We’re excited to introduce you to the always interesting and insightful Belinda Tung. We hope you’ll enjoy our conversation with Belinda below.
Belinda, appreciate you joining us today. If you had a defining moment that you feel really changed the trajectory of your career, we’d love to hear the story and details.
Not in my professional career, but a defining moment in my life that set me on my current trajectory of changing the paradigm of childhood is when my child started her “education” journey.
It all started as with almost every child’s story. The minute they turn 3, parents are eager to push them out into the world – hello preschool with promises of socialization, play time, essentially babysitting so mom and dad can work.
At my child’s first preschool there was a handful of philosophies being implemented and just as with everything, it all just depends on the teacher. Sometimes you get a good one, sometimes not so much. My child spent her time at the first preschool standing alone at the tables with her snacks just observing. She spent all three hours there never engaging. What did I expect? She was alone and she probably didn’t feel very secure. I was none the wiser as I just thought that’s what all people do.
After a month of this, we pulled her out.
At the next preschool, she did much better. There was a lot more inclusive interaction from the teacher and the kids were all encouraged to engage in activities that weren’t necessarily collaborative (because they aren’t capable of that at such a young age) but more side-by-side. What a refreshing environment to be in. To be seen and invited to participate.
During this time, I witnessed a handful of children each showing up in the world to the best of their ability given their situation. Some children did fine in a preschool setting. Others clearly were not ready and communicated this in a variety of ways which we, adults, then label and try to “adjust” the child’s behavior to suit the environment.
This did not feel right to me. I had to keep asking myself “why do we do the things we do?” “Is “school” the best course of action for ALL children?”
In my quest to find the answers, I came across such wonderful wisdom-keepers that have such a depth of knowledge of child and human development. So many things that we do just don’t support the natural unfolding of a soul in human form. That is why I created Perfect Child – to share this knowledge with others. Not everything is for everyone so we continue to interview all kinds of way-showers in the hopes that at least some will resonate with each of our audience and we can all move towards a more loving way to be with our little humans as they develop into loving, nurtured, secure adults.
As always, we appreciate you sharing your insights and we’ve got a few more questions for you, but before we get to all of that can you take a minute to introduce yourself and give our readers some of your back background and context?
Perfect Child is a portal for Empowered Parents. What does it mean to be empowered? It means you 100% stand behind your perfect child and you know that “perfect” looks different for everyone. You do not subscribe to the “average” quantitative, arbitrary measurements by which the medical and educational industrial complexes measure a person’s capability. You understand that every human being is unique and has their own very unique developmental timeline. Sometimes, you might feel like you need a little support.
On our website, we host stories from wisdom-keepers and way-showers that can help us connect to our Higher Self in order to work through our own traumas and shed the programming of fear and insecurity that has been instilled in us. This beautiful healing can come in a myriad of ways and as we are all unique individuals, we can decide which methods might resonate with us best. The invitation is to watch the interviews and if there is one coach/practitioner/teacher that resonates with you, contact them directly for more customized support.
The journey of parenting is a long one. Oftentimes, the awakening begins with the birth of a child. We want the best for our children and when we pause to sink into what is best for the natural unfolding of this enlightened soul being before us, we recognize that the systems that we currently live in, don’t necessarily support this. It takes courage to walk a different path. You are not alone. There are hundreds that have walked a new path before us and they have so much wisdom to share. Perfect Child continues to bring their stories. Perhaps, yours too will be a story to be shared.
When you join our Private Collective, you will have access to deeper dives for soul healing and de-programming from the systems that seek to monetize our children’s biology. We are all connected and when we heal, the whole world heals.
On that note, the broken system also tries to monetize our aging parents’ biology. Look under “rebirth” for stories of how we can support our parents to a more beautiful ascension.
What’s a lesson you had to unlearn and what’s the backstory?
As I child, school and grades never really resonated with me. I went to school purely for the social aspect. Once I had my child, I just knew I didn’t want to send her to a conventional school. I think intuitively, I just knew that humans are not meant to sit for hours and hours inside a classroom listening to one perceived authority talking and talking. I sought out a school with a different philosophy that spent more time outside and where ideally, the teachers and staff had a better understanding of chid development as the curriculum was tailored around that. After a few years of that I began to see that even then, maybe because of the nature of an instructional institution, the kids were still spending a lot of time sitting at a desk, listening to a teacher “preach” at the front of the classroom.
I basically had to unlearn what has been the typical perceived “norm” of what learning is supposed to look like in order to give my child the option of living into and following her own dreams and interests.
Lo and behold, there are plenty of families who have been “homeschooling”, unschooling for centuries. We are not the first. Thankfully! It takes courage to pursue a path of non-conformity to better serve my child and I started Perfect Child so that more people could be inspired to take the leap.
We need change. The world is not in a good place right now and I’m convinced it’s because children are not made to feel like they matter. This is crucial for us to transform humanity to one of empathy, kindness and one-ness.
There is so much more to unlearn and it’s so liberating to do so.
I’m grateful to be able to share the wisdom of so many thought leaders in this space of human development.
Putting training and knowledge aside, what else do you think really matters in terms of succeeding in your field?
I think perseverance and resilience is what has been most helpful in being successful in this space of marketing the gifts of healers and way-showers. The challenge has always been that we are sharing knowledge that is usually against the conventional norm. So, we are asking our audience to be courageous. To step outside of the box in service of your unique child. The most special children are just that – Special and gifted, not “special needs”.
As humans, we all have needs. Some are just more apt to conform to the environment or have been coerced/manipulated to conform rather than stand up for what we need. In this Western society, currently, we aren’t raised with an understanding that what we think or feel matters. We are raised instead, to conform to the status quo and anything outside of that could be detrimental for our success or survival. That simply is not true and the more that we can respect our children and actually meet the special ones exactly where they are, we will find that this is the way to positively transform humanity.
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