We caught up with the brilliant and insightful Dr. Venessa a few weeks ago and have shared our conversation below.

Dr. Venessa, thanks for taking the time to share your stories with us today If you had a defining moment that you feel really changed the trajectory of your career, we’d love to hear the story and details.

Love Over and Over Again (Switch).

HEED THE WARNINGS and TRIGGERS.

Dr. Vee’s defining moment is when she went through a 27-year divorce from what she thought was the love of her life. The divorce crushed me holistically and today, I am grateful for the crushing. You see without the crushing, there would be no testimony for those that have and are going through what I am growing through. Revelations 12:11 tells us, “And they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb, and by the word of their testimony”.

I married my son’s father 27-years ago thinking this was it, and I never had to have another man in my life. Quiet as kept, the truth is we married young, with the some of the same aspirations and to never divorce….NO MATTER WHAT!! I never intended for a divorce to manifest, but the movements made, growing apart and several times me leaving finally resulted in a final decision to divorce…. this is over three decades, a son and a grandson in our name and bloodline. Yeah!!! this SHIT has created a wound in my soul that BROKE ME to taking my life. I was in ICU on a ventilator for four days and the nurse’s told my daughter she will not live, and we have to pull the plug. And if she lives, she will be a vegetable. My son told me he didn’t want to come to my aid, and his father and wife encouraged him come to my aid, which leaves a scar in my soul just to hear these words from his mouth!!

As result of all this madness, my Creator allowed me to live will always remind me of my worthiness and the importance of God calling me to such a time as this.

DISCLAIMER: Who are you to judge me? You got your own shit to shift through!! Many will not even share this, but I hold to my divine purpose to help others be delivered from the very thing I have been redeemed from!!

Ladies and Gentlemen, I am learning how to be alone with ME and sex is just a worldly thing that keeps me soul-tied to someone that was meant only for fleshly desires, destruction, demise and a season. Allow me to be transparent if you will, I love men, smell good, looks good, holding his own and the SEX… I thought I had it. Nonetheless, I was mistaken! I now understand why we should not have sex until marriage, due to the ties that come along with it. Have you ever thought of someone from the past, and they janky ass popped up? Have you thought of someone that you thought loved you from your past and they popped up? THIS my dear, is an act of the enemy to destroy and distract you from your birthright!! It is only until now, in my own space, no man, and the attention of God Himself that is resulting in me understanding, “If God be for me, who can be against me. Romans 8:31

I am learning that all that looks good, feels good is not finality. I am also learning that I ran from God, from myself… but guess what?? I am single, in a nice crib, vehicle and business that GOD and only God created. Which leads me to this:

1) Although my heart has been broken by lies and deception (on both he and I) I can still float on my broken pieces. As long as I stay the course in God.

2) All things happen for a reason and people come into outlives for a season… PERIOD!! Nothing Further!

3) Forgiveness is necessary to all that have hurt you in order to rise to the next level.

4) It is what is is…..
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.

5) Plug into your HIGHER POWER and never allow earthly things to distract you…

6) Let go and let God in HIS loving power. He will deal with those that desire our demise.

7) You have been called to a Greater Purpose and Calling….RISE UP and accept your Mantle.

Awesome – so before we get into the rest of our questions, can you briefly introduce yourself to our readers.

Dr. Venessa is a person that has a heart to love and be loved. However, discernment is vital on my self-discovery journey.

We’d love to hear a story of resilience from your journey.

I have learned from my 27 year marriage that ended in divorce, I love to love and be loved….. equally yoked.

Can you tell us about a time you’ve had to pivot?

It is very important to understand your value and worth. You and I have so much to give to the world, which results in pain that positions us for higher purpose. You are so worthy to breathe in the space you have, NEVER allow anyone to zap you of this spiritual power.

Contact Info:

• Website: https://www.sdp3.org