We recently connected with Laurie Mcdermott and have shared our conversation below.

Hi Laurie, thanks for joining us today. So let’s jump to your mission – what’s the backstory behind how you developed the mission that drives your brand?

I discovered my husband’s affair standing in the kitchen May 2013. We had been married 16 years, best friends for 21 years, when he stared at me and flat out said, “I love you, but I’m not in love with you.”
Over the next few days, while he was buzzing around joyful with a new life with a woman I called “horseface,” I struggled to simple things like: breathe.
I laid in bed for hours, days. Wrapping my head about a fact that I just didn’t fathom: My best friend, the man I KNEW would never cheat on me or have an affair, actually did? And actually wanted to leave me and our kids?
Huh?
I felt I was living someone else’s life. My poor 3 little kids. You know how women all swarm around a wife after she gives birth to a new baby? Bringing food, hands and comfort? Women do not do that when a husband leaves. Nope. They clamp down and protect their own families. There is a parasite in town and it is contagious!
Sadly my children ate nothing but cereal and pizza (I had dominos on speed dial) for months. I myself lost 20 lbs.
I felt so alone and sad and depressed. There was no one who understood. Everyone kept telling me to: a) kick him to the curb b) divorce him c) never speak to him again.
While those all sounded good at the time, I knew, deep inside, that there was something wrong with him. He was a good man, and this just didn’t make sense. And I became obsessed with asking anyone and everyone about advice or suggestions on what was happening to me and my family.
To say I talked to hundreds of people is putting it mild. I spoke to (interviewed really) thousands! At the time I worked at LAX and spoke to 300-400 people daily. They heard my story and I got data, information, understanding, compassion and tears. People would cry or sometimes sob out loud when they told me about their brother, husband, sister, mom or even dad. My co-workers started timing me. I could get a person’s whole life story in 3 minutes. Yet I’d talk to them for much longer if they had a story to share.
Best part, I used their words, advice and motivation to connect to my husband, who was still busy with his new friend.
I never gave up.
I truly believed I could get him home.
And it worked. He came home at the end of 2014. And our marriage is still going strong!

Around 2015 so many people had asked me how I got him home that I put together a little class and then in order to teach it in a proper school, I had to get a degree (another one!) and that’s when I became a COACH. Not a therapist. A coach. Because like a baseball coach, you won’t get better if the student is the only one talking. I knew the road, I knew the way. And I could coach people to do the same thing!

I built a website, wrote a few books and started a video program where people can learn all my secrets! And since I used to do stand up comedy (I had quit stand up when he left in 2013) these videos are entertaining!
So much so that APPLE created an APP for me and today you can get my APP on Apple Store or Google Play/Android. Search for The Wife Expert!

As always, we appreciate you sharing your insights and we’ve got a few more questions for you, but before we get to all of that can you take a minute to introduce yourself and give our readers some of your back background and context?

I help betrayed spouses who want to stay married, find hope that it is possible. Other spouses who may be left behind, abandoned or cheated on, who also want to stay married, even if their spouse does not, can still stay married! I believe this to my core! and I have proof! It takes inner work and lots of patience and understanding, yet if you can do it, you will get your spouse back.

I truly believe that if 2 people loved each other, got married and planned on staying forever, even if someone got side tracked (by the devil) or thinks the grass is greener, that is NOT a reason to get divorced. I feel confident that Ego’s get divorced, not people.

I am so proud that If you join my TheWifeExpert.com “Bring Him Home” video program (now an APP!!) and stay with me and learn what I teach, you will get your spouse back.

There is not much competition in Midlife Crisis Marriage Restoration Coaching (what I do), yet people STAY with me because they know I CARE. That’s a big part of what I do. When you work with me you know I care for the people I coach. I want them to succeed!

Every single one of my clients who do not give up and stay with me, feel my program is priceless! When their spouses return they tell me how grateful they are and that they get so much more than what they thought they would. In fact, my greatest response I hear back from clients/customers is this:
“I took your program to get my husband home, yet I learned so much more! He’s home and that’s good, yet things with me are going so well. Like I just got a promotion, people say I look younger and I’m glowing. Also I’m better at my job and my friendships are growing. I didn’t expect all of that and my life is just so good now. Just like you said, my life is way better than before. Thank you!”

There is no greater gift than a Refferal. I never advertise. People refer me. Period.

Can you share a story from your journey that illustrates your resilience?

A Deacon from my church came over to talk to me and when I told him, “My husband had left me with another woman after 16 years of marriage, do you have any advice for me?”
The elder man paused and took a deep breathe.
I waited for positive helpful words.
And then he said, “This happens. Often. Men get confused and they want a new life or a new path. And I’ll be honest, it’s not good. They don’t come back.”
I was shocked and I”m sure he saw my response as bewildered, especially when I said: What do you mean? Of course they come back. I know my husband will be back. We’ve been married 16 years.”
He said, “Well you asked my educational opinion and in my experience, from what I see, I know it’s not what you want to hear, but they do not come back.”
I was silent. I remember looking down and then very politely told him that I had to go and that I was grateful for his time.
It was then something told me to look up the other way and there on the top of the building next to me was our church and on top was a single cross. That cross spoke to me and it told me not to listen to that man, to not believe that man, that God had other plans for me.

Imagine if I had listened to this elder Deacon man, I would not be married today. Nor would my kids all be doing as well as they are. Nor would the thousands of marriages I have saved, have been saved.
Amen to that!

What’s a lesson you had to unlearn and what’s the backstory?

“It Takes Two People To Save a Marriage.”

Nope. That’s wrong. I believed that one for years. And when I went through this midlife crisis hell, it was me and me alone who never gave up, who never shouted or got angry or told him to F.Off. Instead I did as the old people told me to do, and followed what I’d want him to do to me if the situation as reversed. If I had left him for another man. How would I want him to treat me?
So I continued on in my marriage even though I was all alone. I kept it going – just me and in the end it worked. You only need one person to Save a marriage!
I know that for a fact because I never gave up on my marriage.

Contact Info:

• Website: https://thewifeexpert.com
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thewifeexpert
• Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/thewifeexpert
• Other: Find “The Wife Expert” and her Bring him home videos is on the APP STORE:

Image Credits

Laurie McDermott – Photographer on all