We recently connected with Lisa Lu and have shared our conversation below.
Lisa, appreciate you joining us today. Was there a defining moment in your professional career? A moment that changed the trajectory of your career?
I remember the moment that changed my life like it was yesterday, the moment I realized the trauma bond I was stuck in had less to do with the narcissist who discarded me and more to do with my childhood trauma and that’s when my true healing journey began. It absolutely changed my life in ways I could have never imagined.
When you become the healed and healthy version of yourself, the way you see life changes and the direction you were headed in might change as well. The standard you hold yourself to will choose your lifestyle, friends and even your career. The clarity healing my childhood trauma has given me, allows me to help others do the same.
I have to say, it feels so good to truly feel free.
As always, we appreciate you sharing your insights and we’ve got a few more questions for you, but before we get to all of that can you take a minute to introduce yourself and give our readers some of your back background and context?
My name is Lisa Lu, most people call me Pinky and I am a survivor of domestic abuse who continues to use my lifelong experience with surviving and thriving to become a Professional Best Friend. (aka a life coach) with a very personal touch.
My goal on social media is to create a community of healing, a place where we support one another and encourage each other to become the very best versions of ourselves that we can be. Traumatic life changes are hard, especially when we didn’t expect them or invite them, and nobody should suffer or struggle alone when there are so many people out there who have already gone through or are going through the same hardships.
I also work with people one on one who feel they need the added strength, support and guidance.
lisalu_girlpower is a place where we can feel safe while we gain clarity and the tools we need to heal what hurts us.
We often hear about learning lessons – but just as important is unlearning lessons. Have you ever had to unlearn a lesson?
The biggest lesson I have learned is that life is not meant to be survived, it is meant to be lived!
We need to unlearn all the toxic traits we picked up and adopted while trying to survive through traumatic events and learn how to live a healthy life where we replace anxiousness with peace.
It sure isn’t easy, but it’s not impossible either. Where there is a will, there is a way and I have enough of that will, to share with anyone who needs it.
Training and knowledge matter of course, but beyond that what do you think matters most in terms of succeeding in your field?
Love and Anger have definitely played the biggest role in my growth, sounds like a crazy combo doesn’t it?
Being angry that you haven’t loved yourself enough can take you to places you’ve never been, places you never want to leave again once you do love yourself.
Most people with unhealed childhood trauma become people pleasers and abandon their own needs to take care of others, until they get abandoned by those people and start the viscous cycle over again with someone new.
Authenticity has been my most powerful trait, one that I love to teach others to embrace in themselves.
Being your authentic self will put you in the rooms you are meant to be in. Living your authentic truth will automatically remove the people who don’t belong in your life because you won’t be able to be fake the disappointment from the relationship or pretend to agree with how they treat you, if how they treat you doesn’t feel good.
Toxic people move away from people who do not enable them and people who love themselves won’t enable toxicity within their space.
When we love ourselves, we win at life even when times are tough.
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