Today we’d like to introduce you to May Bugenhagen

Alright, so thank you so much for sharing your story and insight with our readers. To kick things off, can you tell us a bit about how you got started?

When I turned thirty, I took a leap and signed up for a dating service, hoping to meet someone special. But instead of finding love, I found frustration—I knew there had to be a better way. As someone with a thriving career, a home, an amazing circle of friends, and an active social life, I kept asking myself, “What’s wrong? Why can’t I find the right partner?”

That experience lit a fire in me. After 11 years in the corporate world, I took a bold step and left my steady job to pursue something I was truly passionate about: creating a dating service that actually works. I started my own company with one clear mission: to empower amazing women—like the woman I was—who felt like they were doing everything right but just hadn’t met the right person yet, met a great man.

What began as a personal quest to “do it better” has evolved into a fulfilling career, helping men and women navigate the dating world with confidence, clarity, and a renewed sense of possibility. It’s been the most rewarding journey of my life, and I wouldn’t trade it for anything.

Would you say it’s been a smooth road, and if not what are some of the biggest challenges you’ve faced along the way?

The journey hasn’t been without its challenges. Like any business, we faced hurdles—especially with rapid growth and staffing. At one point, we expanded too quickly, which forced us to reevaluate, streamline, and refocus.

When we first launched the matchmaking company, the goal was to cater to all ethnicities, with both men and women as paying clients. However, we quickly realized that simplifying our approach made a significant difference. We shifted to having men as paying clients while women joined the database for free. Over time, we even explored niche areas, including matchmaking for gay men and helping men of various ethnicities meet Asian women.

Eventually, after much trial and error, we discovered a clear niche that aligned with both our passions and business goals: helping men who want to date Asian women. Narrowing the focus allowed us to specialize, refine our processes, and deliver better results. Being specific—both in terms of the demographic we serve and the age range we cater to—was a game-changer.

Now, after almost 16 years, we’ve found a niche that is not only lucrative but also deeply fulfilling. Focusing on something I’m truly passionate about has made all the difference, and I’m proud of how far we’ve come.

Thanks for sharing that. So, maybe next you can tell us a bit more about your business?

In the world of matchmaking, it’s important to be upfront—there are no guarantees when it comes to finding a significant other or a lifelong partner. However, what sets our company apart is the level of dedication and effort we invest in every client. We work tirelessly, leaving no stone unturned, to help our clients find that one special person. From targeted recruiting and social media outreach to networking with over 1,000 matchmakers worldwide, we leverage every possible avenue to connect people in meaningful ways.

Our approach is both intuitive and data-driven. While we analyze key information about our clients, we also focus on understanding what they truly need in a partner—not just what they think they want. For those who have spent years, or even decades, searching for “the one,” we bring fresh perspectives and decades of matchmaking expertise to curate matches that foster authentic, lasting connections.

Our company specializes in helping ultra-high-net-worth men in San Francisco, Los Angeles, New York, and all major cities, who are seeking a meaningful connection with an exceptional Asian partner. We are proud to be known for the extraordinary women in our network—beautiful, intelligent, accomplished, kind, and genuine individuals who bring a wealth of culture and depth to a relationship. Beyond making matches, we also act as trusted advisors, offering personalized coaching to our clients on how to navigate cultural nuances, courtship, and relationship dynamics with grace and respect.

What truly sets us apart is our exclusivity and commitment to excellence. We intentionally limit ourselves to working with only six to eight clients at a time, ensuring we can devote the necessary time and attention to every individual. This boutique approach allows us to form strong connections with our clients, fully understand their aspirations, and provide a bespoke experience that reflects their goals.

We don’t accept everyone who approaches us. In fact, we are highly selective, taking on only those clients we genuinely believe we can help. This philosophy is central to our mission—we want to feel proud of the matches we create and confident in the relationships we help foster. Our selective process is also a reflection of our commitment to maintaining the highest standards of care and integrity.

At the heart of our work is a genuine passion for what we do. We take immense pride in helping our clients find meaningful relationships, and we view every match as a testament to the care, effort, and thoughtfulness we bring to the table.

In terms of your work and the industry, what are some of the changes you are expecting to see over the next five to ten years?

AI will play an increasingly central role in matchmaking, particularly in the early stages of pairing individuals. Advanced algorithms will analyze compatibility more precisely, using data from personality tests, behavioral patterns, and even social media activity to suggest potential matches. AI-powered tools may also help matchmakers streamline their processes, making initial matches faster and more data-driven. However, while AI will excel at efficiency and initial compatibility assessments, the demand for the human touch—empathy, intuition, and personal interaction—will remain strong. This balance of technology and personal service will define the future of high-end matchmaking.

Managing online dating profiles is becoming an increasingly outsourced task. Clients, especially busy professionals, are seeking services where matchmakers or dating professionals handle everything from swiping to messaging to setting up dates. This shift reflects a growing desire for convenience and expertise in navigating the often overwhelming world of dating apps.

Contact Info:

• Website: https://www.twoasianmatchmakers.com
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/matchmakermay
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TwoAsianMatchmakers
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mayhui/
• Youtube: : https://www.youtube.com/twoasianmatchmakers