We were lucky to catch up with Joevan Palmer recently and have shared our conversation below.

Joevan, looking forward to hearing all of your stories today. If you had a defining moment that you feel really changed the trajectory of your career, we’d love to hear the story and details.

The defining moment for me in my professional career was understanding my worth and value. When I understood this and took action on this my life and business began to take off. Having the right people in my corner who can see further than I, see me beyond what I see and intense therapy has allowed me to shift the narrative for who I am and what other individuals see within themselves as well.

Great, appreciate you sharing that with us. Before we ask you to share more of your insights, can you take a moment to introduce yourself and how you got to where you are today to our readers

I am Joevan, known as the Healing Coach. I help individuals who have experienced traumatic life situations perform better in relationships, reestablish trust, and release the suppression. I got into my industry through life experience itself. At 12, I was molested, and it flipped my life upside down. All of the things I mentioned above, I lived. I sucked at platonic and romantic relationships, didn’t trust anyone, and suppressed all of my feelings inside. As I grew older, I knew it was time for a change and that I needed to grow from the person I was to the person I am today. Coaching, therapy, and self-help books it has allowed me to become more self-aware of who I am and the individuals I help today.

Today I offer coaching to individuals who have experienced the same and or similar life experiences as I have and who are ready to make that shift in their lives through my online coaching program. Through my program, you get weekly online sessions with me and other industry professionals, a course curriculum, and a community of like-minded individuals who are looking to grow and make the same shift in their lives.

I am the most proud of the transformation individuals get to see in themselves. Often times when individuals face a traumatic experience in life, such as sexual abuse, they can feel alone and as if things will never change for them. It is self-empowerment and reflection that allows them to see the transformation and the 180 they did from putting in the work and finally putting themselves to the forefront of life.

What’s a lesson you had to unlearn and what’s the backstory?

Unlearning that you aren’t enough is a lesson I had to unlearn. My life experiences taught me that I wasn’t worthy of the life that I live today and that happiness, love, self-expression, and liberation were not possible. Too often, I put myself on the back burner for the sake of others. Learning to put me first and learning to be firm in my no has empowered me to set the appropriate boundaries with myself and others.

It wasn’t until the day I sat in therapy for the first time in my life at 29 years old that I learned my worth and learned that I am enough and the inner works of understanding yourself and understanding that life happens, but it doesn’t have to define how you look at yourself or how you feel about yourself.

Can you share a story from your journey that illustrates your resilience?

12 years old, I was molested and kept that secret to myself for 7 years. Over those years, I grew angry with myself and with others. I was already a shy and reserved kid, but at that moment, when life happened to me, I felt as if it set me back even further. As a child having to keep that secret in it built the resilient one you see and read about today. Often times I felt completely alone and that no one understood me, which led to a lot of self-hate for myself. I never thought I was worthy enough or even if I was seen, but I kept pushing as I knew there was something on the other side of trauma worth fighting for, and that was me. I was worth fighting for to build myself back up and to become a better man for me.

Building resiliency took a lot of work and dedication, but I was determined to pick myself up and begin my journey to wholeness and healing. Often times I recall flashbacks and memories of the day it happened and the days it happened to me, and it would bring me to tears. I often asked myself will I ever get through this and was drawn to the conclusion that I wouldn’t be able to, but then God brings you an angel or two to help you realize that you can get through anything you want to in life, you just have to trust yourself enough to know you have everything you need inside of you to get through this moment in which you feel there is no breaking through. Understand that what you need to get started is already inside of you.

Though I have never been suicidal, there have been moments in life where I wished I had a different life and what life would look like for me if I were born to a different family or born a year earlier or a year later. Having to deal with all of the emotions of depression and anxiety and not knowing what to do with them and how to cope and understand my triggers put lots of pressure on me as a child and as an adult. I always think back to a song by Whitney Houston, “I Didn’t Know My Own Strength,” and how I didn’t know how strong and resilient I was to break through so many life barriers and through the traumas that weighed me down. You never know how strong you are until you push yourself beyond what you know you are capable of.

Contact Info:

• Website: www.joevanjpalmer.com
• Instagram: @JoevanJPalmer and @VulnerableMomentsPod
• Facebook: Joevan J. Palmer
• Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/joevanpalmer/
• Twitter: @JoevanPalmer
• Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVOT89pdIcEV5ovP7PAJyvQ

Image Credits
Brandon Ramsey – @Brandn_Ramsey Rhayna Coon – @RhanyaCPhotography