We recently connected with Erin Berry and have shared our conversation below.

Erin, appreciate you joining us today. Can you recount a time when the advice you provided to a client was really spot on? (Please note this response is for education/entertainment purposes only and shouldn’t be construed as advice for the reader)

The best advice I’ve given clients is the same advice I’ve needed at different points in my life. As a coach I am constantly advised by my own advice because I do this work because it changed my own life. This advice is unpopular because we are in a society that tends to see endings as failure. It is somehow better to suck it up and be miserable than to move on and find something that is more aligned with your desires and vision. We spend years in resistance to change when really everything we desire is on the other side of that resistance.
This could be leaving the toxic relationship, the miserable job, the friendship that drains you. It could be setting the boundary, it could be speaking your truth. Whatever it is, we create so much resistance around change.
Endings are not failures. In fact, new beginnings come for the completion of something else.
I watch my clients try to make things work that are broken. This creates so much stress and unhappiness.
Sometimes the kindest thing we can do for ourselves and for those involved is to walk away.
If something isn’t serving us, chances are that we aren’t serving it either!

Erin, love having you share your insights with us. Before we ask you more questions, maybe you can take a moment to introduce yourself to our readers who might have missed our earlier conversations?

I am a certified Love, Sex, and Relationship Coach that specializes in women and couples. I help the dissatisfied heal relational wounds, create deep intimacy and mind blowing pleasure. I got into this work because my own healing around my relationships, intimacy and pleasure was life changing.
I knew there had to be more than what I was experiencing, and I set off on an epic journey to discover what was possible.
I blew my own mind with what I’ve uncovered and discovered and I want to share it all!!!
I feel most of this should be taught in the 5th grade. We all do relationship but most of us are not modeled healthy behavior or explained what we are actually up to, so we spend our lives repeating the same old patterns over and over. When it comes to our intimacy, so many of us just barely scratch the surface and yet so much of the time there is a longing for more!
There is a different and way better way. I love teaching how.
I geek out on this stuff and the more I learn the more I want to learn.
I work with my clients on healing their relational wounding from childhood and from the experiences they’ve had through life. I teach them how to get intimate with themselves so they know what they desire and that they are worthy of having it. I teach my clients how to trust their inner knowing and how to stand in their truth in the world.
I also work with couples to create safety for deep intimacy using connection, communication, and tantric techniques to create deeper and better sex lives.
I am a somatic coach meaning that I heal through the body. All of our patterns, trauma, and stress get stuck in our tissues and my practices help to clear them at a deep level. I myself had done a lot of other coaching, therapy, and healing work, and this style of coaching was the game changer for me.
I do a lot of work with the nervous system, attachment styles, and helping humans reprogram themselves to a new and healthier way of relating.
I also help couples learn interdependent ways of relating that create a safety and more secure connection.
I work with clients 1:1, in group programs, and at live retreats and workshops.
I’m most excited that I help people have deeper and juicier connection and remember that pleasure is their birthright!

Training and knowledge matter of course, but beyond that what do you think matters most in terms of succeeding in your field?

Lived experience. Embodying the work that I do is extremely important. It helps me to understand my clients and meet them on a level that just simple book knowledge would not. I also believe that a good coach has to have a level of compassion, empathy and a knowledge on how to create safety. So often old traumas and experiences surface to be integrated. If someone cannot hold the person in this process, it can create more harm. I also think a bonus is creating fun and playfulness. So much of the healing work can be heavy and there is definitely a component of a cosmic joke to all of it. I like to bring in a big of lightness and joy where i can.

Can you tell us about a time you’ve had to pivot?

7 years ago I made a big pivot in just about every area of life. I went from married and in the corporate world to single and running my own business. I really had to embrace change to have a lot of faith and trust in myself. I knew both my old life and my old job were not right for me anymore. I also understand that change is the only constant. I believe that endings are not bad, but clear space for what is next.
I am so glad I did! Although it hasn’t always been an easy road and the past several years have been filled with healing and growth, I do not regret my decision for a moment.
I live an aligned life in all areas and now I get to show otters how to do the same!
I think too often in life we get stuck in situations that no longer serve us. I spent many years like this in total resistance. What I keep learning time and time again is that everything I desire is right on the other side of that resistance. I’ve learned to push through it and to honor what I know I need to do. Never easy but worth it.

Contact Info:

• Website: erinberrybliss.com
• Instagram: @pleasurepriestess111
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/eberryblissful/

Image Credits
Alissa Messeroff & Kelly Eileen Shroads