We were lucky to catch up with Jennifer Wolfe recently and have shared our conversation below.

Jennifer, looking forward to hearing all of your stories today. Can you open up about a risk you’ve taken – what it was like taking that risk, why you took the risk and how it turned out?

My profession and life is all about growth, and I believe one of the places we grow the most is outside our comfort zone. This is belief is exactly what drove me to make one of the scariest, and riskiest decisions of my life- Skydive.

There is nothing quite like sky diving to put you face to face with fear (ok more like TERROR).

Then you add on the zero degree weather and 100 mph wind chill and it just seems like the worst idea ever.

BUT, I agreed to do this for my own growth and I didn’t want to back out now. (I mean, I absolutely DID want to back out, let’s be real ).

The days and nights leading up to it were anxious and restless, filled with thoughts like…

What the hell did I agree to do?!?

It’s so irresponsible to do this as a mom and wife.

What if the parachute doesn’t open, or I fall out of the harness, or my arms get pulled out of their socket (ya, that was a weird one)?!?!!

Oh and also, I could totally die today.

So I let myself feel all the terrifying things, thanked the protective parts of myself for sharing, and just kept moving forward.

When I was finally in the plane, standing on the precipice of what looked like death, the whispers turned into a loud scream: WRONG WAY. RUN!!

I realized this same pattern can happen in all areas of my life.

Right when I’m on the precipice of something big and unknown, fear chimes in.

It tells me all the things that could go wrong and why I absolutely should not do the scary thing in front of me.

It always happens right on the edge of growth, and if I let it, the fear can steal my joy and keep me small and paralyzed.

It’s here where you really learn that:

“Fear has two meanings: Forget Everything And Run Or Face Everything And Rise. The choice is ours.” – Zig Ziglar

So, today was bigger than a skydive for me.

It was about conquering fear in life.

Breaking limiting patterns.

Surrendering to something greater.

Trusting that if I chose to take the leap, it would all work out better than I could imagine…

And when I finally let go and let myself fall, I also feel myself Rise.

Great, appreciate you sharing that with us. Before we ask you to share more of your insights, can you take a moment to introduce yourself and how you got to where you are today to our readers.

Hi there! I am Jennifer Wolfe and I’m a relationship expert and coach who passionately helps guide my clients to unlock their true potential. I have an education background that includes degrees from UCLA in Sociology, and a Master’s degree in Counseling Psychology and Marriage and Family Therapy, as well as life coach training from esteemed coaches around the world. I have used my education, life experience and spiritual understanding to develop a unique approach to life and relationship coaching. I help my high-achieving clients prioritize their mental health by incorporating effective tools to allow them to regulate their nervous system and thrive. I have helped many of my clients heal past trauma, improve their relationships, and discover their true purpose in life. I strongly believe that we must “live it to give it” in the coaching industry, so I have strived to lead by being an example of all that I teach. My husband and I have become strong partners in all areas of life including raising two boys, creating our dream house, running a Film Production Company and of course adventuring around the world together. I also can be seen guest speaking on podcasts, retreats, and seminars worldwide.
By fostering authentic love for ourselves and others, my clients in turn, are able to have even greater impact in their own lives.

What’s a lesson you had to unlearn and what’s the backstory?

Unlearning Perfectionism… Turns out, AUTHENTIC is better than perfect!

I’ve always felt called to live an extraordinary life. But growing up, that call turned into an overwhelming pressure to be perfect. Perfectionism and fear of failure crushed my true self. Then, as I grew older, the pressure grew stronger. I tirelessly strived for approval from my family, co-workers, friends, boyfriends, even complete strangers, if they’d let me. Every time I’d seek out someone else’s approval, I lost a piece of myself.’ Feeling the pressure to perform consumed my life. I was convinced that so-called success was the key to unlock my value and my happiness.
But no matter how much approval I got on the outside, I still felt empty on the inside. Nonetheless, I continued striving to fill the void by checking off “the list”:

Graduate from UCLA, check.
Masters Degree in Psychology, check.
Married, check.
House, check.
Two Kids and a dog, check.
Great health, check check check!

