We were lucky to catch up with Brianca Hardy recently and have shared our conversation below.

Hi Brianca, thanks for joining us today. We’d love to hear about the best advice you’ve ever given to a client? (Please note this response is for education/entertainment purposes only and shouldn’t be construed as advice for the reader)

A story from my journey that illustrates my resilience, which I often share, is my experience with toxic love. In 2019, I found myself in a romantic relationship that shattered me inwardly. Honestly it wasn’t even a real relationship it was a “situationship”. You know those romantic connections that are less of a relationship and more of a chaotic situation, that’s exactly what I was in. I thought that I was in love with this man but I wasn’t at all. It was only lust. This man gave me the bare minimum in affection yet his belittling words, condescending remarks, and male chauvinistic outlook were always at a maximum.

In that situationship I found myself morphing into an insecure woman that walked in rooms with her head held down. I now know that my lack of identity made it so convenient for me to quickly settle for a “love” like that. In addition, having low self-worth was the very thing that cause me to hang onto this toxic man’s every word. And boy, did he have many. As he showered me with harsh words and labels, I often accepted them as my truth. Within the toxic relationship, I was labeled manipulative and egotistic. I was told that my various dreams and aspirations were pointless, among other horrendous things.

I finally broke free from that relationship, analyzed myself, and realized that I needed to do a lot of inner work to be restored. With the help of the Holy Spirit, I knew I needed to heal from my mother and father wounds, discover my true identity, and gain my confidence back. That’s exactly what I did. I created a 10 month blueprint that mapped out month by month how I was going to heal from within. I did the necessary work to heal my soul and it worked.

I thank God that this particular part of my journey happened. It was so difficult but it showed me how resilient I am and how determined I am to not repeat toxic patterns again.

Brianca, love having you share your insights with us. Before we ask you more questions, maybe you can take a moment to introduce yourself to our readers who might have missed our earlier conversations?

Hi everyone, I am Brianca E Hardy. I am an Inner Healing Life Coach and I help single Christian women who are tired of dating toxic wounded men heal in the area of love. I do this by teaching women to first focus on healing their mother and father wounds. Then I help them to identify toxic wounded men and teach ways to avoid falling in love with another toxic man again.

I started my business because God shared with me that indeed helping women heal from soul wounds was apart of my purpose. I also felt my personal life experiences qualified me to do this specific work. In addition, my training and certification adds an additional stamp of validation to my work.

Unbeknownst to me, initially I had become my very first client. I was the single Christian woman that was tired of dating toxic men. So I rolled up my sleeves and started my healing process and it worked. When I realized that my healing process was successful it pushed me to want to help other women heal too. I knew that I wasn’t the only single Christian woman that had been wounded in love. However, I also was fully aware that not too many women recognized the necessary steps they should take to be whole and restored.

As a life coach, I enjoy accepting speaking engagements that give me the opportunity to teach to broader audiences about mother and father wounds. I offer 1 on 1 coaching services as well. Along with services, I have a plethora of products I offer. My most popular product is the “Done Dating Wounded Course”. This self-paced online course is the very blueprint that I used in my own journey to heal. The course includes video teachings and downloadable pdf activities to walk each woman step by step into freedom. I also have ebooks, webinars, and workbooks that focus on the follow topics: self-love, creating boundaries, how to identify a wounded man, and more.

We’d love to hear a story of resilience from your journey.

A lesson that I had to unlearn was my belief about boundaries. I was under the notion that boundaries were not necessary and only needed when a relationship was headed in a bad direction. Which is completely untrue and all relationships need boundaries. Furthermore, in the unlearning, I learned that without boundaries in romantic relationships, we set ourselves up for a demise of some sort.

Especially in romantic relationships I had to stop the “go with the flow” method and honor myself by identifying my idea of a healthy relationship and discover the boundaries I needed to bring that idea into reality. That took some time, I had to learn myself more in order to
create suitable boundaries for me.

Any stories or insights that might help us understand how you’ve built such a strong reputation?

Showing up actively on social media with my face, personality, and knowledge help me to build my reputation in my market. The key to it has really been my consistency. I am on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, and Youtube consistency bringing value to my audiences. Social media allows me to share my expertise in short video and long video content, which gives my viewers quick wins and big value in a matter of seconds. This puts me in a great position because now when people think about mother and father wounds or Christian dating or identifying toxic men, with the reputation I have built they now think of me as the solution.

I also think my unique combination of inner healing knowledge while showcasing Jesus Christ as the ultimate healer and combining that truth with psychology’s attachment theory sets me apart from other coaches. This unique spin allows me to speak to the entire woman in every facet (spirit, mind, and body). My goal in every form of content I share is to present to women this idea that toxic romantic patterns aren’t solely a spiritual matter but also a psychological matter that can be approached logically. This distinctive combination sets me apart and gives my brand a pragmatic yet spiritual foundation. I found that people love that especially on social media.

Contact Info:

• Website: www.briancahardy.com
• Instagram: @brianca.hardy
• Facebook: B.H. Inner Healing Services
• Youtube: Life with Brianca
• Other: Tiktok : @brianca.hardy