Alright – so today we’ve got the honor of introducing you to Holly Lockett. We think you’ll enjoy our conversation, we’ve shared it below.

Holly, thanks for joining us, excited to have you contributing your stories and insights. Can you recount a time when the advice you provided to a client was really spot on? (Please note this response is for education/entertainment purposes only and shouldn’t be construed as advice for the reader)

This one was hard for me to answer because I had no real way of knowing so I asked a few of my clients to answer it for me. Here are some responses.

I fall back on and use your comment to me of “take a deep breath and remember that this situation, this moment in time, this stressor is TEMPORARY. It’s awful and hard right now, but it is temporary. It will pass.” I cannot tell you how many times I have been wiping up shit or sitting in a hospital and I hear your voice in my head say that. It has gotten me through countless moments where I Could easily have lashed out or ramped up inappropriately, instead, I breathe and remind myself that it is temporary.

“There is some kind of secondary gain. Like some people stay stuck to use it as an excuse or “out.” Some people are afraid to feel better because if they feel better what happens if they have a bad day? There are several reasons we just need to figure out yours, change it and then you get to be happy. “

I think the best thing you ever tell me is to not feel guilty when i’m having a tough time in my head. like for example when i tell you when i get frustrated with myself for still struggling so much after almost 5 years of losing my dad and you remind me like GIRL you lost your DAD it is okay to still have hard times and bad days and anxiety, etc. i guess basically when you validate me for still struggling as much as i do it means a lot. no timeline on grief kind of thing.

I try to make sure to always give my clients hope. When we have hope we can find the tools top make like better.

Holly, love having you share your insights with us. Before we ask you more questions, maybe you can take a moment to introduce yourself to our readers who might have missed our earlier conversations?

I really never wanted to be a therapist. I had planned to go to law school and become a family law attorney. Then, I got a phone call that changed my life. My brother had died and my parents were distraught and my world as I knew it ended forever. Through this process I saw how horrible grief and trauma are handled and was horrified. My niece was five at the time so I wanted to find her the best therapist possible yet at every turn I kept being told “she just needs to cry her way through it.” I could not believe what I was hearing, I also saw what my parents were going through and the fact that people don’t really even talk about the death of a sibling. The entire process was eye opening and all the worst ways. I was complaining to one of my friends (who is now my business partner) about it and he flat out told me that I have 2 choices… either keep complaining or change it… During that conversation I realized law school was not the road I needed to be on so I switched it up and set out on a mission to change how we deal with grief and trauma and help people heal. Now I specialize in grief, trauma and attachment disorders.

I think the thing I am the most proud is the practice that we have built. I truly believe we have a team of the best therapists and coaches around. We have a very diverse practice and everyone specializes in something different. That means that whoever calls with whatever issue we have someone who can help. The practice is growing and evolving. We have two locations in Frisco and will be opening another location in Tennessee this year. We also are developing a network of therapists and coaches all over the country who will provide virtual sessions.

What do you think helped you build your reputation within your market?

In my line of work it is all about word of mouth. If you provide high quality care with results people will refer you when their friends or family is in need. I have been so lucky to have worked with incredible people. I always feel bad when people need me but I am so glad that everyone in my office has the skills to help!

Do you think you’d choose a different profession or specialty if you were starting now?

Without a doubt I would choose my profession. I have had the honor of helping people change their lives, heal from their wounds and live happy healthy lives despite of what happened to them.

Contact Info:

• Website: www.friscocounselingandwellness.com
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Jessica Tidguist- JJ’s Perfect Shots