We recently connected with Ana Lopez and have shared our conversation below.
Ana, looking forward to hearing all of your stories today. Let’s start with the story of your mission. What should we know?
The mission of Sex in Spanglish is to provide culturally-relevant sex ed that centers the individual and their personal desires and values while shifting the sex negative narratives that pose as a barrier to true, guilt-free pleasure.
Women are socialized to believe that pleasure comes from someone (or something) outside of us. This leads women on a wild goose chase to find someone who is “good in bed” and “knows what they’re doing.” Unfortunately, this means many women are forced to choose between a healthy fulfilling relationship or mind-blowing sex – many choose the latter.
In reality, we are the source of our own pleasure. Pleasure is created within and cannot be created by any outside source. We know this because people have amazing sex and not-so-good sex with the same partner. Multiple people will have differing opinions on how one person “is in bed.” And, you can do the exact same moves with every partner and still have a very different experience. This is because pleasure is created by us – no one else.
Any pleasurable experience we have is because we created it – not the toy, not the man, not the sex position or the sexual act.
I spent 8 years in a relationship that didn’t serve me simply because I thought this was the only way I would ever experience sexual pleasure. My life changed forever when I realized I was the common denominator in any pleasurable experience I had. It was me all along. Now, I teach women how to harness that power for themselves so they never have to choose between a healthy relationship and sexual fulfillment ever again.
Ana, before we move on to more of these sorts of questions, can you take some time to bring our readers up to speed on you and what you do?
I’m Ana Lopez, MSW, MEd – proud Latina, sexologist, sex coach, and smut consultant. I’m the owner of Sex in Spanglish® and the founder of La Sin Vergüenza Symposium – a group coaching program made uniquely for Latinas who are ready to enjoy sex sin vergüenza (without shame).
My purpose in life is to sexually liberate women everywhere but la comunidad Latina (the Latina community) holds a special place in my heart. My work includes destigmatizing sexual pleasure and desire and encouraging Latinas to talk about sex just like they do with chisme (gossip).
As a sex coach I utilize my background in therapy, cutting edge research, and coaching techniques to aid women in getting to the root of their sexual frustrations while teaching them to utilize the only pleasure tool they will ever need: the mind.
As a smut consultant I help authors writing sex scenes maintain their unique writing style without perpetuating sex negative narratives. I wholeheartedly believe that sex positivity can be sexy!
How I got started:
At 16 I had sex for the very first time. The sex was good but there were no orgasms in sight – not even close. Three years and three partners later I finally orgasmed with someone we’ll call Alejandro.
Because of my previous sexual experiences, I assumed Alejandro was the reason I was orgasming – I gave him all the credit. This led me to keep coming back to him no matter how shitty of a person he was because, at that point, he was “the” way to orgasm. I was convinced he was the only way I would ever orgasm. I felt like I had to choose between a healthy, fulfilling relationship and a mind-blowing sex life – I chose mind-blowing sex.
Then, at 27, my life changed forever – I had an orgasm with someone who wasn’t Alejandro. My experience with this person was completely different than any experience I ever had with Alejandro. This meant Alejandro couldn’t be the reason for my orgasms – the common denominator was me.
Over the next three years I was on a mission to discover all the ways I could orgasm. I experimented with positions, sexual acts, props and people. Rather than seeking out partners to “make me come” as I had in the past, I explored all the ways I could make myself cum. Any sexual pleasure that I experienced was because of me – It was never Alejandro. It was never the position, sexual act, prop, or person – it was me.
We are led to believe that our pleasure comes from something outside of us. No one is teaching us that our pleasure comes from us – not anyone or anything else. This led me to launch Sex in Spanglish in 2020. My mission is to help la mujer Latina harness her own power (pleasure) and use it in any way she sees fit – sin vergüenza.
What I offer:
I offer an array of services including coaching programs, online courses, pleasure workshops, and smut consulting.
