We were lucky to catch up with Nikki Houseman recently and have shared our conversation below.

Nikki, thanks for taking the time to share your stories with us today Can you share a customer success story with us?

I was introduced to a women in her mid 30s who was single. She had tried it all, dating apps, asking friends to set her up, involved in church, volunteering, and yet was not meeting quality men. She was getting discouraged and frustrated with the dates she had been on, and her desire to be married hadn’t changed. I started working with her and focused on how she viewed herself, encouraged her to give herself more grace, to be open and talk about the things she was struggling with with trusted friends, and inviting God into all aspects of her life including dating. I also helped to her refine the list of qualities she wanted in a partner, but to be open to people outside of that list except for her nonnegotiables. I edited her online dating profile and helped her with a bio for a single’s facebook group.

This is what she said about her experience working with me. “Nikki has an amazing, loving, and disarming presence. I felt like we were long lost friends when we hit it off right out of the gate. It was comforting to have a coach in my corner who knew where I was coming from….being single in your 30s can be lonely at times, but Nikki made me feel at home right away. She is very practical with her suggestions and kept me going even when I wanted to quit . She helped me keep an open mind with online dating, but encouraged me to never settle! Thankful for Nikki’s kind encouraging and fun heart! It’s obvious she truly cares and is always very attentive and present!”

Nikki, love having you share your insights with us. Before we ask you more questions, maybe you can take a moment to introduce yourself to our readers who might have missed our earlier conversations?

I traveled for 11 months to 11 different countries with a group of 43 peers. We partnered with different organizations in the countries we visited to help them with any need. While on this trip, I was asked to be one of 3 leaders for the group I was traveling with. In this role, I would meet one on one with my peers and help them work through challenges they were facing, encourage them, offer them tools and resources, pray with them and offer comfort for the difficult time they may be encountering while abroad. I loved it! I was told I could get paid to do this one day if I became a certified life coach, so I did! I went through training and education and walked away as a certified life coach. I honed in on who my ideal client was by looking at my own life, what I struggled with and how I overcame those struggles.

For a decade I had a deep desire to be married. I wanted a husband to partner in life with. I really struggled with singleness at times as I watched my friends get married and start families. I decided to focus my attention on my relationship with Jesus, and the goals I had for my life. Through this time of singleness, I learned a lot about myself, became healthier physically, emotionally, and spiritually. I focused on what I wanted in life rather than dwelling on the fact I was still single. I eventually got a dating coach and was given more resources and tools to help me in my journey. As a 30 year old, my dad got me a matchmaker since I was still single and not dating anyone (that’s a story for another time).

Through my journey of singleness and eventually meeting my husband and getting married at age 34, I realized I can help other women who are like me. I help single women learn to love themselves and the season they are in. To seize the moment, set goals for themselves, become a healthier version of themselves, all while preparing for a life partner one day. I get it. I’ve been there. I have a personal experience to help my clients and I have a success story of now being married to the most wonderful man perfect for me. I want that for others, but it starts with yourself and I help my clients get there.

How about pivoting – can you share the story of a time you’ve had to pivot?

When I became a life coach I thought I would be working with athletes who had to end their careers due to injury or because their time was up playing in school or professionally. Along with being a life coach, I am a certified athletic trainer. I see many athletes go through career ending injuries I thought I would combine my two skill sets to help them. However, never ended up happening.

After a couple of years, I decided to think about what people were coming to me for. It was mostly advice on transitions such as moving, changing careers, and relationships. I also thought about my life and the challenges I worked through and thought I could help people who were one step behind me.

While I was single I never thought I would one day be a dating coach until after I got married and thought about what I wish I had while I was single. I also thought about my own dating coach and matchmaker and the lessons I learned from working with them (some of them were hard lessons to learn). From there I decided to give dating coaching a try and I’m so glad I did! It has become a passion of mine to help single women feel seen, heard, and cared for during a time that can be difficult. I know because I’ve been there.

We’d love to hear a story of resilience from your journey.

There were many times I wanted to give up life coaching because I wasn’t as successful as I hoped I would be. Starting your own business is not easy and requires perseverance and resilience. During those times I felt the imposter syndrome creep in, I would have a friend or an encounter with someone who would tell me what I was pursuing was so needed. Whether that was working with athletes or single women, these people needed my help, encouragement and expertise. I couldn’t give up on them or my dream of being a business owner.

Since becoming a life coach, I have restarted my business more than once. I would try something and it would fail, but I learn from my mistakes and make it better the next time.

If you are passionate about something, keep pursuing it. Don’t give up on your dream. There are people who need you even if they don’t know it yet.

Contact Info:

• Website: https://nikkihouseman.com
• Instagram: @nikki.houseman
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nikkiromanibiz
• Linkedin: Nikki Houseman
• Soundcloud: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/trueid
• Other: Spotify podcast : True Identity

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Ben Dulay