We were lucky to catch up with Bonnie Surie recently and have shared our conversation below.

Bonnie, thanks for taking the time to share your stories with us today. Let’s start with the story of your mission. What should we know?

It was Easter morning in 2010 when my past, present, and possible future flashed before my eyes. My heart stung as I watched that morning’s events replay on the screen on my stepfather’s tablet. I was beyond disappointed of the woman I had become. I was angry, sad, and completely disconnected from myself, life, and my family. The inner chaos and discomfort of my thoughts consumed me. It was all that I was paying attention to. There was so much about my past that I wanted to change, that I felt should have never happened, that I was angry about, and things I had done that I was ashamed and regretful of.

Four ideas came to mind, and I knew I had a decision to make.

1-I could tell my family I was going to the store and literally run away and try to start life all over again.
2-I could take my life. This wasn’t an uncommon thought.
3-I could wait for things to change.
4-I could change.

I knew I wanted to change, but I didn’t know how. I didn’t know where to start. I didn’t know if it was possible for me. I didn’t know what it looked like. But deep down, I knew change was want I really wanted.

Deciding to change led to rebuilding my relationship with myself and my life. I’m on a mission to help guide others on their journey of life to discovering, becoming, and living as their most authentic and freest Self. I teach how we can communicate with our mind and body in a completely different way that creates radical shifts in our relationship with ourselves and our results. I call this The Freely Me Journey.

As always, we appreciate you sharing your insights and we’ve got a few more questions for you, but before we get to all of that can you take a minute to introduce yourself and give our readers some of your background and context?

I am a recovering runner. Not the kind with neat shoes and a record time to beat. But the type of runner that constantly runs from themselves. I would do anything to escape or avoid the discomfort of being in my own skin and mind. The truth was, I desperately wanted to be happy. I wanted to feel the spark of life that made me want to live.

I did everything I knew how to do to be happy. I did what others told me would make me happy. I heard all the time,” just smile.” So I did. “Don’t complain.” So I didn’t. “If your kids and husband are happy, you’ll be happy.” I did everything I knew how to do to make sure their needs were taken care of, and that they were comfortable and happy. I was once tipping the scale at 300 pounds and thought that if I lost the weight, THEN I would be happy. I released 150 pounds, and that wasn’t the answer either.

After watching that home video, it was clear that I was outrageously unhappy and absolutely uncomfortable in my life.

Rebuilding my relationship with myself was one of the most uncomfortable journeys I have experienced. I had a lot of unlearning and healing to do. But I am so grateful for it because it resulted in Self-liberation and showed me my purpose.

My clients call me a Life Interpreter. Perspective shifts, insights, and intuition are my superpowers! I work with my clients in deep mindset and heartset work- getting the head and heart to work together instead of against each other.

Now day’s, I’m a Self-Relationship Expert and private coach. I’m also a Speaker and hold workshops for teams, retreats, and conferences. I help my clients restore their vitality, peace of mind, and help them discover and fall crazy in love with the most authentic version of themselves.

When you’re in the “yes mode” of your life, committed to knowing yourself more fully and experiencing your authentic Self more expansively, you step into the freest version of yourself. This is why my business is called, The Freely Me Journey. This has been the most rewarding work I’ve ever done. I can’t see myself doing anything else.

Learning and unlearning are both critical parts of growth – can you share a story of a time when you had to unlearn a lesson?

I heard my whole life that if people upset or “triggered” you, that was rude of them, and they were the problem. However, I learned during my journey that people are the greatest tools we have to show us where we still need to heal.

I remember a time when my husband was going to be taking over “mom duties” because I was going out of town. He joined me for the morning drop-off routine. On our way home, he asked questions about time frames, breakfast, and the morning routine.

My husband is a logical guy. His superpower is seeing how things could run more efficiently. So naturally, he asked questions to clarify and see how things might work more smoothly. I started raising my voice and feeling really defensive. He remained calm and asked why I was getting upset. I told him, “I feel like you’re telling me I’m not good enough, that I’m not capable of thinking things through. That I’m not a good mom.” He didn’t say any of the things that I felt he was suggesting.

He triggered beliefs in me that I was afraid were true, and if he saw or knew about them, maybe he wouldn’t trust me, he might not find us compatible, and he might decide to leave me. This experience caused me to see that triggers are a sign that there is an outdated belief that no longer serves you, and it’s being called to the surface for you to heal and let go of.

Are there any books, videos or other content that you feel have meaningfully impacted your thinking?

Raymond Holliwell’s book Working with the Law and The Answer by John Assaraf & Murray Smith. These books gave me an understanding of what Universal Laws are and how to work with them to support my desires becoming a reality. They opened my mind to possibility and to a new way of thinking and living.

Contact Info:

• Website: www.thefreelymejourney.com
• Instagram: @thefreelymejourney
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/bonniesurie.thefreelymejourney
• Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/bsurie/