We’re excited to introduce you to the always interesting and insightful Avery Warner. We hope you’ll enjoy our conversation with Avery below.

Avery, thanks for joining us, excited to have you contributing your stories and insights. I’m sure there have been days where the challenges of being an artist or creative force you to think about what it would be like to just have a regular job. When’s the last time you felt that way? Did you have any insights from the experience?

For most of my life I worked a 9-5 job. Prior to going on a popular reality TV show (90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days) which totally changed my life, I worked in Dentistry for 14 years. I was growing increasingly more unhappy in my profession. I wanted to work remote, I wanted more time to be a mother, I wanted to work for myself, I wanted to do something that I was passionate about, I wanted to use my creativity to express myself to the world and get paid for it. That was what I thought would provide me happiness. After going on television, I was bombarded by opportunities that allowed me to step into the world I wanted to create for myself. It was a world that I was not prepared for. It was a world that would allow me to check off all of the above boxes, but at what expense? Diving into the world of social media, television, content creation, and working for yourself, I have noticed many people that I have met in this field suffer from depression, anxiety, and mental health issues. I couldn’t understand for the longest time why I was so depressed when I was living my dream. I was making excellent income, I was working remote, I had time to spend with my daughter, I could travel more, I was experiencing a lot of things most only wish they could experience, but nobody told me the negative effects of what social media, dealing with the public, and what publicity does to a person’s mental health. I watch many newcomers trying to enter this arena with the mindset of wanting to build and grow a large platform where they can showcase their creative work to the world and be known for it. Many of them don’t understand the toll it takes on your mental health once its been achieved. Social media has grown increasingly aggressive and abusive towards it’s members without much repercussion. When you expose yourself to the world from a macro level, you expose yourself to bullying, threats, reputation destruction, rumors, lies, and extreme criticism. Throughout the last couple years, I have managed to learn ways of dealing with the public that has greatly improved my success and overall mental health. I think anyone wanting to grow their own platform or want to make a name for themselves in the creative space must be aware of the turmoil they are inviting into their lives when they leave themselves open to public scrutiny. I don’t recommend being the face of anything if a person already suffers from mental health issues, but if they must, I learned that offsetting all of my social media communication and duties from responding to my followers, to posting on social media, to responding to comments, I offset all of that to people who work for me. I avoid reading comments, and I often take breaks from any form of technology in order to bring my mind back to clarity and peace. It is important to be aware of the negative affects of what working in social media can cause. Before you become famous, MAKE SURE you have a plan in place for how you plan on dealing with public scrutiny as well ensuring yourself MANY breaks to unplug from the system.

Avery, love having you share your insights with us. Before we ask you more questions, maybe you can take a moment to introduce yourself to our readers who might have missed our earlier conversations?

I am Avery Warner, I am known for my role on the popular television show, 90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days. I am also the Host of the Chiller Queen Podcast, an Influencer, public speaker, philanthropist, and Crypto Investor. I have a passion for cooking, researching, and just trying to make sense of reality. Immediately after going on television, my followers really pushed me into food blogging and recipe creation. Initially I gave in and got my toes wet in the creative space making videos, editing, food blogging, and working with people on their nutrition. This wasn’t something I intentionally wanted to do, but I wanted to give my audience what they wanted. After awhile working in the public eye, I had to deal with a ton of mental health challenges that arose once I had gained international recognition. For so long, I was bending over backwards just to give everyone what they wanted and expected of me while putting my own passions and desires to the side. I began to feel less like myself and more a façade of all the people the public wanted me to be. After awhile, I gave up on people pleasing and stepped into a role that would allow me to be exactly who I wanted to be without caring If I lost the publics approval. So, I started a podcast. I began diving deep into the world of true crime, conspiracies, paranormal, and all the mysteries of the world that have always fascinated me. In a world full of smoke and mirrors, I am on a mission to find truth. I do all the work for my listeners, and then encourage them to think for themselves and come to their own conclusions. I strive to have tough conversations, expose issues that are progressing society in the wrong direction, unifying people of all backgrounds and beliefs. I want to build a community of people where they are safe to express themselves without judgement. Eventually, I will be conducting in person overnight paranormal investigations for my listeners with an award winning paranormal investigative team to hopefully provide some answers for other truth seekers out there. The world is my oyster at this point, and I can’t wait see what the future holds

Is there mission driving your creative journey?

Absolutely! My goal is have tough conversations with people, get the wheels in their head spinning, get them asking more questions, blow their mind with information, and give them a safe space that inspires them to be able to fully authentic in who they are without caring what the public thinks. If you focus too much on making everyone happy, you will lose yourself and you will be unable to make meaningful connections. When you relax fully into yourself, their is a freedom in that. Fully accepting yourself boosts confidence and gives you the shield you need to combat public scrutiny. Not only do people love a person who is authentic to who they are, but it also inspires others to do the same. You may not have the love of the entire world, but you will for sure have the love of the tribe you attract, and that is all that matters.

What’s a lesson you had to unlearn and what’s the backstory?

I had to learn not to people please. I thought if I was receiving negative feedback then I was doing something wrong. I tore myself apart mentally trying to please everyone enough to not receive scrutiny. Turns out, the entire population can’t all agree and like one thing, everyone will always fall short. When I stopped caring about what people thought and more about putting out the content that made me happy, I was ok with not taking negative comments personally.

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