I had done it! Over a 10-year period, I constructed what I thought was a successful life. But still, I felt there was something more. How can that be? I followed the formula. I checked off all the boxes. But even though I loved parts of my life, I didn’t feel like I was living out my truest potential. I felt I was missing something. I felt unfulfilled. I felt lost. I had followed the string of “shoulds”, believing the next milestone would be the ONE to quench my thirst for fulfillment. But, guess what? It never did. Then, one night, I had a dream, and everything changed.
I dreamt I dove into the depths of the ocean, with only one job I HAD to do: retrieve the most important, one-of-a-kind, golden key….and bring it back to the surface. Then, I woke up and it hit me. The key to unlock all that was missing was INSIDE of me. It always has been. My whole life, I had been looking in the wrong places. I had been following the paved path, convinced happiness was found ‘‘out there’’, it never occurred to me to look Inside and carve my own path.
As I began to clear the blocks holding me back and connect with my own truth, my unique path started to become clear and my life became extraordinary. My health, wealth, and love life skyrocketed to levels I could only dream of before. It all felt like magic. I finally found the key to unlock my true potential.

Do you think you’d choose a different profession or specialty if you were starting now?

If I look back over my life, I can see how it was always guiding me towards the coaching profession I find myself in now. Even the phase in my life where I was pursuing acting brought me closer to ultimately landing in this profession.

In fact, I cannot remember a time in my life when I did not have the all consuming passion to help people, and make a difference in their lives. This may mean many things to people, however, to me making a difference in someone’s life means to help them heal on an emotional and spiritual level. I believe that by doing this, one is able to live life to the fullest, in every way. My passion to help people in this way has been deepened through several experiences throughout my life.

As an adolescent, I had the privilege of traveling the world. As an adult, I have continued my travels with both my family as well as various coaching and retreat organizations. These experiences have all allowed me to work in close contact with the local people of many different cultures, and learn new perspectives. Through my travels, I have discovered that, as diverse and unique as each place is, there is a universal constant that runs throughout. All of us are taking a journey through life that is based on events that have happened to us. The journey is unique and personal for everyone, but the goal of healing and wholeness is the same. This universal understanding greatly increased my motivation to pursue a further study in depth psychology and coaching.

Another experience that has led me to this field has been my former studies. I studied both psychology and sociology at UCLA in order to understand these areas on a deeper level. I also studied Communications, stemming from my desire to learn more effective techniques to communicate to those around me. In addition to my studies at UCLA, I enrolled in a two-year acting program at the Ruskin School of Acting. This program, which focused on the Meisner technique, created a very therapeutic environment in order to hone the skills necessary to be an actor. The exercises in this class were developed to open up the actor in an emotional way. I learned to connect with myself, my scene partner, and the audience on a deeper and more intimate level. I found that by doing this, a deeper healing and understanding of myself and everyone around me was possible.

My greatest motivation to pursue a career in this field has come from my own healing experiences. In the midst of a personal marriage crisis more than a decade ago, I made the choice to embark on my own healing journey and seek help from multiple therapists and coaches. As a result of my work with them, and my own personal insights along the way, I was able to heal on an emotional and spiritual level from traumas as far back as childhood. I emerged from this process a healthier, happier, and stronger person, and so did my marriage! I left with an even broader understanding of myself and of the things that had been holding me back from living the life I have always wanted. It was then that I knew I wanted to pay this life changing and freeing process forward to as many people as I could!

Contact Info:

• Website: www.jenniferwolfeinc.com
• Instagram: @coachjennwolfe
• Facebook: Coach Jenn Wolfe and Jennifer Wolfe
• Linkedin: Jennifer (Middleton) Wolfe
• Other: TikTok: @coachjennwolfe

Image Credits
Don Holtz Andie Burke