Alright – so today we’ve got the honor of introducing you to Kia Lee. We think you’ll enjoy our conversation, we’ve shared it below.

Kia, thanks for joining us, excited to have you contributing your stories and insights. We’d love to hear about a project that you’ve worked on that’s meant a lot to you.

The most meaningful project I’ve worked on is undoubtedly my book, “Lighthouse: Surviving Narcissistic Abuse.” This project is deeply personal and stems from my own experiences with narcissistic abuse, which had profound impacts on my life. The journey of recovery and understanding was long and challenging. It involved a lot of personal growth and reflection, which I have sought to share with others through this book.

Writing “Lighthouse” became a way to not only process my experiences but also to reach out to others who might be going through similar situations, providing them with support and guidance. The book aims to educate readers about the signs of narcissistic abuse, the psychological impact it has, and the path to recovery. My goal was to create a resource that would empower victims to navigate their way out of the confusion and isolation caused by such relationships and to promote healing.

The title itself symbolizes guidance and a safe haven, akin to a lighthouse for ships navigating through treacherous waters. This project is meaningful because it turns my painful experiences into a source of strength and help for others, embodying the hope that one can not only survive but also thrive after narcissistic abuse.

This project was launched alongside a dedicated website, www.Kia-Lee.com, where I provide links to podcasts, coaching and support for those affected by similar issues. This platform has allowed me to extend the reach of my message, connecting with a broader audience and fostering a supportive community.

As always, we appreciate you sharing your insights and we’ve got a few more questions for you, but before we get to all of that can you take a minute to introduce yourself and give our readers some of your back background and context?

My journey into writing and advocacy began as a personal quest for healing and understanding after surviving narcissistic abuse. This deeply personal experience revealed a need for resources and support for others facing similar challenges. Recognizing this gap, I was motivated to share my insights and strategies for recovery, which led to the creation of my book, “Lighthouse: Surviving Narcissistic Abuse,” and the accompanying website, www.Kia-Lee.com.

About Me and My Brand:

I am an author, speaker, and advocate dedicated to helping individuals recover from the psychological impacts of abusive relationships, particularly those involving narcissistic abuse. Through my work, I strive to empower victims, providing them with the knowledge and tools to escape their situations and rebuild their lives.

Products and Services:

Book: My key product is my book “Lighthouse: Surviving Narcissistic Abuse,” which offers both personal insights and practical advice for overcoming the challenges posed by narcissistic relationships.

Website: My website serves as a platform for additional resources, including links to podcasts where I share more in depth live, access to booking a 1:1 session with me and guidance on recovery and self-care.

Speaking Engagements: I engage with communities through talks and workshops, focusing on awareness, prevention, and recovery from narcissistic abuse.

What Sets Me Apart:

What distinguishes my work is the blend of personal experience and practical advice. Having lived through the challenges I write about, I offer a unique, empathetic perspective that resonates with those facing similar issues. My approach is not just theoretical; it’s grounded in real-life strategies that have aided my own recovery and that of others.

What I’m Most Proud Of:

I am most proud of the impact my book and advocacy have had on individuals’ lives. Hearing from readers and followers who express how my work has helped them recognize abusive dynamics, leave harmful situations, and begin healing is incredibly rewarding and reinforces the importance of what I do.

Key Messages for Potential Clients/Followers/Fans:

Empowerment Through Knowledge: My work focuses on empowering individuals with the knowledge to identify abuse and the tools to navigate away from it.

Community and Support: I am committed to building a supportive community where survivors can find solace, understanding, and practical advice.

Hope and Resilience: A core message of my brand is that recovery is possible, and there is hope beyond abuse. My aim is to inspire resilience and provide a path to a safer, healthier future.

Through my book, website, and speaking, I strive to be a beacon for those navigating the difficult waters of narcissistic abuse, much like a lighthouse guiding ships to safety. My ultimate goal is to foster understanding, promote healing, and help others find their way back to themselves after such profound disruptions in their lives.

What’s a lesson you had to unlearn and what’s the backstory?

One significant lesson I had to unlearn was the belief that my value was tied to how much I could please others or meet their expectations. This is a subconscious narrative many of us adopt in childhood, often as a result of trying to fit into family dynamics or social expectations that value conformity and pacification over individual needs and emotions.

The backstory to this lesson began with my experiences of narcissistic abuse. In such relationships, the victim often finds themselves constantly trying to appease the abuser to avoid conflict or disapproval. This dynamic reinforced my childhood belief that my worth was conditional upon the happiness and approval of others, leading to a cycle of self-neglect and diminishing self-worth.

The journey to unlearning this harmful belief involved a deep dive into self-awareness and understanding the roots of my behaviors. It required confronting painful truths about my relationships and recognizing the patterns that kept me trapped in cycles of abuse and self-negation. Part of this process was learning to recognize and challenge the internalized voices that told me I wasn’t good enough unless I was serving others’ needs.

Through therapy and a lot of personal reflection, I began to cultivate self-love and recognize my intrinsic value, independent of others’ opinions or needs. This shift wasn’t just about changing a belief but about transforming the way I lived my life, making decisions that prioritized my well-being and happiness.

This lesson is central to my work and my message to others facing similar struggles. In “Lighthouse: Surviving Narcissistic Abuse,” I emphasize the importance of acknowledging and rewriting these subconscious narratives to foster a healthier, self-affirming mindset. It’s about empowering individuals to realize that they are worthy of love and respect, just as they are, and encouraging them to build a life that reflects that belief.

Is there mission driving your creative journey?

The central goal driving my creative journey is to guide others towards their own awakening, helping them navigate out of the darkness of abusive relationships and into the light of self-awareness and empowerment. This mission is deeply embedded in every aspect of my work, from my book “Lighthouse: Surviving Narcissistic Abuse” to the resources and support offered on my website.

The concept of guiding others to the light is not just about recovery from abuse but also about a broader awakening to their own needs, desires, and potential. Many individuals trapped in abusive relationships lose sight of their own identity and worth, overshadowed by the manipulative dynamics of their abuser. My aim is to help these individuals rediscover themselves, reclaim their power, and recognize the patterns that have held them back.

This mission is driven by a desire to illuminate the often hidden and misunderstood dynamics of narcissistic abuse, bringing clarity to those who feel confused and isolated. By sharing my own journey and the practical knowledge I’ve gathered, I strive to offer a roadmap out of the confusion and into a clearer, brighter future.

Each piece of content, every talk, and all the resources I provide are designed to support this journey of awakening. I aim to inspire hope and provide the tools necessary for individuals to break free from their limiting beliefs and circumstances, encouraging them to step into a life filled with self-love, respect, and fulfillment. This mission is not just about healing from past wounds—it’s about opening doors to a new, empowered way of living.

Contact Info:

• Website: https://www.Kia-Lee.com
• Instagram: LighthouseSurvivor
• Other: Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Lighthouse-Kia-Lee/dp/B0CQ6BKPHJ?ref_=ast_author_mpb

Image Credits

Photos and Cover by: Kiersten Oteyza