We caught up with the brilliant and insightful Heather Davila a few weeks ago and have shared our conversation below.

Heather, thanks for joining us, excited to have you contributing your stories and insights. Parents play a huge role in our development as youngsters and sometimes that impact follows us into adulthood and into our lives and careers. Looking back, what’s something you think you parents did right?

I grew up in a 2 parent, loving household. My Mom and Dad were generous, strict, and hard working. My Dad owned his own business and my mom worked for our church. They both are helpers. They taught me that hard work will go unseen, but that doesn’t make it fruitless.

Often, on Saturday nights, we would be putting up the make-shift meeting place for kids within the church for Sunday services. This included wheeling out temporary walls that unfolded, and then were covered with bright posters that stuck to the carpeted walls with velcro. The space had a stage and folding chairs. Without fail, we would be there, setting up the space.

Kid would show up to the next day, completely unaware of the work it took to prepare for them. Looking back, I can see that I wasn’t even a part of half of the work. My Mom had prepared lessons, crafts, songs, and intricate applications for the children as well. And then when the hour was up, we would tear it all down again. Like none of it had ever happened. Week after week, year after year, we created space for the children to be taught.

This weekly labor impacted more than I can express. It taught me that most of my work would be unappreciated, unseen by most. It taught me that every act of love, every moment of service did not feel warm and inviting. Sometimes you gave with white knuckles and a clenched jaw. And sometimes you gave with a song in your heart and smile on your face. Both ways worked. Both ways got the job done. It was up to me how I wanted to do this unseen, thankless job.

As always, we appreciate you sharing your insights and we’ve got a few more questions for you, but before we get to all of that can you take a minute to introduce yourself and give our readers some of your back background and context?

I got into Life Coaching because I wanted to help people. When I was staying home with my kids, my favorite thing to do was have one mom over (with her children) and be able to have deep, transformative conversation. I realized what I really wanted in those conversations was to help these women move forward. When I heard about coaching through a podcast – it fit with what I wanted to do.

I empower women leaders! When leaders work with me, they grow in their confidence. I work one on one with my leadership clients, and I speak at events and do trainings. I offer my Confidence Bootcamp Course on my website – which is the four step approach to growing your confidence.

What sets me apart from other coaches is that I am Christian and I am a ICF Certified coach. I have almost 5 years of experience and I have coached for over 700 hours. The BIG difference with me is that I have a fun AND direct approach to my coaching. When you come to a coaching session, you will be ready to explore what’s possible and get those obstacles out of the way. I believe that you will do the impossible.

I am most proud of my clients. They have done amazing things that an older version of themselves would not have believed. One of my clients came to me in a job she hated, AND she also felt trapped there. Now she is in a job she loves, 50 pounds lighter, running marathons, enjoying her family time, and making herself more important. I love what I get to do.

What’s a lesson you had to unlearn and what’s the backstory?

All of my upbringing, I was told that money and wealth lead to sin and pride. When I started my business, I wanted to make money AND I thought that making money was bad. It was a tug of war in my brain and in my heart. I had to unlearn these stories. I had to remember that Jesus did not say that MONEY is the root of all evil, but the LOVE of money.

Money does not equal bad things. Money is actually what makes many good things happen.

This was a revelation to me. And, thankfully, I now have a much better relationship with money and wealth, but it has taken a lot of deep work (through my own coaching).

Let’s talk about resilience next – do you have a story you can share with us?

I used to offer online webinars. Free. I would offer to teach people a new tool, and then coach them on how to use it. I would spend weeks creating the content, the landing page, the emails to sell the free event.

And no one would show up.

It was devastating.

And yet, even when NO ONE showed up, I would do the webinar for myself. I would record myself talking, and send it out to everyone who had signed up. Eventually, people did start showing up for these webinars. And the work I did on these webinars led to my Confidence Bootcamp that has created amazing results for each camper!

Contact Info:

• Website: https://heatherdavilacoaching.com/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heatherk2949/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/heather.davila.7186
• Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/heather-davila-aa9068222/
• Youtube: Heather Davila @heatherdavila4829