Alright – so today we’ve got the honor of introducing you to Casaundra Hope. We think you’ll enjoy our conversation, we’ve shared it below.

Alright, Casaundra thanks for taking the time to share your stories and insights with us today. Let’s go back in time to when you were an intern or apprentice – what’s an interesting story you can share from that stage of your career?

When I decided to bring BDSM sessions into my practice I knew I would need more knowledge than my personal adventures offered. I began to serve as a Dominant with a fellow Dom and her Submissive who had been in the scene for over 30 years each. They were both leaders in the kink community and I was so excited and nervous. I showed up to my first lesson acting all tough only to be met with a lesson on how to be kind yet in charge. I had always thought I needed to be mean in order to be dominant. I couldn’t have been further from the truth. What I got to learn was how to be a leader, how to be a warm trustworthy place for a submissive to surrender. I was not administering punishment, I was bringing them into an inner world where they can be at peace in their soul. It all started to fall into place and I began to grow personally in so many ways with this new shift in dominance. This simple concept completely changed my perception of my role as dominant and has allowed me to bring my clients into a deep sub space, a space where healing and authenticity can flourish. I have now been working in this field professionally for 6 years bringing liberation and growth to my clients one spanking at a time.

Awesome – so before we get into the rest of our questions, can you briefly introduce yourself to our readers.

I am a Trauma Informed Relationship and Intimacy Coach specializing in Tantra and Kink. I pride myself on providing transformative experiences as well as soul awakening coaching. My education for my work didn’t begin at a school. It started long before any formal education. I was born into a Jehovah’s Witness family, where I was raised to be a submissive Christian woman. However, this blueprint did not serve me well. At the age of 16, in 1996, I became a wife and mother as I was “supposed to be.” But in 1999, I had a full breakdown and made the brave decision to leave both the marriage and the cult with my three children, all under the age of three. I had no support, and the only way I could care for my children and myself was by working in a strip club.

This new world was unfamiliar and terrifying to me. However, it was in this “life of sin” that a part of me was born. One night, during a Fetish party at the club, I dressed up and bought a riding crop for effect. It was during that party that my manager requested I do a girl-on-girl scene, and it was on that stage that my inner dominant side awakened. This part of me has been leading the charge of my personal sexual liberation ever since.

Unfortunately, the story doesn’t end there. Over the next 15 years, my childhood trauma, coupled with many negative experiences, led me into a nearly fatal battle with alcoholism. I struggled for over a year to become sober, going in and out of treatment centers until I finally found sobriety in 2014. It was during my journey to sobriety and while working through my past sexual abuse trauma that I discovered the practice of Tantra. Tantra helped me reconnect with my true self at my core, which ultimately led me back to the BDSM scene, seeking more conscious and fulfilling practices that I could enjoy without relying on mind and soul-numbing substances.

Given my extensive background in sexual repression, sexual liberation, and experimentation in various areas, I couldn’t imagine myself doing anything else. My entire life is a testament to breaking free from repressed, traumatized, and shamed sexuality, allowing me to live authentically.

For the past six years, I have dedicated myself to adding professional training to my personal knowledge. Today, I help singles and couples open up to their authentic selves through conscious communication and self-awareness. My services include Tantra and Kink as methods for discovering your deepest desires and bringing them to life. Each session is tailored to the specific needs of my clients, as there is no “one size fits all” approach. I take into account factors such as cultural upbringing, childhood pain and trauma, past sexual experiences, and desires for future sexual experiences when creating sessions for my clients. My services not only reignite the spark in your sex life but also work towards healing the parts of you that hold back from being your most authentic and confident self.

I am incredibly proud to have a marriage that reflects the teachings I offer. In the process of healing my own sexuality, I became a magnet for an amazing man whom I met in 2019. Together, we love and play in all areas of life. My three daughters, now in their mid-20s, have given me the joy of having three wonderful sons-in-law and five incredible granddaughters. The generational curse of servitude, abuse, and neglect has shifted in my lineage, and I am honored to be at the forefront of that change.

So, if you are seeking something different or are ready to break through limiting belief systems, allow me to be your warm guide into the depths of who you really are. Let us embark on a transformative journey together.

We often hear about learning lessons – but just as important is unlearning lessons. Have you ever had to unlearn a lesson?

Growing up in a puritanical cult had a profound impact on my sense of self. It left me feeling invisible, as if my thoughts, feelings, and desires didn’t matter. In order to reclaim my identity, I embarked on a journey of unlearning the core lessons that had been ingrained in me during my first 20 years on this planet.

It was a process of rediscovering my voice, my emotions, and my capacity to love. I had to let go of the restrictive beliefs and rules that had defined my existence for so long. I had to peel back the layers of conditioning and societal expectations to uncover the truth of who I really am.

This unlearning process was not easy. It required a great deal of self-reflection, introspection, and courage. I had to question everything I had been taught and challenge the beliefs that no longer served me. It was a journey of self-discovery, of embracing my authentic self, and of learning to love and accept all aspects of who I am.

Through this process, I began to understand that my worthiness as a human being is not determined by external rules or judgments. I learned that my voice matters, my feelings are valid, and my capacity to love is boundless. I embraced my individuality, my unique perspective, and my right to express myself freely.

Unlearning who I thought I was allowed me to uncover the truth of who I really am. It opened up a world of possibilities and gave me the freedom to create my own path, guided by my own values and desires. It liberated me from the confines of a narrow worldview and allowed me to embrace my full potential.

While the journey of unlearning and rediscovery was challenging, it has been incredibly rewarding. I now stand as a visible human, unafraid to speak my truth, to feel deeply, and to love wholeheartedly. I am no longer bound by the limitations imposed upon me by others. Instead, I am empowered to live authentically, to embrace my true self, and to inspire others to do the same.

In my work, I am committed to helping others navigate their own journeys of unlearning and self-discovery. I believe that each person has the power to redefine themselves, to shed the layers of conditioning, and to step into their true essence. Together, we can break free from the chains of societal expectations and embrace the beauty and power of our authentic selves.

We’d love to hear a story of resilience from your journey.

When I was a year and a half sober and in my first sober relationship, a significant event occurred that tested my strength and determination. My daughters bravely disclosed their father’s sexual abuse, and in the same breath, my current boyfriend revealed his true colors by blaming me for their father’s actions and calling me a bad mother during an argument.

In that moment, something shifted within me. A power surged through me like never before. It was a fight I had never experienced. Despite the immense pain and turmoil, I made two pivotal decisions: I stayed sober, and I immediately ended the relationship with my boyfriend. Furthermore, I took the step of reporting their father to the authorities.

I will never forget the fire that burned inside me that day. It was a fire fueled by a fierce determination to protect my daughters and ensure they received the support and response to sexual abuse that I had longed for as a child. Together, we embarked on a journey of healing, becoming closer as a family and supporting each other through the process.

It would have been easy to succumb to the alcoholic inside me, the voice that begged for a drink to numb the pain. But I refused to give in. I walked through that fire, facing the pain head-on, without relying on substances to cope. In doing so, I not only demonstrated my commitment to my own sobriety but also showed my daughters the strength and resilience that lies within them.

This experience reinforced my determination to fight for justice and healing, not just for myself but for others who have experienced similar trauma. It has deepened my understanding of the importance of maintaining sobriety and the power that comes from facing challenges head-on. I am proud of the progress we have made as a family and the strength we have found in each other.

No matter how difficult the journey may be, I am committed to walking the path of healing and empowerment, both for myself and for those who seek my guidance. Together, we can overcome the darkest of times and emerge stronger, more resilient, and ready to embrace life’s challenges with unwavering determination.

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