We caught up with the brilliant and insightful Kyleigh Weathers a few weeks ago and have shared our conversation below.

Kyleigh, thanks for taking the time to share your stories with us today What’s the best or worst investment you’ve made?

The best investment I’ve ever made is in myself. Specifically, in my emotions.

We aren’t trained to invest in our emotions. If anything, we’re taught to suppress, bypass, or intellectualize them. But when I stepped into business ownership, I quickly realized that no amount of strategy or skill could outrun my own imposter syndrome, perfectionism, or limiting beliefs. Business has a way of exposing the patterns that have been running your life in the background. And if you don’t address them, they will absolutely run your business too.

In the work I do with Queerly Attached, the return to self is the work. Learning to meet my emotions, rather than avoid them, has given me the emotional resilience, clarity, and confidence to build something sustainable. Something that doesn’t drain me but fuels me. My business was a huge investment but I learned quickly that if I didn’t invest in my own well-being, the business would fail. Hiring a mentor helped me dig into the limiting beliefs that kept coming up. It was the most I had invested so far into myself and the ROI was phenomenal. Within the first three weeks, I had tapped into deep emotional wounds that were going to keep me back from my dream.

One of the biggest shifts came when I read just the first three pages of The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer. I finished the book months later after practicing what those first few pages illuminated. The author talks about the ability to observe your thoughts rather than be your thoughts, and that concept alone cracked something open in me. It helped me step outside the constant mental noise and see that I wasn’t my fears, my doubts, or my old narratives. I was the one witnessing them. I couldn’t be “the speaker” and the “the listener”…yet I was. Leaning into that curiosity opened so many doors and opportunities.

That perspective shift, seeing myself as something beyond my conditioning, has been the most valuable investment I’ve ever made. It has changed the way I relate to myself, my business, and my life. And the return on investment? Freedom.

Great, appreciate you sharing that with us. Before we ask you to share more of your insights, can you take a moment to introduce yourself and how you got to where you are today to our readers.

I’ve always been fascinated by communication, how we connect, how we heal, and how we navigate relationships. Growing up in a military home with the added complexity of queer attachment trauma from being raised Mormon shaped much of my understanding of human behavior and belonging. My professional background as a Recreation Therapist and my journey through a Master of Social Work program provided the foundation for my work in mental health and healing. But my personal life shifted dramatically in 2014.

While taking a Sunday nap, two herniated discs compressed my spinal cord, leaving me temporarily paralyzed. That moment, and the years of surgeries, chronic pain, and grief that followed, forced me to confront the ways I had been living out of alignment, suppressing my emotions, and ignoring my body’s needs. Through this 10 year healing journey, I reclaimed my power and reconnected with myself, which ultimately led me to create Queerly Attached.

Queer people are not broken, they’re human. Their attachment styles, patterns, and wounds are not their identities, but a starting point for growth. Unfortunately, many queer individuals face queer attachment trauma, which refers to the unique emotional and relational wounds caused by societal rejection, familial disapproval, and the pressures of navigating a world that often denies our authenticity. This trauma impacts how queer people show up in relationships and how they view themselves.

Through Queerly Attached, I help clients untangle these dynamics by building secure attachment, healing old wounds, and creating lives rooted in self-acceptance and joy. I work with people who have often felt unseen in traditional spaces, offering an affirming environment where they can explore and heal. My work focuses on addressing the intersections of identity, rejection, and belonging, helping clients reclaim their emotional power and rewrite their narratives.

There is a nuance to the queer experience and I’ve been able to guide my clients in a relatable and deeply empowering way to healing. I know what it’s like to navigate the complexities of queer identity while also confronting attachment wounds and societal conditioning, and I bring that understanding into every aspect of my work and podcast. Becoming certified in Integrated Attachment Theory in 2022 felt like the final piece of my puzzle.

What I’m most proud of is seeing my clients step into their full authenticity. Watching someone find joy in themselves, is the most rewarding part of what I do. At its core, my work is about transformation. It’s about helping people understand that their past doesn’t define them but how we heal from it does. Secure attachment and true joy are within reach because it begins within you.

Can you share one of your favorite marketing or sales stories?

One of my favorite Queerly Attached moments happened last year when I walked into a local queer shop with no website, no formal brand, and nothing but an idea. I had a vision for a workshop series centered on queer healing and attachment. It wasn’t polished, but it was authentic and deeply rooted in my passion for creating community spaces where people could feel seen and safe. Our queer community loves to gather and my gut just told me this was needed in Kansas City. I love to teach and connect and I believed in my vision.

I walked up to the owners and pitched it on the spot. No slides, no marketing materials, just me, my story, my energy and my vision. I told them about my journey, the work I wanted to bring into the community, and why I believed their shop would be the perfect space to host it.

The odds felt stacked against me because I didn’t have the traditional markers of legitimacy, no online presence, no established following. But what I did have was confidence in the transformation this series could offer. The owner could see that, and they said yes.

That yes was the start of something incredible. Not only did the workshops sell out, but one of the owners stayed to see how it went. Before the session was even over, she pulled me to the side to rave about the work and we booked another workshop. It showed me the power of believing in your idea even before it’s fully formed and taught me that connection and authenticity are often more compelling than any polished pitch deck. I have continued to follow my gut and intuition and have made connections that never “should have” happened but did. It has been a beautiful ripple effect of choosing me.

That moment was a reminder that sometimes you have to take risks and put yourself out there, even when it feels uncomfortable. It’s those leaps of faith that build momentum and, in my case, a business rooted in queer joy and healing.

Have you ever had to pivot?

As a former youth basketball player, I learned early that there’s power in the pivot. A pivot opens up your options, your choices of what to do with the ball. Sometimes you make the right pass off a pivot. Sometimes you make the shot. And sometimes you travel.

The same is true in life. Pivots don’t have to work out to be impactful. To become an expert at anything, you have to become familiar with failure. We often villainize failure, but it’s really just part of the learning experience. Expert. Experience. It’s all part of the ride.

Pivoting is successful the moment you choose to do it. Whether your plan works or not, the act of pivoting means you’ve taken the first step toward mastery. You’ve stopped clinging to what isn’t working, and you’ve made the courageous decision to explore what might. That’s powerful.

In my life and business, I’ve had to pivot more times than I can count. I share about each of these pivots on the Queerly Attached Podcast. Sometimes a pivot felt like the only choice which made it less difficult to make. Other times, I was faced with many options and knowing which way to pivot could feel overwhelming. Whether it was leaving behind old ways of thinking, communities that didn’t align with my goals, redefining my approach to relationships, or creating Queerly Attached to fill a gap in healing and connection. Not all of my pivots led directly to success, but every single one taught me something about myself.

That’s the beauty of a pivot: it opens up the court. It gives you the freedom to try, to fail, and to grow. It’s in that process that true transformation happens.

Contact Info:

• Website: https://queerlyattached.net/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/queerlyattached/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/QueerlyAttached
• Youtube: https://youtube.com/@queerlyattached?si=b4mXig23Hn3t8keE
• Other: Queerly Attached Podcast: https://feeds.buzzsprout.com/2400223.rss

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