We recently connected with Adam Lane Smith and have shared our conversation below.

Adam Lane , thanks for taking the time to share your stories with us today Was there a defining moment in your professional career? A moment that changed the trajectory of your career?

I had a thriving clinical practice as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a high rate of recovery for my patients. But insurance companies refused to cover attachment work and required diagnoses that often did not cover the patient’s real problems. Psychology as a whole began to encourage people to identify lifelong with their diagnosis, take endless medication to cope with symptoms, and use therapy as a paid friend to replace the missing relationships in their life. I left the therapy field completely because I could no longer tolerate what looked like mental hospice care for people I knew could make full recoveries and live fulfilling lives if they only worked on attachment instead. So I transitioned to providing attachment science to the world, first on social media, then as an attachment coach, and now by training my own team of certified attachment coaches in using my methodology to help clients achieve breakthroughs even after 20 or more years of therapy have achieved little to no results. My approach holds a 99.8% success rate in helping clients transform their lives versus the therapy industry I left which continues to offer mental hospice care and subscription friendship.

Adam Lane , love having you share your insights with us. Before we ask you more questions, maybe you can take a moment to introduce yourself to our readers who might have missed our earlier conversations?

I am Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist with over 1 million followers across all platforms. I updated the theory of attachment (the science of how humans connect and bond) using neuroscience and biochemistry taken from cutting edge research to create Attachment Science. Me and my team of certified attachment coaches offer accelerated transformation to help people break free from insecurity in relationships, avoidance of intimacy, fear of abandonment, people pleasing, nervous system dysregulation related to relationships. We help individuals, couples, parents, business owners, Fortune 500 CEOs, political figures, media figures, and everyone else to overcome a lifetime of limiting relationship beliefs to finally achieve biochemical fulfillment and bonding with their loved ones. We also offer self-paced learning programs and other resources at AdamLaneSmith.com, and are in the process of building The Attachment Institute to take this work global so everyone can access it all across the world.

If you could go back, would you choose the same profession, specialty, etc.?

I would begin in the same place, as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, because it gave me a systemic understanding of human relationships. The only thing I would change is to not hesitate so long in breaking free from the confining Psychology industry that remains not only decades behind on information but has focused on endless coping and catering instead of helping clients achieve lasting transformation. Voluntarily ending my license to go global was at the time one of the hardest decisions I had ever made, partly because the licensing boards cause you to live in fear that you cannot work without them. But it turned out to be one of the best decisions I ever made because I have been able to help so many more people as a result.

Training and knowledge matter of course, but beyond that what do you think matters most in terms of succeeding in your field?

Psychology tends to encourage people to specialize into one field of thought. It also emphasizes the humanistic approaches in modern decades – meaning an overemphasis on believing your emotions, processing feelings as the focus of the entire session, and reliving past experiences endless to discover how one feels about those experiences. This is a major reason why the field of psychotherapy holds such a low success rate for client recovery and also why many couples in particular end up worse off after attending therapy.

To truly help our clients, we must take a future-oriented view of what they can do next to achieve lasting change. Research is clear that experiences are what reshape our neural pathways. Endless processing of old events does not help us as much as a single positive new experience. And learning to craft those positive experiences to repeat them and change the brain over time is a core element of the work I am able to do now with my team.

Contact Info:

• Website: https://adamlanesmith.com
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdamLaneSmith
• Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adam-lane-smith-a6203324b
• Twitter: https://x.com/AdamLaneSmith
• Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@AttachmentAdam

Image Credits

All to myself.