We caught up with the brilliant and insightful Adency a few weeks ago and have shared our conversation below.

Alright, Adency thanks for taking the time to share your stories and insights with us today. So let’s jump to your mission – what’s the backstory behind how you developed the mission that drives your brand?

Many of us feel called to create positive impact in the world and to share our unique wisdom and gifts. In today’s world, that requires being seen and heard by many eyes and ears. When it comes to following through on the mission in our heart, we often struggle with resistance in consistency, putting ourselves out there, and boldly claiming and sharing our unique purpose.

This resistance can take many forms such as procrastination, imposter syndrome, self-doubt, overthinking, perfectionism, and the urge to give up. What we often miss is that beneath it all, at the core, is often a deep-seated fear of being seen and heard.

For years, I unknowingly hid from sharing my gifts and voice with the world because I was afraid—afraid to be seen in my imperfection, to start messy, and to be vulnerable in the process. Through this journey, I’ve uncovered the key elements of becoming truly comfortable and courageous in being visible so we no longer let these fears hold us back from the impact we know we’re here for.

It breaks my heart to see people not follow through in pursuing their gifts, dreams, and purpose or staying in jobs they hate because they’re fearful to go after the calling inside of them like I did for many years. It’s why I do what I do as a Visibility & Speaking Confidence Coach and Speaker.

When we do this work to embrace being seen and heard with confidence, we are able to truly own who we know we are meant to be and can fully embody who we came here to be and serve.

Adency, before we move on to more of these sorts of questions, can you take some time to bring our readers up to speed on you and what you do?

For many years I worked jobs I dreaded going to and always felt a pull to “something more” but didn’t know what that “something more” was. After years of dreading my jobs, I quit with no plan. This leap of faith catapulted me into a self-discovery journey of finding out what I actually wanted, trying business idea after business idea, and tirelessly YouTubing to figure out how to make things work. I wasn’t sure what I wanted but all I knew is I was never going back to a job I hated ever again, I was craving to feel passionate about the work I did, and I felt called to a greater purpose.

After years of trial and error and deep self-discovery, I started to feel a pull to start to share my journey and personal growth online. I even dreamed of speaking on stages but I hid from this inner pull for years. I told myself I wasn’t “wise enough, “old enough,” or “worthy enough” to be sharing my wisdom and be the one in the spotlight sharing on social media and on stages. But the thing about an inner calling is it doesn’t quit calling until you answer the call!

Even though I was nervous, and didn’t feel “qualified,” step by step I started to show up on social media. I started to share my insights more online and with friends. One day I was having lunch with a friend and had a light bulb moment where I realized I was “coaching” her and had already been coaching other friends around me. I had seen coaches online but it didn’t click that it was something I could pursue until this day. Slowly I started to believe I actually had something valuable to share and that it was important to share it. Immediately I invested in business mentors and figuring out how to make this coaching thing work. I knew I’d found my calling, my purpose.

Once I stepped into the coaching industry it was a whirlwind of learning and quantum leaping internally so I could experience and grow through exactly what I was meant to help others through. I understand the deep challenges that come with stepping into visibility. It’s not easy to believe that what you have to say is worth saying and believe that you are worthy to share it. I get how hard it is to go from hiding and thinking you’re “not qualified enough” to somehow mustering the courage to show up all over social media, in podcasts, on stages, host masterclasses, workshops, etc. It takes a lot of healing and courage to face the fear of being seen and heard and believing you are enough just as you are.

But I also know that we all have a message. We all have something important to say. We all have an inner calling if we allow ourselves to listen. It breaks my heart to see people in this world hiding their gifts, staying in jobs they hate, or giving up on their dreams because their fear keeps them stuck. My mission is to help purpose-driven individuals break through those barriers so they can confidently share their voices and step into the impact they were meant to create.

