We recently connected with Emily Rasowsky and have shared our conversation below.

Emily, thanks for joining us, excited to have you contributing your stories and insights. If you had a defining moment that you feel really changed the trajectory of your career, we’d love to hear the story and details.

I will never forget the moment I decided to flip my life completely on its head. I was sitting in my friend’s car after an impromptu coffee date complaining about my life, my work, my reality. I lamented about how I wish I could just change it all and run away to somewhere beautiful to live completely free of the heaviness I was feeling. I was 15 years into a battle with anorexia. The first two years the disease showed through starvation, the rest of those 13 years was a mental and emotional battle I was fighting every day. I had gotten myself into two long-term abusive relationships, a job launching a new product at Amazon – which was impressive but incredibly toxic, and patterns of coping that weren’t really serving me anymore. I wanted something more.

At this point, I had spent several years working as a healer on the side of my very intense day job. See, I’d learn new healing skills in the pursuit of healing myself not really with any intention of healing others…at least not full time. But then word would get out that I could read charts super well or do reiki or hold powerful breathwork sessions and then I’d slowly get booked up. My nights and weekends were always full of doing healing work for other people.

Then, in between sips of my now stale coffee, my friend asked me a question that changed my life: ‘What if it all were possible? Like actually, really, fully possible?’ He then instructed me to close my eyes and feel into my body. Did I mention he was a coach who had spent several years traveling the world seeking truth and spirituality? Funny how life brings you the right person at the right time with the right questions.

He then instructed me to feel my fear. The fear that told me that I couldn’t do it. I would loose everything and I would be lost. I felt that fear and my body started to shake. I started to cry. Then he guided me to think about being totally free. Picking up my life, moving to another place surrounded by nature and warmth, living however I wanted to every single day. I had never felt something so energizing in my life. It was like a window flung open and finally I tasted fresh air for the first time. I felt a strong pull in the space below my belly button. I knew it was time. I was ready. I could do this and I was going to do this.

Within one month of that moment, I had left my job, my friends, my apartment, my partner—I left my life. I picked up and moved to Costa Rica without a single plan for what would come next.

After that move, my anorexia was totally gone. No looping thoughts, no making myself an emotional punching bag, nada. I looked back and, much to my surprise, I realized I actually healed myself. It was wild to me and I was motivated to help others heal too. So, I dedicated myself to backtracking my steps and providing a map to others going through the same things I was going through. I shifted my work to being a healer full time and a business builder part time. I picked up singing again, and began to dedicate myself to a new version of me.

Emily, before we move on to more of these sorts of questions, can you take some time to bring our readers up to speed on you and what you do?

My specialty is healing control-based disorders. Control-based disorders are disease or patterns that present themselves as a result of an unbalance or wounding with the energy of control. This can typically happen through abuse – both physical and energetic.

Disorders can be: eating disorders, addictive behaviors, dependency on alcohol, etc. These can be ‘active’ or ‘passive’ disorders meaning you could have had an eating disorder as a young person and no longer starve yourself but feel mental turmoil around food or have a reliance on control in several areas of life.

The work I do follows a 6 stage process. I work with people both 1:1 and educate people on this process. The 6 stages follow the path that I followed to clear myself of all of the symptoms of anorexia – looping thoughts, physical starvation, and emotional distress around food.

The 6 steps include:
-Ground the central nervous system: Get the body into a state where it can relax enough to naturally start healing.
-Get to the root. When we dive into childhood memories where the energetic insertion of control was created, we can better understand why we are the way we are and how this control-based energy first got in.
-Inner child expression. The connection to the inner child helps you feel unprocessed emotions and rewire the brain towards safety.
-Creativity & intuition. Creating art , making music, or using your hands creates a center as a call of revolution and reclamation to -help repair old wounds.
-Clear your lineage. Clearing all the ancestral trauma you unknowingly carry with you.
-Reclaim your purpose. Knowing what you’re here to do and what you’re here to teach and share is critical to help you get through the last hump of clearing all these little bits of control-based energy.

What’s a lesson you had to unlearn and what’s the backstory?

In my journey to healing, I was addicted to external validation. The more I achieved, the more highs I had and the emptier I felt.

I think a lot of people talk about this. And what I wish I knew was that this wasn’t just something I could ‘stop’ it was actually a coping mechanism. I had root trauma around sexual abuse and at that time my brain was rewired to believe the world was not a safe place and I had zero control over my life. In an attempt to grapple for that control, I would do anything. I would push myself to extremes and ride all day on adrenaline. That adrenaline feeds the energy of control, which in my work I call an ‘entity’. The more I drove myself to win or achieve, the worse I got.

When I got into self-help and healing, a lot of healers told me I wasn’t grounded and that I needed to do all these things to get ‘better’. So I forced myself into routines of relaxation. And shamed myself when I didn’t do all 1000 things I needed to do because someone told me to, in order to ground myself.

I had to let go of that self blame. I had to let go of my strict wellness routines. I had to let myself be out of control around my wellness. It was terrifying. And something I work with people on…because unwinding control is a delicate and complex. process.

What’s been the most effective strategy for growing your clientele?

For me it’s 100% word of mouth. I give myself limits on when I work with people and how many so I can fully show up for my clients. This leads to deep transformation and referrals. It also means I get to work on other projects in between so I diversify my income and stay focused on providing results AND giving myself creativity, play and flow. I know I wouldn’t be happy just doing one thing over and over and I set myself up to give that to myself.

Contact Info:

• Website: www.emilyrasowsky.com
• Instagram: @emilyrasowsky
• Twitter: @erasowsky
• Other: TikTok @emilyrasowsky

Image Credits
Paula Simons Photography