We caught up with the brilliant and insightful Aliayah a few weeks ago and have shared our conversation below.
Aliayah, appreciate you joining us today. We’d love to hear about the things you feel your parents did right and how those things have impacted your career and life.
My mother was a single mom she impacted my life by always making sure that even though my family would tell me I just needed God to help with my mental illnesses my mother never dismissed my feelings of course she told me I needed to pray but she took the necessary steps as a mother to be sure I had psychological help as well she made sure I knew I was loved and even when at times I would scare her during an episode she always stayed by my side and forgave every time I would come out I knew she would be by my side through whatever even if she didn’t understand what was going on she made sure to UNDERSTAND my mindset during these moments she even switched Jobs to be closer to my school if anything happened or needed me
As always, we appreciate you sharing your insights and we’ve got a few more questions for you, but before we get to all of that can you take a minute to introduce yourself and give our readers some of your back background and context?
I am currently working for mental health advocates just to provide a safe space for all who either have no support system in their life or cannot pay for therapy and more to get the necessary help they need by all means I am not a licensed psychologist to diagnose anyone but I am a community listening ear and if wanted advice just from my personal experience and diagnosis from PTSD anxiety depression and bipolar currently dealing with PPD(Postpartum Depression) I started this about 2 years ago this year will be 3 because I wish I had someone who could understand my mental / mindset growing up and wanted to not be seen as a “crazy person” by family and friends who could not understand as well as people who just think the faith of God shall heal your mental issues which yes it plays a part but it’s also so much bigger than that I want to help all people understand that they are not alone and have a place to speak their mind without any judgment which a lot of people especially young adults / younger kids need In this world
What do you think helped you build your reputation within your market?
Honestly I had a mental break and I just used my social media as an outlet which obviously isn’t healthy but as I spoke on situations I didn’t just rant I would also speak on my self accountability in the situations as well and at the end would speak on ways that could help and after a while it became a series for my page people could relate just wasn’t bold enough to post their downside on social media it’s like now and days everything has to be perfect on social media and I was my true authentic self with real problems that most could relate and with me speaking up and out about it all and teaching people just from me using my page as a personal online journal with raw information/solutions people loved it they liked seeing okay I’m not the only one dealing with things that aren’t “ aesthetically pleasing“ to this world
We often hear about learning lessons – but just as important is unlearning lessons. Have you ever had to unlearn a lesson?
I had to unlearn that every situation does not need a reaction because sometimes the devil/universe whoever you believe in will place things in your path to see if you have learned the lesson from past events every obstacle in your life is set there to see if you have grown or still going backwards and you will get the same lesson each time if you have not passed it that’s why some people feel I go through this constantly well let’s think are you still reacting the same from those other lessons ? If so I understand why it’s coming back because you have not learned anything do things differently i had to learn that “this is who I am take it or leave it” mindset wasn’t good to have I needed to change …change my reactions or do not react at all to become a better soul in this world or take the steps at becoming a better person especially if I wanted to help others
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