We were lucky to catch up with Amy J. Hellman recently and have shared our conversation below.

Amy J. , thanks for joining us, excited to have you contributing your stories and insights. Can you share a story about the kindest thing someone has done for you and why it mattered so much or was so meaningful to you?

We all have experiences that shape us. Often, those experiences are traumatic, dramatic, or down right terrifying. They strip away the core of who we identify ourselves to be and force us to question, discard and embody ourselves in new ways, that while they may– and usually are– for the better, in the process of existing in the unbound space of “who am I during this in between space?” feels, pretty uncomfortable.
For six plus years, I have been struggling with my health. Gaslit by doctors, I failed to get a diagnosis for the first three years. When it finally happened, the day I began treatment for love ten bacterial and parasite infections, my now ex-husband had a psychotic break in response to an adverse reaction to an ssri and ended our marriage.
In the years that have followed, I have been forced to handle the dissolution of my life– in every area– while attempting to recover from a chronic and treacherous infection, without the help of traditional allopathic medicine, as the bloodwork I require to merit my getting the medication that would ultimately eradicate the parasite I am still dealing with– will not get approved. All of this is a tough pill to swallow, losing your husband, your farm, your family, your health, and your business, but it has been especially challenging because as a healer, people hold you to an unreasonable standard. They assume that you are God-like, and if you are sick, you must not be a very good healer.
All of this transition occurred during the height of the COVID-19 pandemic, and I felt very disillusioned by the rise of the spiritual drifting in our society, as I saw people– desperate for help and answers- throw money at individuals who claimed to help them and did nothing of the kind. I know, because I was one of those people. The ancillary illnesses that these infections brought on me were numerous and took several years and several tens of thousands of dollars to address. After a while, the stress and the strain of the chronic exhaustion: physical, emotional, and spiritual, isolated me from my peers, my family, my friends. It was easier to be alone than to explain the laundry list of unbelievable things that had transpired in my life and manage people’s uncomfortable silence because they did not know how to respond.

Perhaps one of the kindest things that has ever happened to me was only a handful of weeks ago. I had to recertify my Thetahealing®️ technique license as a certificate of science instructor, every 5 years that is a requirement. Thankfully, I was able to attend a virtual course with the founder of the modality, Vianna Stibal. The course was on diseases and disorders, and for some reason, on the second day of class, I received a private message in the zoom chat box asking me if I would be comfortable being the demonstration for class.

Now, this was not my first rodeo. Vianna has used me in the past as a demo. I am very good at allowing people to work on me. I want to be better. I want to heal. I also want everyone I come in contact with to be better after our connection than they were before. I knew that volunteering to be the person she worked on would offer my classmates an opportunity to access whatever was holding them back from their own healing and evolution, because I have been a teacher for a long time.

What I did not anticipate, though, was that as Vianna and I shared time together over zoom in class, and she asked me about the the past six years of my life, since she and I have last seen each other in person, and I told her about how hard it has been for me, something happened. Her response held space for a recognition of my experience that I had needed for such a long time.

It was very simple, what she said, “That is a lot that you have been through.” There is nothing remarkable about the statement. The statement itself is not kind or unkind. The power behind those words, of being able to share my story with my teacher, my friend and a long-time mentor in front of strangers and old friends and colleagues and have my experience be heard, received, and held, affirmed for me a sense of security and safety that I have never truly experienced so profoundly until a few weeks ago.

Her creating the space for me to share my story and receive it, was a kindness that propelled my body out of a long slumber and engagement with despair. What followed was a week of extreme physical exhaustion as my nervous system finally stopped shouting into the wind for someone to hear to me and see me. My body detoxified intensely, and continues to be engage in a steady conversation of recovery, which I am more able to hear, recognize and honor, because I am no longer inadvertently focused on having someone– anyone– believe my experiences were real.

It was a kindness that reminded me of the power we all have to see one another, and hold space for the gentle experience of our individual healing. It reminded me why I became a teacher and a healer: it was not for glory or recognition, but because the ability to be able to listen to another’s story, and have them feel safe in that container, offers a healing power of compassion and kindness that is miraculous for everyone involved.

Amy J. , before we move on to more of these sorts of questions, can you take some time to bring our readers up to speed on you and what you do?

As an author, healer, and educator, I work with students and clients of all ages world-wide assisting people in accessing themselves in more efficient, kinder, and compassionate ways.

For the past decade and a half, I have been working exclusively to support individuals and groups– of all ages– to work through the inefficient behaviors, thought patterns, and expressions of those patterns that lead to: financial, relational, emotional, and spiritual distress and suffering and disease.

So if you’ve got a problem, and it’s making you suffer, let’s examine the underlying ways in which your nervous system might be preventing you from being aware of the easeful and gentle solutions to more energy, more joy, more wealth, and fulfillment in all areas of your life.

I want to help.

You see, everything we experience in our lives boils down to how our brain processes the information around us, and what we then, in turn, do in reaction or response to that understanding.

My role in your session is to not only be a safe space for you to let your Self speak and embody with ease, BUT ALSO, to assist you in illuminating the areas in your behavior, thinking, and perception, that may be preventing you from the most efficient– and fulfilling– pathway into your life as one that can be sustainably fulfilling for you in more ways that you currently are experiencing.

How do we do this? The pathways and options are infinite, but to boil it down for you, I base the session around a healing technique called ThetaHealing®️. From there, we use, somatic work, embodied meditation, exercises, and action plans of myriad kinds in which you can reintroduce alternative pathways of thinking, perceiving, and enacting in your life.

The goal is to lead to you to feel safer being a happier and more energized and passionately abundant version of you.

Ultimately, I help you figure out how to manifest the life and lifestyle that supports who want to be, not who you SHOULD be.

So if you are ready to run yourself under a microscope of safety and love, to encounter more gratefulness for the life you are leading, in order to let go into the life you want to embody, please reach out. I would love to be your safe space along the way.

I offer one-on-one sessions, packages, workshops and certifications remotely and in person in the Thetahealing technique, somatic healing, integrated healing approaches, thai yoga bodywork, yoga, and more.

Can you tell us about what’s worked well for you in terms of growing your clientele?

Working on myself and beliefs that inhibit my ability to witness and facilitate the healing of my clients has been the best strategy for growing my clientele. If I can show up as a safe and secure container and facilitator for my clients, they respond differently in the sessions, and as a result, they share their success with the world. When they succeed, I succeed.

We often hear about learning lessons – but just as important is unlearning lessons. Have you ever had to unlearn a lesson?

The role of denial and avoidance is a powerful one, because we do not know what we are in denial about until often, it rears its ugly head and rains terror down in our lives.
For me, denial and avoidance has a transgenerational presence, and it has been difficult– to say the least– to weed it out.

Thankfully, the lesson denial and avoidance as taught me is invaluable.
That of gratitude.

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