We recently connected with Amelia Harshfield and have shared our conversation below.

Amelia, looking forward to hearing all of your stories today. Can you recount a time when the advice you provided to a client was really spot on? (Please note this response is for education/entertainment purposes only and shouldn’t be construed as advice for the reader)

The question is vauge…. My best advice for impact makers who are exhausted and working hard yet not getting results….

Working hard and not seeing results is super frustrating. You might be throwing everything you have at it and not hitting your next level. You might be exhausted and still believe you have to work very hard. You might struggle to actually put the work down. If you are an impact-maker you are likely a caring and considerate person. While that is a wonderful thing to be, there are certain behaviors that these people have that keep them in patterns that they cannot see.

One reason they might be experiencing burnout is that they believe they need to give and give to get anything back. They might be doing a ton more work than their business partner. They might take on the majority of tasks that others can do. They might struggle to rest and not check emails. They might undervalue their service or product in hopes that it might get noticed. What they need to do is remove the reason why they think that way of operating is normal. If they can learn to address their needs as well as others, then they will naturally feel more relaxed and calm. However, there are lots of things at risk when you ask for your needs more. So it can keep you stuck in this unhelpful cycle.

A second reason common reason is that they overwork themselves is that they are hoping that someone will notice all the hard work they are doing and want to help them. They might want to be needed in the relationship. They might be doing all of the work so that the other person will one day reciprocate. Then while they are burning themselves out, they might become secretly resentful for all the effort they are putting in. What they need to realize in this situation is that people cannot read their mind. They must learn how to advocate for themselves better and not hope that others can see their struggle. As they get more proficient at this skill, the more appreciated they will feel.

As always, we appreciate you sharing your insights and we’ve got a few more questions for you, but before we get to all of that can you take a minute to introduce yourself and give our readers some of your back background and context?

I help entrepreneurs who are making an impact become the version of themselves they were born to be. Their impact grows and they feel more like themselves.

I have always felt called to make a difference. But I realized that as I grew my impact I was holding myself back. Me getting in my way was limiting my ability to make a difference. So as I got out of my way more and more, I could think differently, I saw myself as important, feel heard and seen, relax, and enjoy life.

My clients struggle with not making the difference they want to make, questioning if they can make the impact, not knowing how they are standing in their way, feeling like an imposter, feeling out of control with their anxiety, being available too much for work, feeling guilty about saying no, and not feeling seen or heard.

My work is different because it uses a very specific kind of work that combines their Myers Briggs type and pairs it with inner child work. It allows them to be seen as an individual, know how to identify with the different parts of themselves, feel more connected, and overcome challenges they can’t get past.

I’m most proud of the impact I’m making on my own, creating an empire that can then give resources to those who have little. I’m also proud of how I can help others learn from what is helping me on my journey.

Any advice for managing a team?

Honestly, this question is pretty vague. It’s hard for me to answer for this reason. So I’m going to change it to be a question that is more specific. The new question is when entrepreneurs are struggling along their journey, what advice do you have to give them some hope?

First being an entrepreneur is tough. It’s not easy to keep pushing yourself and problem-solving regularly. It’s hard. It’s challenging. But what entrepreneurs often do not understand is how they are making the situation worse. The problem is that entrepreneurs are business owners and people at the same time. That means they are trying to accomplish certain things while still having fears, doubts, and unhelpful beliefs that limit their progress.

Encountering a problem is one thing. But feeling like a failure while having the same problem makes finding a solution much more challenging. If they can proactively be looking for how they are getting in their way, and remove those blocks, their path will be much easier. They will have fewer emotional hangups.

So I would advise the person to get help at looking for what they are contributing to the situation from an outside source. That way they can get an outside view of what they could be contributing to worse their problem. The less they are standing in their way, the easier it will be to achieve success.

The other thing that is important is to understand how to not be impacted by these hangups. I want entrepreneurs to be regularly leveling up so they become more resilient, less swayed by stress, and able to be their strong selves. Finding ways to do that can be challenging.

I’ve tried so many techniques that need you to manage the problem that it made me so hopeless. However, I’ve learned how to combine my Myers Briggs type and a specific form of inner child work to provide a personalized and effective way of getting past all my problems (and I’ve had a lot over the years).

This work has also never failed me or my clients. My clients uplevel quickly, which makes them happier and able to be the person they are born to be. If you are over how you are limiting your impact-making ability, DM me on social media. Say you are looking for help and we’ll dive a bit deeper to see if you are right for my work.

We’d love to hear a story of resilience from your journey.

Part of being an entrepreneur is that you encounter new ways of being visible. I got invited to a week-long event at Richard Branson’s Necker Island. He was going to be there along with 36 other high-impact leaders. I had to pass a couple of interviews to get the invite. I was excited about the opportunity but also terrified of showing up with these brilliant minds.

The first interview I almost forgot about because it was on the weekend. After barely showing up on time, I surprised myself by passing it with flying colors. The second one was with the founder of the group I almost did not show up for because I was certain I was going to not be chosen. I didn’t see why they would want me to go and thought it was a waste of time.

I showed up for the second interview despite the doubts. What I found was a woman who I connected with quickly. She was inspired by me and my work. I loved her vibe. She even invited me to do a 30-minute presentation to the group on how to be less anxious so they can make a bigger impact and be their best selves in the world.

I decided to go. was terrified of being a fraud, and did not know what to say to Richard when I encountered him. What I learned throughout the trip was that I am much more than I believe I am. That my work can deeply impact people in ways that are more granular. Plus I started acknowledging my value even to these “important” people. They have problems. Anxiety certainly does not stop with any income level (unfortunately).

It’s easy to stay in your comfort zone. There are lots of doubts about showing up bigger and testing whether you belong. It’s really horrifying when you doubt it. But the only way to do so is to try. If you know how to soothe these fears, you can be scared and still show up as your best self. It’s just about how you address and honor these internal fears.

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