We caught up with the brilliant and insightful Jacqueline Stevens a few weeks ago and have shared our conversation below.
Alright, Jacqueline thanks for taking the time to share your stories and insights with us today. What’s the kindest thing anyone has ever done for you?
It’s less about what someone has “done” and more about what they have “seen” and reflected back.
As a Relationship and Self Development Coach, one of my favorite parts about the work that I get to do with my clients is that there is such depth,
Many of my clients open up to me about their lives, relationships, and emotions in a way they haven’t opened up to many other people. They are ready for change and they know I will support them with transformation.
I don’t take that responsibility lightly and I know people share because I am able to cultivate trust.
Whenever I complete work with a client we have a wrap-up session where we celebrate their transformations and I ask for feedback about their experience. As I coach I hold the space for them to share, but this session always gets me into my feels. I have such a sense of pride in my work.
Seeing how people are able to step into stronger more secure relationships with themselves, break patterns, and make new aligned choices is so rewarding. Hearing clients say they couldn’t have done it without me, hearing about how grateful they are for what they’ve created (and destroyed), and understanding that my client’s gratitude envelopes me is a wonderful gift. The kindest gift!
Awesome – so before we get into the rest of our questions, can you briefly introduce yourself to our readers.
I’m Jax, your Dating Mentor. I help high-achieving, freedom-seeking, professionals, who are craving love, create more secure & juicy relationships.
Most people want to be in a relationship, but they don’t have a strategy or a strong modeling (foundation), and most people don’t have the awareness and skills to create the kind of relationship they really want.
That’s where I come in!
I support people to create Secure, JUICY relationships and teach them my method for Disrupting Dating.
My clients shift from dating as a sh*t show into dating as a spiritual journey.
I help people create CLARITY and confidence with dating.
I help people with the communication skills that will save them time and energy.
I help people take accountability for their past choices and support them in their healing so that they can start to choose partners that are aligned with what they want versus what they’ve had.
So many of my clients have worked really hard in their careers, yet they expected a “relationship” to happen.
Relationships are investments, and I teach people how to make wiser more aligned investments with their long term goals.
I work with people 1 on 1, in groups, and I also teach seminars.
What’s a lesson you had to unlearn and what’s the backstory?
I have made so many relationship “mistakes” aka lessons. The biggest lesson?
In my 20’s I did not have a plan, a strategy, or an understanding of what I really wanted and needed in a relationship.
I just dated people who felt good, until they ultimately made me feel bad.
I was insecure, unaware, and making choices that were fun in the short term, but that left me lonely in the long term.
My “why” was undefined.
If you were to ask yourself why you want to date or be in a relationship, and you don’t have clarity (outside of “so I’m less lonely), you will likely continue to struggle with dating.
Finding your WHY is tremendously important.
Can you share a story from your journey that illustrates your resilience?
I went through my dark night of the soul about 4 years ago.
I thought of myself as someone who “had it all”.
I was highly successful in my career, climbing the corporate ladder for some of the sexiest beauty brands on the planet.
I had a fancy job title, high-rise living in uptown Oakland, and frequent global travel, but I was struggling in my life and romantic relationship. I felt like I was an imposter in my own life.
From the outside, my life looked amazing.
From the inside, my life felt like a lie.
With a lot of trust and without a plan, I made the brave and necessary decision to leave my corporate career and my relationship.
I spent my time on healing and aligning my own energy.
I dove deep into personal development work, therapy, and coaching programs, I leaned into endless resources on sex and relationships, learned how to be a stronger communicator, and developed my emotional fitness and spiritual resilience.
And… I dated A LOT. Dating was a huge part of my spiritual journey.
I shifted from struggling as a people-pleasing high performer in my relationships
To have clarity, patience, and a roadmap (strategy) for how to create aligned relationships.
I developed mastery in understanding the energetics of dating apps, which helped me save my time and energy.
Through my personal journey, I’ve developed a method that cracks the code for the modern millennial to create more ease, growth, joy and so much more pleasure in their lives.
Contact Info:
- Website: https://joywithjax.com/
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datingjoywithjax/ or https://www.instagram.com/yogajoywithjax/
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/joywithjax
- Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jacquelinestevens/
- Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@joywithjax