Today we’d like to introduce you to Lisa Happ

Hi Lisa, we’re thrilled to have a chance to learn your story today. So, before we get into specifics, maybe you can briefly walk us through how you got to where you are today?

Today my life is amazing, full, happy and abundant. This was not always my life. My story just a few short years ago was much different. I have gone through a life journey I would not wish on anyone, but I have come through difficult journey feeling whole, healed and happy. I have now dedicated my career and my life helping others find their path to healing, wholeness and happiness.

Twelve years ago, I got divorced. Looking back the day I got married I already knew I would get divorced. My partner was manipulative, unmotivated and was overall not a good person. He was self-destructing. I knew as events unfolded, (that I won’t go into here ) that I had to get myself and our two children and out of this marriage and away from this man fast to save us. I knew if I did not leave, he would take both my children and I down his path of destruction with him. Getting divorced and becoming a full-time single mom with full custody of my children was not easy. I was a successful business owner and entrepreneur who was growing and building a business. I was tired, exhausted, lonely and depleted, barely sleeping or eating trying to be both a mom and dad to my children while building a business. At the end of each day my body would shake from exhaustion. I had never been so tried or felt so alone in my life, but I pushed forward because I had no other choice.

During my divorce process a friend who at the time, I would have considered a close friend, began to push himself closer. He was much older than me and came continually tried to “save the day. I now know he was grooming me. Before I knew it we were quickly were in a relationship. The relationship was everything you would expect in a Toxic Relationship with someone with Narcissism tendencies.
Lovebombing, gaslighting, isolation, control and abuse.

As The relationship became more and more abusive, I would try to leave and each time I would somehow get drawn back in.
I was, what I understand now to be trauma bonded to this man, as much as I knew he was a terrible person I felt addicted to him and feared him at the same time. He isolated me, devalued you me and controlled me in every way possible. There were days I could see what was happening, sometimes those days made it even harder to leave because I knew I was smart educated and successful, and I would shame myself for ever getting caught up in a relationship like this. Other days I was so confused I would wonder if it was all in my head and then there were days, I felt bad for him and felt it would hurt him too much if I left. I was on a roller coaster of emotions and had a busy life as a single mom and business owner. I felt like I had jumped into the deep end of a pool and knew there was a way out but could not find my way out because I had forgotten how to swim. This cycle continued for years.

During this time I was hustling with the continued growth of my business and my children getting older and all the busy life things that go along with that, I also during the time completed a Divorce Coaching and Life Coaching Certification. As a former therapist it felt like a natural place for me to use my people helping skills.

Through these certifications and courses I took I learned more and more about toxic relationships and relationship patterns. I knew I needed to leave this relationship no matter how hard and heartbreaking it was. I knew it would be difficult, I knew he would be angry and try to retaliate, so I began to prep and prepare to leave end the relationship. I knew I had to be very careful in how I left because he has threatened me many times when I had tried to leave before.

Then on a Wednesday evening I got the call every parent deep down dreads, but truly never expects. My son Caleb, who was a Senior in High School passed away unexpectedly.
I was devastated, crushed, heartbroken and frozen. The grief this brought into my heart, soul and life pushed me back into this abusive relationship. My daughter and I moved out of our home and in with this man because being in our home without my son was gut wrenching every time we walked in the door and Caleb was not there.

Living with this man , while in deep grief was isolating and terrifying, I became a shell of a who I used to be and lived in fear. Then one day I woke up. I am sure what shook me awake that day? I truly think it was my son from above looking down on me. I knew I had to get out of this relationship. I left that day.

My daughter and I left, moved in with my sister for a short period of time, traveled and then moved to a new state a new community and began to rebuild our lives and heal. During this time I also transitioned my business I had owned for 15 years in a coaching practice to help others through divorce, grief and narcisstic abuse.
I learned everything I could about divorce, abuse, trauma and grief adding a Narcissism Abuse Recovery Coach Certification and Grief Recovery Certification to my education. I knew I needed to take all that I had gone through in my own life and use it to help others. I have now helped hundreds of women divorce and leave toxic relationships.

Today, I have a new home, a new business and new community. I have a new life I am grateful to wake up to everyday.

Would you say it’s been a smooth road, and if not what are some of the biggest challenges you’ve faced along the way?

The road here was not smooth one, There were many bumps, jolts, twists and turns.
I had to build a new business, while relocating and while still helping my daughter and my self heal.

I learned I had to let some friends and people that had been in my life go to release toxic relationships patterns. As a now recovered chronic people pleaser this was very hard to do hard to do at the time. I had to learn to love and value myself and give myself the grace and compassion I gave to everyone around me.

We are all human and all a work in progress, The biggest lessons I have learned along the way are all about self forgivenss, self acceptance.

So yes there are always struggles, but each struggle is a lesson that can help me move forward, and grow in my life

Appreciate you sharing that. What should we know about Lisa Happ Coaching?

Lisa Happ Coaching is a safe, non judgemental space who those struggling can find, compassion, support and healing.
As a coach I walk side by side and arm in arm with clients as they navigate the divorce process, grief and ending toxic relationships.

I have been told by many clients that I am their divorce BFF!

Often when we’re unsure of the next right step, our thoughts spiral and we either freeze because we don’t want to do the wrong thing, or we take the wrong actions just to feel like we’re doing something. Either way, you end up feeling like you’ve been tossed into the deep end but can’t swim. Wes work together to help you find clarity in your situation, peace with your decision-making, and strength to create a new life. We’ll take action

Divorce Coaching
Toxic Relationship Recovery
Narcisstic Abuse Recovery
Grief Recovery

What quality or characteristic do you feel is most important to your success?

I feel my compassion, drive and passion for helping others and spreading love and healing is 100 percent what has led my practice to be so successful and able to offer such amazing results for clients.

Contact Info:

• Website: https://www.lisahapp.com
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisahappcoaching?igsh=Z3k1ZGtxY21sbWsx&utm_source=qr