Alright – so today we’ve got the honor of introducing you to Jordan Dann. We think you’ll enjoy our conversation, we’ve shared it below.

Alright, Jordan thanks for taking the time to share your stories and insights with us today. We’d love to hear the story behind how you got your first job in field that you currently practice in.

As a young child, I fell in love with theater out of a psychological impulse: I wanted to understand myself and others. As an only child, my childhood was lonely. By the time I was in high school, my parents had moved eight times, which created a tremendous amount of disruption and instability, while also strengthening my adaptability and resilience.

Theater became a laboratory where I could investigate the psychology of characters inside of plays, and because of the constant relocation during my childhood, theater also provided a container for expedited intimacy alongside other people who were passionate about the art form.

Throughout my teens, 20s, and 30s, I had a lot of relationships, and while I met some wonderful people along the way, most of the time, I was either leaving or being left. I also struggled in my professional life and, despite being dedicated to the jobs I had and working very hard, I continued to find myself in highly dysfunctional organizations.

I wanted very much to be in a healthy relationship with my work and with another person and I couldn’t figure out what I was doing wrong. At this time in my life, I started going to therapy. In therapy, I learned how the relationships in my childhood played a part in my adult relationships, and I began to take personal responsibility for my actions and choices in my relationships. As I began to recognize how I’d been recreating familiar attachment patterns, I began to move towards increasingly healthier professional environments and healthier personal relationships.

After several years of working on myself in therapy, I met my husband, Keith, and it is over the past 11 years that we have both become one another’s best teachers about how to be in a healthy relationship. Over the course of our relationship, we have read couple’s books together, been to couple’s retreats, and every day we intentionally practice all the skills we have learned to keep our relationship healthy.

My own therapeutic journey has offered me healing relationships with therapists who have taught me to have a healthy and loving relationship with myself.

My work with couples and somatic therapy has been the fundamental aspect of my own therapeutic journey, and I have worked with hundreds of individuals who have said that talk therapy wasn’t enough. It was the incorporation of a somatic practice that finally changed their relationship with themselves.

Jordan , love having you share your insights with us. Before we ask you more questions, maybe you can take a moment to introduce yourself to our readers who might have missed our earlier conversations?

It never ceases to amaze me that the most important thing we do in life is have relationships with other human beings, and yet we are not taught how to be in relationship.

Working with a couple’s therapist can be a vulnerable process, but the benefits of inviting someone to witness your dynamic can be one of the most illuminating and nurturing things that you can do for you both.

As an Imago Relationship therapist, I often refer to myself as a “coach” because the process is educational and skill-based. We will spend time exploring the dimensions of your relationship, attending to each of your needs and experience, and identifying your goals.

The greatest gift we can give ourselves, our children, and the people with whom we are in relationship is to take responsibility for our own healing. When it comes to therapy, my style is experiential, directive, skill-based, and psychodynamic in nature. As a couples coach I shuttle between developing individual insight, promoting awareness about the dynamic, in combination with concrete directive suggestions to create behavioral changes in the relationship. I am not here to placate, I am here to help you transform.

As a client recently said: “You have to show up for Jordan. You can’t hide, can’t charm her, can’t bullshit. She’s too smart, and she cares too much.”

Putting training and knowledge aside, what else do you think really matters in terms of succeeding in your field?

Curiosity is the most important trait for success. Every professional goal I’ve reached has merely been a result of following my own curiosity. If you are curious about learning about a subject or another individual then there is a well of intrinsic motivation that will propel you forward. If you don’t accomplish the goal it doesn’t matter because the experience and learning that you received along the way will only make you feel more hungry, confident, and motivated.

What do you think helped you build your reputation within your market?

Generosity. I have build a wonderful community on Instagram because I love to share my knowledge. I actually started my Instagram account as a love letter to my younger self. I was imagining offering myself the relationship advice I wish I’d had in my 20’s. I never expected that other people would find what I was sharing to be of value. One of my core values is generosity and I believe that while it is equally important to have boundaries and limits on what you give and when, operating from generosity always has a high return on investment.

Contact Info:

• Website: https://jordandann.com
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jordandann/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jordandanntherapy/
• Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jordan-dann-mfa-lp-cirt-71867420/
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/jordidann