Alright – so today we’ve got the honor of introducing you to Doug McGhee. We think you’ll enjoy our conversation, we’ve shared it below.

Doug , appreciate you joining us today. Was there a defining moment in your professional career? A moment that changed the trajectory of your career?

There were a few defining moments in my career. The one that stands out occurred on a hot and sunny Colorado Summer evening. I was mowing our lawn and although I had established myself as a success. Meaning family as well as owning a successful small business, a portfolio of real estate, a beautiful home with a pool, fountain, and pond on two and a half acres. But inside I felt empty and unfulfilled.

In that moment gazing over what I had been programmed would offer happiness, fulfillment, and joy I knew there was another path. The message I received was that I would have to confront all the social programming and begin to deconstruct my life and rebuilt it with a solid foundation. Beginning with the truth.

Including reinventing myself professionally and as well as my marriage.

As always, we appreciate you sharing your insights and we’ve got a few more questions for you, but before we get to all of that can you take a minute to introduce yourself and give our readers some of your background and context?

For most of my career, I was in financial services and mortgage lending. For much of that time my passion was learning about the limitations and the power of the mind. I learned and practiced how directing my attention deliberately would create a different experience than allowing my mind to simply react from auto pilot. I enrolled in a lot of courses, read books, and studied, I was obsessed and what I noticed was how when I viewed life differently, I would have a different experience. I leveraged this in my business as a mortgage banker during one of the greatest economic melt downs in history.

I began to coach and teach others the same and they wanted more. Initially I coached and mentored others in the mortgage industry and that expanded beyond to a thriving coaching business. My heart connects with men who experienced a similar path as me. Successful and not fulfilled.

Realm.Men is different because we are a men’s leadership community and roles, and identities are not significant. Commitment to becoming a better man is the primary theme and doing “the work” on a consistent basis.  This is how change occurs and is sustainable. It’s not enough anymore just to know but with the social dynamics confronting men it is essential to know how.

We are different because we share a code and a lifestyle that elevates individuals and community.

Other than training/knowledge, what do you think is most helpful for succeeding in your field?

Many coaches have certifications and credentials but there is one thing that elevates a coach beyond information and knowledge and that is life experience. There is no substitution for the wisdom that flows from life’s experiences. Transformational coaching is not a concept or an ideal it is an embodied experience that is beyond the intellect. Realm Men guides men to live, learn and then lead a four dimensional life. Professionally, Physically, Relationally & Spiritually.

As the founder and lead coach I have lived this lifestyle, not perfect by any means but it is foundational to creating and having agency over a man’s life. Men practice the lifestyle in a community with a defined framework and weekly support.

The five themes thR ensure success in a coaching business.

1) Be a product of the product.
2) Community. (we all learn from each other.)
3) Consistency. (a weekend meeting or retreat is wonderful, but lifestyle change occurs over time with consistent focus and support. )
4) Safety. (if the environment is not safe, clientele may withhold and protect. This stunts growth and learning. )
5) Have Fun.

What do you think helped you build your reputation within your market?

What has helped me build my reputation is an insatiable desire for personal growth and to support others in their growth.

Honesty and vulnerability are critical to allow others’ permission to be honest and vulnerable with themselves. When the bedrock is the truth miracles are possible.

I have made mistakes and had success in my life both personally and professionally.
I have learned from both my failures and success and when relevant I share with my clients.
I also believe our unique initiatives and the results men are experiencing has been our proof of concept. Being a product of the product.

Finally, my passion for expansion, growth, learning and challenging myself and others to do the same.

In our community we refer to Realm.Men as a “Challenged Based Lifestyle.”

Contact Info:

• Website: www.realm.men
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• Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/realm-men

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Eric Scott Wilmoth Photography