the unhealthy mindset I let rule my life, and even more so the horribly manipulative and toxic marriage I was in. Both shifted the world around me causing me to be completely ugly to myself and overly harsh about anything I did. Nothing was good enough. Although I had a full time day job as an accountant, and a part time gig as a Trainer, I still didn’t measure up as an employee (it didn’t help that my corporate job actually said things like that to me either.) At home, nothing I did was good enough for my husband. Whatever kudos or validation I was looking for there, I didnt get. I got bubkis! After a while this vicious cycle made me dislike myself and my body and health suffered.
Once I physically left my marriage, the weight fell off! Since my mental health wasn’t being destroyed I was able to heal and take better care of myself. As my mindset improved, so did my health and physique. I went from hiding in loose fitted clothing, having body aches from the extra weight and even unhealthy hair, to hello world I’m here! All this in just a year’s time because I fortified my fitness journey with mindset work.
Just after moving out during divorce, BAM! Covid. All that time behind closed doors really helped me realize the mind is EVERYTHING, and adding mindset sessions to my coaching would be a game changer. Shortly after being laid off from my job as an accountant during Covid, (Yea this all pretty much happened at once) I picked myself up and started the beginning of my entrepreneurial journey…and this is probably where I should say, a star was born!…but i’ll save that comment until after I reach year 5 in business, this path is hard!
As always, we appreciate you sharing your insights and we’ve got a few more questions for you, but before we get to all of that can you take a minute to introduce yourself and give our readers some of your back background and context?
The harsh reality is version 1.0 of me had a dreadful mindset that lead me to create a life full of pain, and settling for the worst because I didnt think I deserved better. Your marriage and your job are the two places that have the biggest influence on who you are as a person, and what paths you choose to take as that person, and whoa! did I pick doozies for both! it sucked, but it took all that ugliness for me to learn that I was called to help women with similar stories not just lose weight, but hone in on all the greatness that is a woman by also rewiring their mindsets so they never have to worry about gaining weight or settling for less than again.
Once I started seeing I was able to actually make an impact with my Fitness/Mindset approach I was hooked!
While a part of my business focuses on helping women lose weight they gained from navigating trauma tragedy and transition, I’ve expanded my services to also include options for anyone looking to focus on rewiring their mindset.
Whether it’s through being a keynote speaker, my mindset coaching sessions or the convenient downloadable guides I create, my intent is to help everyone under the sun reach their fullest potential so that they move through life fulfilled and unobstructed.
Can you share a story from your journey that illustrates your resilience?
Before becoming a coach and an entrepreneur I went to school for accounting. Back then my mentality was absolutely “go hard or go home!” “Sleep when you’re dead” and “What would you dooooo for a Klondike Bar?”…well that one probably doesn’t belong there, but I do love ice cream!
I moved out on my own when I was pretty much still a kid (19) and had to find a way to pay for school, rent, books and a little thing called food, so of course I got a job. (Side note, this wasn’t my first job, I’d been working since I was 14, I just got a better job). At first I was a full-time employee that went to school part-time , but then I decided part-time student was excruciatingly slow; I then decided to go to school and work, full-time. Unfortunately, as a 19 yr old, you can’t make great money because those jobs want people with degrees. After giving it some thought I says to myself. “Self! you’re young, in good shape and have no children, let’s 10x this thing and do the absolute most.” This lead to me being a full-time employee in midtown Manhattan, a full-time student in The Bronx (Herbert H. Lehman College Alumni) and a part-time bartender/cocktail waitress in the evenings (Houston Street, if you’re a NYer you’ll understand how far and ridiculous those distances are). To put it in perspective a typical day went a little something like this: School M – Th 7 a.m. – 8:30 a.m. and then again 6 p.m.- 9 p.m., FT job M – Sat 9 a.m. – 5 p.m. PT job M – Sat 6 p.m. – 1 a.m. While that’s not the end of my college career, because believe it or not it got more hectic, that covers the basics and highlights my point. You can fake being smart and even confident, but resilience is home-made. Either you have that seed in you or you don’t. As I look back and think about my history I cringe at the insanity from time to time, but as a newbie entrepreneur I realize all that was to make sure I can make it here. Being an entrepreneur isn’t for everyone, we may all think it’s cool to say “one day I want to run my own business.” But when it comes down to it, there’s a crushing and forging you have to go through to hack it, and if you don’t have the resilience, you’re finished before you even start.
We often hear about learning lessons – but just as important is unlearning lessons. Have you ever had to unlearn a lesson?
Once I was laid off during Covid and competing for jobs with all the other 1,234,236 million newfound jobless people, I had a decision to make; keep trying to fight my way back into the job force or take the leap and leave Corporate America for good. Since I always had aspirations to own a business, I chose the latter. I’m not sure if my dedication to being great is what keeps me going, or some unnatural high from a toxin that I unknowingly inhaled when Canada was leaking fumes in 2023. Either way this has been an out of this world experience. The biggest thing I had to unlearn was being a successful coach and a business owner isn’t overnight oats. I remember when I was training on the side, so many people were like “Omg why aren’t you on social media? if you were I’d help you get clients” ” All trainers on social media have huge success and lots of clients” …etc. Since I pretty much had no choice but to be an online trainer due to changes in the world, I put myself on socials fully expecting it to rain clients and big bucks within 1 month tops! To say I was bamboozled by the masses and left totally confused when no one was biting is an understatement. Between the lies non-business owners tell you and the fairy tales social media portrays, you come into this grind thinking if you’re any good at your craft you should immediately be lucrative with all the clients, and that’s nowhere near true. Unlearning the guilt trip put on you by the ads of online business coaches and the unrealistic expectations of your inner circle who have zero idea how to run a business was a long process but beyond necessary. Once you accept everything good takes time and there’s no such thing as a one size fits all solution to excel your results, the simpler it is for you to find out who you truly are as an entrepreneur and how you need to proceed in order to stay authentic to you.
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