Today we’d like to introduce you to Amy Shearer

Hi Amy, thanks for joining us today. We’d love for you to start by introducing yourself.

In 2018, I experienced a profound awakening. While celebrating Christmas on the serene, tropical island of Kauai, I was gently awakened by the sound of soft rain. The house we rented was tranquil, yet I felt an overwhelming sense of dread.

I had just reached a significant milestone in my 15-year fashion retail career, becoming the VP of Retail for a prominent French brand. Despite my success and financial stability, I couldn’t understand why I felt so empty. I was well-respected in the industry, earning a substantial income.

Throughout my life, I did what I believed was best for everyone around me. I was always praised as the “good girl.” “Oh, Amy, you are such a good girl!” Those words echoed within me, providing temporary solace.

Yet, despite being so good and pleasing for over 40 years, I found myself sitting on the edge of my luxurious bed next to a handsome, loving man, feeling profoundly unhappy. Chronic stress had worn me down, manifesting in physical symptoms like digestive issues and endometriosis, with a potential hysterectomy looming over me.

How did I end up here? I thought I had done everything right.

I walked into the elegant bathroom, switched on the light, and stared at my reflection. It dawned on me that somewhere along the way, I had abandoned myself. I didn’t know the person staring back at me. It was a difficult and painful realization.

Several months later, I decided to leave the retail industry.

It took me a year to uncover that my unhappiness wasn’t solely due to the endless flights and long work weekends. Initially, I blamed my career and its expectations, which, undeniably, are demanding in retail.

But the harsh truth I had to face was that my fear of not being the “good girl” had led me to a life without boundaries, where I couldn’t voice my needs or truly love myself.

Over the past four years, I’ve embarked on a healing journey. Along the way, I decided to turn my lessons and insights into a mission to help others.

Many of us, who are sensitive and loving, were once praised for being the “good girl.” Now, we find ourselves exhausted and unhappy. I feel honored to share what I’ve learned and to guide others through their healing journey.

We all face challenges, but looking back would you describe it as a relatively smooth road?

Throughout my healing journey, I faced numerous struggles that often left me feeling isolated and alone. I was uncertain about the right steps to take. Who is the right person to guide me? Am I doing enough? Am I missing something?

Like many, I feared confronting my own emotions and thought patterns. Resurrecting my emotional history, like the loss of my parents and dear friend, felt so incredibly hard.

There were moments when I felt courageous, but just as often, I sought to numb myself with Netflix binges and chocolate cake from my favorite NYC spot, The Little Cupcake Bakeshop (always order the Brooklyn Blackout).

Every time I thought I had “achieved” healing, I discovered yet another layer of the onion to peel back. As I delved into the spiritual aspects of my healing, I found myself questioning everything and struggling to find trust. It was a constant ebb and flow of progress and setbacks, testing my resolve and pushing me to grow in ways I hadn’t anticipated.

Appreciate you sharing that. What should we know about The Recreated ?

The Recreated is my coaching and healing business, which I started in 2020, right before the pandemic hit. Initially, I aimed to coach individuals ready to pivot their careers, which felt like an easy start, given my experience mentoring and coaching my teams as an executive in retail.

During the lockdowns in NY and the ensuing isolation, I delved into learning additional healing modalities like breathwork. One transformative breathwork session made it abundantly clear that the body needed to be seen and heard—it had so much to tell me!

I discovered the profound power of our bodies, which had been the missing piece in my healing journey. Despite having an incredible therapist since 2018, who was indeed a gift from the universe, I always felt something was missing.

This realization led me to become certified in somatic stress release and integrate other nervous system practices like vagal toning and attunement into my daily life. Finally, I found peace in my body and mind, building greater capacity and resilience to stress.

All of this had an impact on my relationships. They began to feel more balanced and peaceful. I learned how the body and our nervous system play a huge role in letting us know how to feel safe and comfortable with others.

This leads me to where I am now in my work. I’m currently being certified in Somatic Attachment and Somatic Intimacy. I offer a 90-day healing program focused on supporting sensitive individuals ready to heal from burnout and shift their unhelpful relationship patterns. I also provide a Nervous System Course and VIP Day and will soon have a group program.

Can you talk to us a bit about happiness and what makes you happy?

Oh gosh, happiness is woven into the simplicity of life. After leaving Brooklyn in 2020, I focused on unraveling my need for constant stimulation and consumption.

Happiness for me is:

Sitting in the sun reading a good book
Tending to my garden
Snuggling with my dog, Brinkley, and husband, Brian, watching a movie
Spending time with good friends and having a bellyache from laughter
Meditating and channeling with my spirit guides
Long walks on the local trail around the reservoir
Keeping things simple

Contact Info:

• Website: https://therecreated.com
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_recreated_