1:1 Coaching
This is for ambitious Latinas who are tired of putting everyone else first and are ready to reclaim their pleasure, confidence, and boundaries—without the guilt and shame.
La Sin Vergüenza Symposium (Group Coaching)
This 12-month group coaching program was uniquely made for la mujer Latina. This is for the ambitious Latina ready to own her power—sexually, emotionally, and mentally. If you’re tired of living for others, second-guessing yourself, and not fully enjoying life, this is for you. It’s time to ditch the guilt, drop the shame, and step into the confident, dominant dama you’ve been waiting to be.
Operation Orgasm (Online Course)
A lifetime-access, self-paced online course for ambitious Latinas who are ready to take control of their pleasure and have mind-blowing sex on demand. No more waiting, no more hoping your partner figures it out—this is about knowing exactly what you want and making it happen.
Pleasure Sin Fronteras (without borders) (Online Course)
This lifetime access online course is for Latinas ready to use pleasure as resistance. If you’re tired of second-guessing yourself, settling, and playing small, this course helps you reclaim your desires, boost your confidence, and transform your sex life and relationships.
Smut Consulting
Smut Consulting is for authors who want to take their writing to the next level by creating sexy, sex-positive scenes that captivate and engage readers. Whether you’re crafting steamy moments for a romance novel or adding depth to your characters’ intimacy, this service will help you write sex scenes that are not only exciting but also meaningful, respectful, and emotionally charged.
I’m Not Your Typical Sex Coach:
I spent the first 11 years of my sex life trying to find “the one” to make me cum. When, in reality, I knew her all along—it’s me! Now I use this lived experience to help Latinas own their own pleasure and stop settling for the shitty guy just because he’s good in bed.
This isn’t just your regular life advice—I’m backing this up with real facts and research. My background in psychology, social work, and therapy influences everything I do. I hold a Master’s in Human Sexualities Studies and am currently working toward a doctorate in the same field. Sex isn’t just what I do, it’s what I live, breathe, and eat.
With a strong foundation in sexology and years of experience working with high-achieving Latinas, I’ve built a space where cultural relevance meets unapologetic pleasure. My approach combines the strength of our cultural roots with a forward-thinking, shame-free approach to sexuality.
What I Want You to Know:
Pleasure is power. Any pleasure you’ve ever experienced has been because of you – not anyone or anything else. Everything you need to experience mind-blowing sex on demand is already available to you now – it lives inside of you. You are your own source of pleasure.
Are there any books, videos or other content that you feel have meaningfully impacted your thinking?
Everything in my business is rooted in my cultural heritage, ancestral knowledge and traditions with a modern twist. Science has come a long way and I am thankful to be able to implement this knowledge in the work I do with my clients. However, it is my goal to never forget where I came from and, more importantly, who I come from. My cultural heritage and ancestral lineage are a wealth of knowledge in their own right. It is my goal to amplify and honor the knowledge and expertise of my ancestors even when modern-day society attempts to appropriate it and erase it.
Learning and unlearning are both critical parts of growth – can you share a story of a time when you had to unlearn a lesson?
Women are socialized to believe that we aren’t enough on our own. We need something (or someone) outside of us to be complete. Whether that’s a husband, a sexual partner, or a professional’s opinion – we are led to believe that we simply don’t have enough information to make decisions on our own.
This led me to continually look for confirmation and approval of what I was doing in my business. However, I soon learned I have everything I need inside of me. When I harness that knowledge and implement it everything else follows.
The same lessons I learned in my sex life apply to my business as well. Now, I use my lived experience to help my clients harness their own pleasure – in and out of the bedroom.
Contact Info:
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexinspanglish
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexinspanglish/
- Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexinspanglish
- Other: TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexinspanglish
Email List: subscribepage.io/golosagossip
Work With Me: https://sexinspanglish.hbportal.co/public/6604b7a7c3ca6f0025f5777f
Sex in Spanglish Podcast: https://anchor.fm/s/2898b534/podcast/rss
Image Credits
Elements Studio Photography
Margarita Photography