Today we’d like to introduce you to Kim Staples

Hi Kim, thanks for joining us today. We’d love for you to start by introducing yourself.

My journey as a coach and healer began four years ago when I had a burning desire to help women reclaim their sense of self via the exiting and recovering from toxic relationships.

Over time, this has evolved into assisting women more intimately as they heal from unresolved trauma and old wounding that keeps them locked in their wounding.

Ultimately, repairing the relationship a woman has with herself is the only real shot she’s got at axing the repeating of toxic behaviours or escaping patterns that no longer serve her.

It became an obsessive passion of mine to facilitate conversations where women could get out of their own way, take up space and manifest the wildly joy filled lives they were made for.

Initially, my intention was to pursue a life coaching based career, but as I delved deeper into my own healing and recovery I realized that cognitive therapy and mindset work alone was not enough to heal and facilitate those major transformations I was looking to inspire.

I realised that women needed to regulate their nervous systems, release stored trauma and emotions: but how else to go about this than to build safety in their bodies before being able to confidently jump beyond their comfort zones?

There seems to be a common theme amongst highly ambitious women and dis-regulated nervous systems…

We dream big but damn, do we know how to get in our own way.

As the self proclaimed Queen of self sabotage, I recognised this pattern in myself.

It was only when I healed and regulated my nervous system that I was able to hold it all together and stop sabotaging my efforts at being wildly successful.

After working with so many women exhibiting the same symptoms of low self worth, I knew that the transformative work that changed the game for me was something these women really needed.

I continued to educate myself and train in a number of different healing modalities that would allow me to help women do exactly that.

Over the past year and a half I created a unique healing modality called the Shadow Embrace Technique.

I’ve combined my skills, expertise, and passion in emotional freedom techniques, breath-work, cognitive behavioural therapy, neurolinguistic programming or NLP, and shadow work to call home parts of your mind, body, and soul that you abandon on a daily basis.

The SET modality helps you pin point rejected aspects of self and make whole what was previously making you feel fragmented.

I started offering the Shadow Embrace Technique in a one on one capacity for my clients and the transformations were like no other and truly defies description.

But there were two more barriers I wanted to address, as I saw them preventing women from accessing transformative coaching and healing over the years.

The first being affordability, having a coach and/or healer guide you on your healing journey can cost thousands and thousands of dollars making it inaccessible for far too many women that really want to embrace their main character energy and transform their lives from the inside out.

My first experience with a coach several years ago cost me just over $1,000 US a month and I had to commit to an entire year of this group coaching and this is often the lower end in terms of required monetary investment for coaching. I have paid upward of $3000 a month at times too. In fact, I went into debt and struggled financially in order to heal and gain the self development and mentorship I desperately needed.

The next barrier I wanted to address was how isolating it can be when we embark on a healing and self development journey. We often drift apart from the people we were closest to as we heal and evolve because we become so much more aware and conscious not only of ourselves but of the people we surround ourselves with and their wounding and toxicity becomes highlighted, yet they often still avoid facing it, which can make it difficult for us to connect with them the same way. Not to mention they often try to hold us back by putting us down and trying to prevent us from evolving because it makes them uncomfortable. The last thing we need when we’re trying to grow is a group of people trying to suppress us and hold us back.

After taking all of this into consideration, creating a movement to enable women to access healing and coaching was a no brainer and the Divine Activation for High Value Women membership was birthed.

I never want to hear another woman tell me she is stuck in her suffering because she cannot afford the help she needs.

I’m sure it wasn’t obstacle-free, but would you say the journey has been fairly smooth so far?

What odyssey worth journeying, has ever been smooth?

My old selves and regular patterning started repeating themselves when I started this business.

I took an entire year off to regulate my nervous system – which was financially intense and difficult.

I moved my entire family out of our six bedroom, five bathroom home into my Mom’s tiny two bedroom one bathroom home with our four children in tow.

When I began my journey as a coach, I would show up and speak to a crowd of crickets. There were many times I thought maybe this just isn’t for me. I had to shift my perspective to looking at how these things were happening for me and not to me. It built resilience and gave me the ability to look at other women that are struggling to achieve their goals, and say “that doesn’t mean anything, you can do this, the universe is testing you and making sure this is truly what you want”.

I truly believe that most people would have given up after the first few attempts but I held faith and trusted that this burning desire was mine for a reason and that as long as I continued to better myself and learn from my failures I would eventually get there and ultimately manifested the life and business I envisioned from the beginning.

Thanks for sharing that. So, maybe next you can tell us a bit more about your business?

I teach ambitious, sensitive, high achieving women how to finesse their nervous system hygiene practices and love up on every shadow aspect of self they’re neglecting to nurture.

While it’s true that emotional freedom technique, breathwork, energy healing and coaching modalities are integral to my professional practice, I really do believe that at the end of the day…I’m a devoted mother who has spent a lifetime unraveling every uncomfortable truth behind why I was unhappy, and subsequently made it my mission to help other women hold themselves accountable to that practice, too.

While it’s tempting to make the financial success of our business a key marker of you’re ‘making it’ – that’s simply not reflective of any personal or professional success at all.

Who are we when no one is watching? Who do we become when we’re facing every aspect of our dysfunction? What work do we do, to heal ourselves so we don’t harm others? Because the real boss moves are alive behind how we respond, not how we react.

So while I offer all degree of deep dive coaching, healing and self development support – my passion is truly about extracting the highest value potential of the woman standing in front of me, showing her what’s possible on the other side of radical self responsibility, and how light and joyful life gets to be when you extend affection, attention and presence to the messiest parts of who we are.

What quality or characteristic do you feel is most important to your success?

Beyond a shadow of a doubt, I can attribute any and all success I’ve had to my tenacity and resilience. I don’t give up, and I don’t back down – that fight has been the catalyst to both my personal fulfilment and professional career.

Beyond that, looking for the lesson rather than the failure, as well as remaining adamant in the belief that my ideas are mine for a reason, collectively fertilise the space for me to manifest my wildest desires.

I just want to live life on my terms and enjoy the journey regardless of how challenging it might be at any given moment, and I owe that to my children and clients alike – as they strive to making this standard their own personal reality.

Contact Info:

• Website: https://www.cuttingties.coach/queens
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