Alright – so today we’ve got the honor of introducing you to Katrina Carter. We think you’ll enjoy our conversation, we’ve shared it below.

Katrina , thanks for taking the time to share your stories with us today Risking taking is a huge part of most people’s story but too often society overlooks those risks and only focuses on where you are today. Can you talk to us about a risk you’ve taken – it could be a big risk or a small one – but walk us through the backstory.

The risk I took was telling my story about being in a domestic violence relationship, 3 times. I was in Walmart and the store was extremely crowded, I am usually a person that doesnt go into crowded stores because of my past. This particular time, I am newly married and my husband needs to go to Walmart. I tried to convince him that we can go another day but that didnt happen. So, we get to the Walmart, its crowded, people everywhere and i have a panic attack. That wasnt the end though, I was at work during the height of COVID and I thought my co-worker took a picture of me and was sending it to my ex, so I had a mental breakdown and had to have my therapist talk with me to get home because I was having ideations (suicidal).

After, these incidents, I felt that I couldnt be the only person that feels this way. I cant be the only person that needs a support system outside of family because family wont understand. So, I started, Incapable Bondage, which means we are no longer bounded by things that hold us back.

Awesome – so before we get into the rest of our questions, can you briefly introduce yourself to our readers.

Katrina is a mental health coach, advocate for trauma and domestic violence. Katrina Carter received her official mental health coaching certificate in 2023, and is currently continuing her journey to advocate for healing and wellness.

Her mission is to empower trauma survivors through a holistic approach by providing long-term mental, emotional, financial, and physical resources so that they can thrive and reach their full potential.

Katrina is a well-known speaker, podcaster and conference hosts; having spearheaded events such as “Denim and Bling” and “Mask Off” that promote healing. She also hosts, Mindful Monday, on Instagram where she promotes, “healing is a process that takes reliving what has hurt you, in order to walk in your purpose.”

While Katrina works full time as a mental health coach and domestic violence survivor as well as a domestic violence advocate via her non-profit organization, Incapable Bondage T.H.R.I.V.E. Katrina also enjoys crafting where she creates Merchandise such as affirmation tumblers, affirmation tshirts, to help other be reminded that they are not alone.

We’d love to hear a story of resilience from your journey.

My journey of speaking my truth and being able to take accountability for my role in my abusive relationships. A lot of times, as a victim, we are just that a victim but in order to become a survivor or victor, you have to take accountability. I am not saying that the abuser was right yet I am saying what role did we play. The role I played was allowing someone to take my self love away, allowing someone to walk all over me, abuse me and not feel as if I could do any better. Resilience to me is just that, taking accountability for your own actions.

Telling my story is not easy because I have to relive every aspect of my life and mentally prepare myself for the looks I may get, the shame I already feel and of course the trauma. I will continue to tell my story because, “Healing is a process, that takes reliving what has hurt you, in order to walk in your purpose.”-Katrina Carter

We often hear about learning lessons – but just as important is unlearning lessons. Have you ever had to unlearn a lesson?

Now, this one right here is true even today. I had to unlearn that the folks I felt were in my corner, was not. I had to learn that complete strangers are more supportive and when you are making an impact in the lives of others, the people that know you personally will make you feel like a hypocrite because you are living your life yet telling someone else about the struggle. They often dont understand that you dont do it for clout, you are doing what you do to help others.

I had to unlearn this bny hosting events,. now in the beginning I had support but once I started to grow, that support deminished. It wasnt a bad thing because I ended up connecting with some other people. I had to learn that we all outgrow others and that we should be ok with that. The part that most people dont talk about is grieving that loss because you had a bond with that person.

Contact Info:

• Website: incapablebondage.org
• Instagram: https://linktr.ee/Incapablebondage
• Youtube: https://youtube.com/@T.H.R.I.V.E.H.E.A.L.?si=CkB6UxrAPBrc2lcl