We caught up with the brilliant and insightful Amanda Ngo a few weeks ago and have shared our conversation below.

Alright, Amanda thanks for taking the time to share your stories and insights with us today. If you had a defining moment that you feel really changed the trajectory of your career, we’d love to hear the story and details.

My body has always told me when it’s time to let go of something. When I was leaving my first job as a product manager, I was so afraid. It was an incredible job, I loved the people, and I could see the successful trajectory of a well-trodden, known path ahead of me. Leaving felt like leaping into the void. I had no idea what I was going to do next, and I was afraid that I would look back years later and realize that I had taken the wrong pathway at a crucial crossroads.

During the months that I agonized over the decision, I started experiencing intense stomach pain. The cause was ambiguous – everything looked normal, and doctors kept sending me home. But the pain only got worse.

Eventually, I landed in the hospital. I had a stomach ulcer, internal bleeding, and pain so intense that all I could focus on was breathing through it. Everything was clarified: my health and life force were more important than any sense of success I was clinging onto. I had ignored all of the signs, and now Soul was calling to me in a language I couldn’t possibly miss.

I left my job a few days later. Within weeks, my stomach pain had disappeared. It was the beginning of what Bill Plotkin calls the descent to Soul: a period of chaotic unraveling, where the structures holding our lives together and all the beliefs about who we are disintegrate. From these depths, you can then find your way to your true calling. It took a few more years of unraveling and uncertainty before I found my way to becoming a healer.

As always, we appreciate you sharing your insights and we’ve got a few more questions for you, but before we get to all of that can you take a minute to introduce yourself and give our readers some of your back background and context?

I am a healer, here on Earth to bring people back to the awareness of their true selves. Coming back to my own true self has been a long and winding journey. As a chronically anxious teenager, I started exploring therapy at 19. I was absolutely fascinated by how we could develop emotional fluency and dramatically change our experience of being alive through emotional work. Truth is one of my guiding lights, and I was always in search of the underlying mechanism – what was it that made different therapy modalities, or different therapists, work or not? Why were so many people so deeply unhappy, and how could we change that? I explored every modality I could find: from traditional therapies (like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), psychoanalysis, and neurolinguistic programming), to modern somatic therapies (like somatic experiencing, core energetics, internal family systems, and Ideal Parent Figure protocol), to wisdom traditions (like Dzogchen, energy healing, and imaginal journeying).

My first big ‘ah ha’ moment was when I discovered the Ideal Parent Figure (IPF) protocol. Developed by Dr. Dan Brown, the Ideal Parent Figure protocol guides you to imagine an ideal mother and father who are perfectly suited to you. You revisit memories from childhood where a need you have (like a need for connection, soothing, or encouragement) didn’t get met, and you imagine your ideal parents meeting this need in the perfect way. Much of our suffering comes from unmet needs and beliefs developed very early on in our lives, and IPF rewrites those beliefs to bring us into secure relationships with other people and the world. Within 8 months of IPF therapy, my experience of the world shifted – I was much less reactive, more able to invest in friendships, more loving and stable in my partnership, and generally experienced more well-being. Compared to talk therapy, which made me more aware of my emotions but hadn’t shifted much, IPF worked. I knew that whatever I did, bringing the Ideal Parent Figure protocol to more people in the world would be a part of it.

Discovering energy healing was similarly transformative. When my healers attuned to my energy body, it was the first time in my life I had felt truly seen. Energy is my mother tongue – before words come to me, I am speaking an unseen language that vibrates and resonates on a Soul level. It is the language of Truth: the language that our bodies know, deeply encoded, although our minds may have forgotten. In my work, I am teaching people to speak this language. It is a homecoming to our true, divine selves.

Although we may have forgotten, this kind of Magic has always existed. It is in the way we can feel each other’s emotions with a gentle perceptiveness that defies logic. It is in the light of awareness as we touch the infinite, unchanging peace at the center of our being. It is in the buoyant, joyful flow as we connect our energy field with another and feel what it is to be in true contact with another human. I am here to remind people of the Magic they already know.

Every healer I’ve met has their own flavour and quality they bring to their healing. I love to bridge polarities: loving, gentle attunement, and the fire of Truth that pierces through the clouds and sees who you truly are; bringing clarity to the underlying mechanisms of healing, and surrender to the mystical that is beyond our understanding.

Now, I work with people one-on-one, helping them heal attachment wounds, bring awareness to their energy bodies, and develop a sense of trust in their Soul and the universe. I run courses bringing the Ideal Parent Figure protocol to people, and I hold containers to help people embody their Soul-level Purpose. It is my deepest honor and joy to walk alongside people as they unfold into their natural well-being and true selves.

Training and knowledge matter of course, but beyond that what do you think matters most in terms of succeeding in your field?

We transmit our beliefs and emotions through our energy fields. If we’re holding a group of people but we’re speaking from a part of us that says “I’m not good enough”, it will ripple out into the group. Even if people aren’t consciously aware, they’ll feel it. On the other hand, if we are able to rest in the knowledge that we are already perfectly whole and part of a greater energy field that is holding us, we’ll transmit that feeling. My sense is that the most important part of being a healer is doing our own healing, so that we can transmit to others our own sense of wholeness.

We often hear about learning lessons – but just as important is unlearning lessons. Have you ever had to unlearn a lesson?

I am still unlearning a belief that there is something I have to do to be worthy of love. It was ingrained in me from childhood – I received praise and attention when I did something impressive, and I internalized the belief that it wasn’t enough to just be, I had to constantly do. It is fascinating feeling the tendrils of this belief stretch throughout my life. When I move, speak, act, and create from this belief, it is exhausting. As I’ve done my own healing work, this belief has loosened its grip. I can feel my sense of innate worthiness, that I am valued and loved and respected just for my essence. And when I create from this place, it feels energizing, alive, and joyful.

Contact Info:

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