We can’t be confident and consistent in carrying out our purpose if we don’t do the visibility work. Through my offerings of 1:1 mentorship, group coaching, workshops, masterclasses, and speaking engagements, I spread the knowledge of my proven frameworks that empower people to be seen and heard. For some clients this results in showing up online with confidence and creating authentic content. For some, that means writing a book, starting a coaching program, starting a business, launching a podcast, facilitating workshops and events, or speaking on stage.

While affirmations, meditation, and working on our self-talk can help improve our visibility and speaking confidence, they only scratch the surface. True, fully embodied confidence comes from addressing the deep-rooted fears and limiting beliefs that keep us from expressing our voice and authentic selves which is the work I do.

If you feel called to create positive impact but fear is holding you back, know that your voice matters. Your message is important. You are worthy. The world needs to hear what you have to say in a way that only you can say it.

Can you tell us about a time you’ve had to pivot?

I started riding horses at the age of seven and began training them professionally by the age of twelve. From that young age I was determined this was my path. I dedicated my entire life to the equine industry and even chose to go to a horsemanship training ranch after high school instead of college. My passion for horses took me around the world but after years of dedicating myself to this work and living out my childhood dream, I came to a crossroads in my mid twenties.

I was burned out. Exhausted. The passion was gone. Deep down I knew it was time for a new chapter but the stories in my head kept me stuck. I convinced myself that because horses were all I knew, I wasn’t capable of doing anything else. I told myself I wasn’t smart enough to work in a different job and no one would hire me without a college degree. The fear won for years.

Eventually I reached a breaking point. In 2018, I left the horse industry with no plan. It was one of the hardest, scariest decisions of my life. My entire identity has been tied to this work since the age of 12. Without it, I didn’t know who I was.

But this leap into the unknown led me on a deep self-discovery journey. Fast forward to today, and I’m so grateful I had the courage to follow my gut and start new. It was terrifying at the time, but leaving gave me the opportunity to truly know myself, uncover who I am beyond my work, and discover the purpose I’m called to today.

If you ever feel pulled to leave a job or a path that doesn’t light you up anymore, I highly encourage following this pull. Fear and security can keep us stuck, but staying in something that no longer aligns means missing out on an entire world within ourselves. Taking that leap of faith might feel impossible and too risky, but on the other side is a life that you’re excited to wake up for instead of dreading. We think the most scary choice is to take the leap of faith, but the most scary choice is to stay in the exact same unhappy, unfulfilled place that you are.

What’s a lesson you had to unlearn and what’s the backstory?

One of the biggest lessons I have had to unlearn is the beliefs and programming that I am not worthy and that I need to prove my worth. As children we don’t question our worth but through many years of conditioning, our worth starts to get chipped away at. We often feel the need to prove our worth through the success of our careers, how much money we have, how happy we look on the outside, and through people pleasing, just to name a few ways this affects us.

Through many tough lessons and layers of unlearning and relearning, I realized that when I started my coaching business I had unconsciously been trying to prove my worth by how many clients I had and how much money I was making. I was letting these metrics determine my value and “success.” After hustling, pushing, and never feeling successful enough, it hit me like a ton of bricks when one of my mentors said to be aware of when your goals are a form of compensation. I very quickly realized and went through some healing work that brought the awareness that I did not feel whole just simply as me. I didn’t feel whole and worthy without the identity of my career.

As I did the work to remember how to come back to my worth without it being attached to anything outside of me, I was able to show up in my work more at peace, ease, detached from outcomes, enjoying the journey. I was able to show up more confident and grounded in who I am. It’s a huge piece of what has led to me becoming a Visibility & Speaking Confidence Coach.

Our self-worth is directly tied to how confidently or not confidently we show up when creating content, speaking on stages, when working with clients, when sharing our gifts with the world, and claiming our purpose and what we stand for. With the self-worth work, we stop chasing external validation and can finally come back home to our internal validation. This transfers into a deeper level of authenticity and confidence that we can tap into.

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